How can I adjust my relationship with my stepfather?

I think you need to see what kind of person your stepfather is, and then adjust your relationship with him according to different situations. You can refer to the following four situations to prescribe the right medicine.

1. If he is reasonable and knows right from wrong, he is very kind to your mother and you, and gets along well with all your relatives, feeling like a family. Then I think you can put him in a very high position, treat him, care about him and accept him. However, what you need to pay attention to is that the stepfather's status must be lower than that of the biological father.

2. If his advantages and disadvantages are obvious, but the advantages obviously far outweigh the disadvantages, most of them may be very reasonable, good for your mother and you, and superficial in getting along with relatives who go to your grandmother's house.

He only drinks occasionally and plays with his temper, but he doesn't make a scene. At this time, you can reason with him, try to accept him or tolerate him to adjust the relationship with your stepfather.

3. If his advantages and disadvantages are very obvious, but the advantages are far less than the disadvantages, sometimes he doesn't even care about your mother and your feelings at all, and there is no obvious need to change your "bad behavior" after your mother or your communication. Sometimes, he makes your mother and you feel disgusted. In this case, you can consider persuading your mother to separate from him for a while and calm down with each other.

Of course, to do all this, you need to respect your mother's decision, but you can also do something you want. For example, you can objectively analyze with your mother to see if this person is necessary to continue.

4. If he doesn't have any advantages, or his shortcomings are so obvious that your mother can't stand it, and he refuses to mend his ways, or even has a domestic violence, you don't have to be polite to him, just consider persuading him to divorce your mother.