The boy's Wei Zi method

After bathing my son on Sunday, he sat naked on the sofa, touched his penis, squeezed and tugged curiously, and soon reacted ... He was very excited at that time, especially when he found out that I had discovered this "miracle", which made him laugh excitedly and say "Mom is getting bigger".

This is the first time that I personally found that my son, who is almost three and a half years old, had his first "sexual" experience. I remember when my daughter was so old, I especially liked to rub on angular chairs or tables. To be honest, I didn't understand my daughter's behavior at that time, so I was indifferent to the past. Fortunately, I have always maintained a positive attitude towards the protection of my daughter's privacy and cleanliness, and I have also been learning and growing from unconsciousness, hindsight and foresight.

I definitely think this is a very normal physiological reaction to my son's performance. I was very calm after reading it. I know that this is the process for children to know their own bodies, and I will not associate children's behavior with dirty and indecent behavior. I think it is everyone's right to enjoy sexual experience, regardless of age. If there is anything I can do, it is to remind him to pay attention to hygiene and privacy and not to hurt himself.

Many parents talk about transsexuality, and parents are anxious when their children come into contact with sexual organs. What should many parents do if their children "masturbate"? Will be on the road of no return. However, parents who think about their children's growth process will understand their children better.

I remember reading a similar article, saying that sex is innate, and from the moment sperm and eggs combine, the child's sex has already happened. Children's sexual sensory nerve is a process of continuous development and perfection, and it is not that children begin to have sexual feelings until adolescence. When the fetus is in the mother's stomach for 4 months, the reproductive system has developed and formed, and there are nerve endings in the clitoris and penis.

The first case in Taiwan Province Province reported that a pregnant mother had a 27-week-old child with genital erection after B-ultrasound.

Not to mention the child after birth. Therefore, it is a very normal physiological phenomenon and a very common normal behavior for children to touch their reproductive organs and bring them a comfortable feeling. We don't have to make a fuss.

When my son was growing up, I always taught him that underwear is a private part, and no one can touch it casually unless mom and dad help clean it or need a doctor to check it. If anyone treats his body in any way that makes him uncomfortable, he must say "no, go away" loudly and tell his parents.

Many parents with boys think that their boys will not suffer, and they don't care too much about sex education, which is very neglected. In fact, this is a particularly ignorant performance. Ignorance is fearless. Many statistics show that boys are more likely to be molested or raped than girls, but such things are more hidden.

Some things, we think, will come naturally as we get older, as if we will cross the bridge when we come to it. Of course, it would be great if children could teach themselves. If parents can help their children, why not?

When a child's genitals are touched, there will be a comfortable physiological reaction. When children experience this comfortable feeling, they will have curiosity and exploration. Sometimes it is children who explore their own bodies. Touch this, touch that, just touch the genitals, causing a reaction.

Children with novelty and fun may repeatedly touch their reproductive organs. Sometimes it is the teasing of adults on children's genitals. Especially the older generation, especially proud of having grandchildren at home, often make some provocative behaviors. The friction between the child and the genitals when changing diapers will also cause the child's feelings. Of course, sometimes it may be obscene, so we must let the child establish a formal concept of sex education and teach him the ability of self-protection.

To tell the truth, recalling the potholes we encountered on the road of growth, we should understand the importance and necessity of sex education for our children's growth.

Since I was about 8 years old, I have been molested and frightened by acquaintances to varying degrees, and it took me many years to face and heal. I didn't dare to tell my mother about it at that time. On the one hand, parents and people around them will convey sexual shame to their children intentionally or unintentionally; On the one hand, I dare not tell my mother that I have no trust relationship with my mother, and I am not sure what she will do when she hears about it; On the other hand, I am weak and ignorant.

Looking back on the past, it is both hurt and wealth for me. If I hadn't experienced these fresh-remembered pains, I probably wouldn't have embarked on the road of self-awakening and growth, and my children would have benefited from my experience, which largely terminated this opportunity to be hurt.

Thank my children for keeping me awake and growing up. Because of love, I am willing to constantly improve and enrich myself. I love my family. May my children enjoy the most beautiful sexual experience in the world with dignity and freedom!