Does everyone really love "post-it" girls in the workplace? Wake up

With regard to the concept of "post-it girl", since the idol drama Destiny Loves You in Taiwan Province Province appeared in public view many years ago, the existence of "post-it girl" is like a post-it note that can be torn off at will, which is convenient for anyone and can be discarded after use. Anyway, when she finishes what she should do, she will disappear wisely. English is usually called "Memo Girl".

Of course, the "close-fitting girl" in the idol drama finally won the affirmation of others and the favor of the male god, but in reality, the close-fitting girl is really buried in daily chores, and can't refuse, can't refuse, and won't refuse, living in sorrow.

If you enjoy the status quo, think you are happy and don't want to change, then this article is not for you. Please continue to post happily, because there is really no distinction between high and low jobs. However, if you still have complaints, want to change the status quo, or don't want to fall into the state of "post-it notes" from the beginning, you can still read this article.

Post-it girls have the following "advantages":

Very kind and hard-working.

Lack of opinion, personality and fear

Refuse to complain

Come at once, go at once.

Imagine a scene like this:

It's almost time to get off work, and it's finally the weekend. Xiao helped his colleagues copy the meeting materials and bind them into volumes. When the leader called, he answered quickly for fear of missing the task. Another colleague said that he might have to work overtime at night, and asked Xiao to help him order a box lunch. Little boy quickly picked up the post-it note and asked everyone what they wanted to eat ... it was hard to get it. The leader said that you also stayed to help work overtime. This is everyone's business. Xiao remembered that he had invited someone to dinner, but he dared not refuse, so he had to send a message to his friend sadly. The friend was speechless and said, "It's you again. Is there no one but you? "

As a "sticky note" for everyone to paste trivial things, Xiao's body is sometimes covered with colorful sticky notes from colleagues; Sometimes both hands are full of items entrusted by colleagues; Sometimes I will run around the office and try my best to deal with my colleagues' trivial matters ... in the words of "post-it girl", I am afraid of rejecting others and offending others. Even if I suffer, I dare not say anything. A person who has no self at all, no personality is my personality.

Pan Shen, working in a private enterprise, broke through the state-owned enterprise and advanced the establishment, and later entered the system. I don't know how many small A's I have met and contacted. In the end, they all became the person who was loved by colleagues, valued by leaders, got the fastest promotion, the highest salary increase and the happiest job? Not exactly. Some just lost themselves in trivial busyness, lost their passion in running around, and lost their happiness in complaining about disappointment.

I do not deny the virtue of selfless dedication, but I think "time" is the fairest capital in the world. Wang Sicong's time is more expensive than that of cleaners, but they have 60 seconds a minute, so you won't get an extra second just because you are the richest man. Everyone's time is equally precious, and no one is qualified to kill anyone's time. If you really have too much time, you'd rather study, keep fit, make friends and improve yourself.

So what if you're a post-it girl? Or I really don't want to fall into such a vicious circle, what should I do? I don't have any lofty suggestions, and I don't want to make suggestions on the premise of hurting others and hurting the collective. My suggestion only represents my personal thoughts and does not harm others and benefit myself.

First of all, you should be clear: dear, you can't change others or the environment. Don't work hard in this area, it will only make you more helpless. What you have to do is to change yourself and improve the status quo.

What if you are already a post-it note?

1, learn to show weakness. Are you really that good? Do everything, or bite the bullet and do it If you can really do anything, it's over. The last thing this society needs is omnipotent people. When someone asks you to do this and that, it's hard to say "I really can't do this", then don't do everything quickly and well, and try to finish the task "very difficult". The occasional "weakness" breaks the impression that you are omnipotent and available at any time.

2. Learn to "act". For those who often "work overtime" for her, you can't refuse directly, so take action. On that occasion, she asked you to help her to work overtime to complete the task assigned by the leader. She worked overtime seriously and she had to work late. Then call her and ask what to do if there is any problem. If she shirks you, she calls the leader and asks "sincerely" how to do this job, and she will find an excuse not to do it. Don't eat this overtime, call for advice at the right time, and don't accidentally reveal the food. Well, we have finished this task. Everyone is in peace and nothing has changed. A few days later, she came to you to "work overtime" (or other colleagues asked you to do the same). You must say with an embarrassed and painful expression, "Last time I worked overtime for xx, I couldn't eat, I was hungry, and now I often feel pain." If I hadn't been calling her for advice from her leaders, I wouldn't have finished the task at that time. " Speak louder at this time, and resolutely refuse no matter what your colleagues ask. After this refusal is successful, your "post-it note" status will magically change. Although persimmons are softer, sweeter and more delicious, they don't have to be "soft persimmons" that everyone likes to pinch.

3. Learn to be "changeable". Constant, always sunny, always kind, it's good. But it is also a normal cycle for women to be emotional, unhappy and angry occasionally. After all, women lose blood for 7 days a month! Find your own cycle, give full play to the advantages of emotional cycle, others will understand the emotional changes in your physiological cycle, and remember to apologize sincerely after every "emotion", you know. But don't use this often. If you appear frequently, you will become a bad-tempered and annoying weirdo.

What should you do if you just enter the workplace and don't want to be a "post-it note"?

1, don't "giggle" often. Although girls who love to laugh will not be too unlucky, others will think you are easy to bully if you keep giggling. Not smirking doesn't mean keeping a straight face. Mysterious smile and dignified smile are all good choices.

2. Don't be friends with colleagues. There are no real friends in the workplace. It is enough to remember this sentence.

3. Determine your own principles and bottom line as soon as possible and let others know in due course. For example, you must never be robbed, drunk, or become a scapegoat. People who have principles will be more lovely, not people who have no personality and are always kind.

4. refuse to be decisive and not consider it. If you really don't want to, just say "no", don't hurt others' faces, don't embarrass yourself, and don't promise before getting off the plane. If you have refused, don't think about the consequences, because you are not as important as you think! Let's call it a day. I'll share the rest next time.

Ps: What should I do if a boy asks me why I only say "post-it girl"? I may say: you are a man, what will happen if you do too much!

Well, I'm sorry, Panshen is a little female chauvinism.