Wei Zi spoiled with boys.

It is said that women can be spoiled, and spoiled women have the best life. In fact, a spoiled man will, but he will not show it easily. Can you catch that tough guy's coquetry?

What do you think is the core of coquetry? Feminization? Still pretending to be cute?

No!

The core of coquetry is weakness! Clever coquetry is not sweet talk and noisy, but a good sense of proportion in different occasions to reduce the sense of distance between each other through coquetry.

The essence of coquetry is to achieve psychological expectations by showing weakness for something or someone. So coquetry is not exclusive to women.

A man's coquetry is not the strangeness and girlhood in our traditional understanding. Rainbow Xiao Jian in "33 days of lovelorn love" wears lipstick all day, walks with his ass twisted, and occasionally stretches out a blue finger. This is not called coquetry, it is called "sissy", but men like to pretend to be innocent, wronged and proud.

Wang Xiaojian in thirty-three days of lovelorn love.

According to a survey, in 1400 families of different countries, races, educational backgrounds, age characteristics and income levels, there is an interesting phenomenon: men even spoil their wives at home.

Men are also "spoiled", which sounds very fresh, but it is indeed a bridge that often appears in life.

With the development of the times, "coquetry and worship" is no longer the patent of girls, and men can also be very charming, warm, cute and naive.

The more successful a man is, the more spoiled he is! Everything a person does needs self-confidence. A woman's coquetry self-confidence is the love and tolerance of the other party. In addition to each other's love, a man's spoiled capital also has a career. The more successful your career is, the more spoiled you are.

Take Deng Chao as an example. In his Weibo, he often cried because he was neglected by his wife Sun Li. That's not true. On the birthday of his daughter Xiaohua, just because Sun Lifa recalled the life of Weibo's family and missed Deng Chao, Deng Chao, the winner of the film, burst into tears on the spot and jumped on the queen.

Deng shouted.

The example of such a successful person showing off "coquetry" is really eye-catching. It can be seen that the coquetry of the old man is endless.

In fact, many men are serious and meticulous bosses, leaders and supervisors outside, but as soon as they get home, they will immediately take off all their disguises and become easygoing, talkative, wronged and even crying in front of their families, becoming what we call monsters.

Deng Chao, who loves coquetry, is called Deng San.

Because a man will only coquetry in front of a woman who loves him, and the coquetry of a man also proves that he loves this woman. If you coquetry in front of strangers, it is not coquetry, but debauchery. Such a man will not be a good man.

The more successful men understand this, the more they can make people switch their roles at any time in different scenes and make their lives more comfortable.

The reason why men spoil their wives is to enhance their feelings on the one hand, and because of their own needs on the other hand. So why do men "love pets"?

Coquetry satisfies a man's Oedipus complex. Mother plays an unconditional role in caring, nourishing and comforting in our life. We have formed an attachment to her, and she has become the object of our coquetry. So everyone will be attached to his mother, and men will be more attached to their mothers when they are young, and will transfer this attachment to their wives when they grow up.

Justin, as the king of pop, is also the star of Oedipus complex. He even takes his mother as the criterion for choosing a spouse, which is the real reason why he ended his love with Selena and chose to marry Haley.

Bieber often takes photos of himself sleeping in his wife's arms. He also confessed to his wife in various programs more than once, saying that only in front of his wife can he show his fragile side.

After Bieber and Haley got married,

Because only in front of Haley can he really relax and be himself. A man who is mentally attached to his mother like him is actually a little boy who has not grown up. On the one hand, he hopes to have an independent and free space, on the other hand, he needs the care of others.

In the division of gender roles, it happens that the wife has maternal characteristics, so when a man returns home, he exposes his vulnerability to his "psychological mother", that is, his wife, in order to get comfort, which is one of the reasons why men are more likely to coquetry in front of women in private.

From the psychological point of view, Oedipus complex is also called Oedipus complex, which refers to a psychological tendency of people. Most of the feelings of enjoying being with my mother come from an appreciation and admiration for my mother, which is a common social phenomenon.

Whether people admit it or not, it is everywhere in our lives. Because the parents of "Oedipus complex" are not our parents in the physiological sense, but psychological images, and the images of parents are all virtual images preserved in the field of consciousness after processing. This kind of virtual image always combines many advantages, has surreal perfection and sublimity, and is the idealization of realistic individuals.

With the growth of age, children will actively modify these images to meet the psychological and practical needs of different periods. So it is not surprising that many men refer to the image of their mothers when looking for girlfriends.

Playing coquetry can release men's pressure. Because of the different social roles, most men have always played a strong social image, and they also need to bear more psychological pressure.

We have all seen the movie Goodbye Mr. Loser. In the movie, when Charlotte attended a classmate's wedding at the beginning, when she was accused by her wife Ma Dongmei, she chose to pretend not to hear, and then led the topic that her wife accused her of not making progress to another topic, which led her to "go astray".

Charlotte, who talked to Ma Dongmei in Goodbye, Mr. Loser.

The sudden change of topic in these chats is a signal to spoil your wife, because men have been taught since childhood that you are a man, you should be strong and have the ability to shelter your family from the wind and rain.

But men are not made of iron. They are as fragile as women in essence. When life and work give them too many difficulties, they will feel pressure, so they will instinctively choose to escape.

From a psychological point of view, this behavior of changing the subject is to escape the pressure. Psychological stress is the physiological change and emotional fluctuation caused by the change of external environment and internal state of the body.

There are many factors leading to psychological stress, and their sources and nature are different. It may come from society or family; It may be pleasant or unpleasant. In any case, people always have to adopt some attitude to adapt to the pressure. Escape is a way to relax yourself in a short time.

So, when you feel stressed, don't keep the pain in your heart. You should take the initiative to talk to your family and friends and strive for sympathy and help from others. This can reduce frustration, change the depressed state of the heart, relax the body and mind, so as to better face the future and enhance confidence in overcoming setbacks.

A man who never coquetries with you must not love you! Deng Chao dotes on Sun Li, Charlotte often dotes on Ma Dongmei, and Bieber dotes on Haley ... In this way, the reason why a man dotes on you is to treat you as one of his own, trust you and love you, so a happy woman will ask her husband to spoil you.

In the TV series "My First Half Life", Luo Zijun not only didn't understand Chen when he was working, but "bought from buy buy" as always, which undoubtedly added a great burden to Chen's psychology. Chen can't talk to his wife when he is under pressure. Finally, when he found someone to talk to, he decisively chose to cheat, because in his view, Lingling was the one who was suitable for coquetry.

There is always a sense of distance between Luo Zijun and Chen.

The marriage between Luo Zijun and Chen failed because Luo Zijun is not a woman suitable for coquetry, and Chen has always been a gentleman before Luo Zijun. The role of the god of wealth, in the long run, the two roles are clearly divided, and the sense of distance and estrangement will come out.

So a man's coquetry doesn't necessarily mean that he loves you, but if a man never coquetry with you, he may not need you, and you will soon lose this relationship.

Happiness is reflected in the little things in life.

Many women not only don't know how to invite men to flirt, but also ask men, "Do you love me or not?" People who love you will feel upset after asking too many questions, so how do we know that boys like you?

Whether a man loves you or not, the most important thing is to see if he is coquetry. Because men's coquetry is different from women's coquetry, men will only coquetry with the women they trust and rely on most, just as men and mothers are only children.

Entanglement is not exclusive to women, but should be the standard for all those who expect beautiful love. Those men who are eager for happiness, please tell your other half that you love her and depend on her. So, men, please be bold and coquettish.