I have been getting along well with my colleagues for some time, but when I talked to her today, she became impatient and stared, which made her feel very bad. What should I do?

You are in a bad mood just because your colleague is staring at you when you are talking to her. Explain that you usually pay great attention to the evaluation of others and hope that you are a popular person in others' minds.

I used to be like this. Everything others say and do will affect my mood. Sometimes I even chew for a long time and think about what others say. Is what you said appropriate? I'm nervous all day because of what others say and do.

This is actually a sign of self-distrust. Maybe on the surface you are careless and easy to get along with, but in fact you are lonely and feel inferior. You always hope to find confidence through the approval of others.

However, when you give 100% enthusiasm to others, you may not get 50% feedback from others, which makes you less confident and pay more for more returns. Finally, I entered a strange circle and completely lost myself.

Later, I began to adjust my mentality. I don't always find my own problems anymore. I began to ask others in turn: I was so kind to you, but you didn't treat me like I did to you, which shows that you don't know how to be grateful. Why should I care too much about such a person? Since you are not a fellow traveler, ignore it.

When I think like this, I slowly begin to dare to express my views, have my own personality, but win the respect of others.

Of course, the premise is that we should enrich our lives and make ourselves better. Now he has become a fitness expert in the unit. I have been self-disciplined for two years and have been following the live broadcast to keep fit. Many colleagues envy my good figure and admire my self-discipline and persistence. Nothing, just like asking me to teach them some fitness tips.

I have also become very confident and no longer care about what others say and do.

I hope you don't care too much about others' evaluation of yourself, spend your mind and time on improving yourself, find confidence, and believe that your interpersonal relationship will get better and better!