Why do kind words appease anger, and good words are more important than courtesy?

Liu Yong, a great talent in Qing Dynasty, was brilliant and deeply loved by Emperor Qianlong. Therefore, Liu Yong speaks freely in front of Gan Long and often spits out "wild words".

On one occasion, Emperor Qianlong suddenly came to the military department with several followers. At this point, Liu Yong is working in the military department with bare arms. Others saw the emperor coming from a distance and quickly got up to meet him and pick him up. Liuyong is highly myopic. At first, he didn't see Gan Long walking behind. When he understands what happened, Gan Long will arrive soon. Liuyong thought, wouldn't it offend the dragon's face to take the bus with bare arms? Just a don, Lu Yong while others don't pay attention to drill under the table to hide.

All this has long been seen, and my heart is full of jokes, and I want to "whole" Liu Yong.

Qianlong sat down in the chair and motioned for others not to make any noise. It's been a long time, and liuyong won't stay under the table for long. It was just summer, and the thick tablecloth made him sweat. Liuyong wondered: Why didn't anything happen after coming in? It's been so long. Time to go, isn't it? Liuyong lowered his voice and shouted, "Hello, is anyone there?" Is the old man gone? "

Everyone in the room heard it, and everyone couldn't help but want to have fun. When Liu Yong called "old man", he thought it would be fun at once.

Gan Long also listened to the truth, with a straight face, and shouted sharply: "Liu Yong, come out."

When Lu Yong heard Gan Long's voice, he thought, it's over, it's over, it's over this time, so he had to get out from under the table to see the driver.

When Qianlong saw Liu Yong naked, sweating and panicked, he was amused: Liu Yong was called a genius of the Qing Dynasty, but he was like this. Ganlong pretended to be angry and shouted, "Brave Liu Yong, you didn't see the coachman just now. How dare you call me' old man'? What do you mean? If you don't make it clear today, I'll kill your head! "

In this case, Lu Yong has calmed down a lot, wiping his sweat and puzzling over countermeasures. Suddenly, he had an idea and said slowly, "Long live the grandfather, please calm down. Just now, my slave called you' old man' out of respect for your old man. "

Gan Long was even angrier: "Respect? Well, tell me how to respect it. "

"Say the word' old' first. People all over the world shouted long live the emperor, long live, long live. Do you think this is' old'? "

Gan Long said nothing but nodded.

"Besides, thousands of people in the family, only one person has the final say. Now the emperor is the head of the Qing Dynasty, the head of all the people in the world, and the leader is also the head, so I call you the head. "

Ganlong squinted and smiled, very satisfied.

"As for this' child', the meaning is even more obvious. Your majesty, you are the son of heaven, but you are the purple star. Zixing is also the son of heaven, so I call you' son'. That's why I call your old man' old man'. "

Gan Long clapped his hands and laughed: "What an old man, Liu Yong, you are a genius."

In communication situations, people will inevitably make a slip of the tongue or make a fool of themselves. No one wants to say or do anything wrong, but these are inevitable. Everyone is a saint, to err is human. What should I do at this time?

You should be inspired by Liu Yong, that is, don't talk about things and follow a train of thought to the end. We should adjust our thinking, find another way from another angle, which can not only make up for ourselves, but also add a little elegance to our words and deeds. This depends on your adaptability, which is usually cultivated. Therefore, we should learn to analyze problems from multiple angles, draw inferences from others, prove our own views and justify ourselves, so there is nothing wrong with making mistakes.

The key is that this "mistake" must not be admitted, and it can be justified. If it is wrong, it is right. If it is wrong, it will be wrong. Find another way. This is one of the best statements.