I feel guilty when I'm done. What should I do?

This is the psychological burden caused by social concepts.

First, there are two opposing views on "the behavior of obtaining sexual pleasure through self-rubbing genitals"

1, more evil than good. Use the word "masturbation" to derogate from it. Many Taoists, ethicists, psychologists and medical scientists in China hold this view.

2. It has a certain positive effect and is called "masturbation". After the reform and opening up, many scholars and teachers hold this view.

Second, teenagers who don't have this habit certainly don't have to pay attention to this argument, but teenagers who have this habit should treat these views dialectically.

1, don't have unnecessary psychological burden;

2. It should be noted that this behavior is too frequent, which is not conducive to physical and mental health;

3. Meet sexual physiological and psychological needs through normal sexual relations after adulthood;

4. Focus on your study and work.

Extended reading:

The new technology invented by human beings can not only make people's lives better, but also bring disasters to some people. On the internet, reasonably releasing green (beneficial) information is conducive to the healthy growth of the majority of teenagers; The increasing proliferation of pornographic (harmful) information has pushed many teenagers into the abyss of sexual crimes. If teenagers can't treat sexual problems scientifically and can't tell what is true, good and beautiful and what is false, evil and ugly, they may ruin their beautiful life.

1, aboveboard, be an upright person.

Normal babies have obvious sexual characteristics at birth, normal children have vague curiosity about gender differences, normal boys and girls will appreciate the strong and handsome opposite sex, and sooner or later they will find a close partner. It is reasonable for teenagers to read and watch sex-related words and pictures online.

Why do you want to add the word "certain" before "rationality" as an attribute? It is to emphasize two points: first, we must have a healthy attitude. The Internet pursues scientific knowledge, not sensory stimulation. The second is to pay attention to time, place and interpersonal relationship. At home, children can view this kind of information whether their parents are in front of the computer or not; In high school or university dormitory, students don't have to secretly check this kind of information. However, it is not appropriate to view this kind of information in internet cafes, multimedia classrooms in schools (except physical health and sex education classes) or offices of units.

2, to clear the true and false, improve the level of understanding.

At present, on the Internet, domestic sex websites emerge one after another, and the sex information disseminated by major portals is overwhelming, and there are countless foreign sex websites. But it is not easy to find scientific sexual knowledge. For example, a domestic search engine website listed a sex website completely unsuitable for teenagers under the column of "sex education for teenagers", and some of its articles were misleading to adults above 18. Some sex websites flaunt that they belong to "China Sex Education Base", but they display a lot of wrong or harmful sex information to teenagers' physical and mental health.

People's knowledge has preconceived rules, and choosing one or two better sex websites is conducive to acquiring scientific knowledge. We should also look at the pictures and words provided by better websites with dialectical eyes.

For example, some medical experts believe that masturbation is harmful to teenagers; Some experts believe that masturbation has certain positive significance, and use the word "masturbation" instead of "masturbation". Teenagers who don't have this habit certainly don't have to pay attention to this argument, but teenagers who have this habit should treat these views dialectically: one is not to have too much psychological burden, and the other is to concentrate on their studies and work.

3. Distinguish beauty from ugliness and enhance aesthetic ability.

Beauty is closely related to health. The basic meaning of health is that the body and mind are in a normal state. Unfortunately, parents and teachers rarely tell their children and students directly what is normal sexual behavior. It seems that such things can be taught without a teacher. However, the main source of human tragedies related to sex lies in the lack of scientific sex education. Children entering adolescence should know these basic sexual knowledge, understand the sincere love between the two sexes, and have a harmonious sex life after marriage, so that both men and women can enjoy the beauty.

Ugliness and morbidity go hand in hand. Human sexual behavior is restricted by law and morality, and sexual behavior that violates law and morality is ugly, including extramarital affairs and promiscuity (one woman versus many men or one man versus many women, etc.) displayed on some websites. ). improper sexual behavior is the main way to infect sexually transmitted diseases. Sexually transmitted diseases have brought great pain to patients and their families. At the same time, it must be noted that sexually transmitted diseases can also be transmitted through non-sexual behavior. For example, damaging the skin during blood transfusion or haircut may cause viruses or bacteria to invade the body. Browsing these pictures moderately and reading the knowledge of disease prevention will help teenagers get rid of ugly sexual behavior and enhance their health awareness.

4. Distinguish between good and evil and take moral responsibility.

There are many ugly and pathological phenomena in the world, and an important source is that some people maliciously spread unhealthy things. Some websites sell "aphrodisiacs" to condone young people's illegal possession of the opposite sex; Some websites are full of articles about "love affairs" and "picking up girls skills", inciting teenagers to have sex prematurely and rashly.

Human sex education is not only the education of sexual physiology and psychology, but also the education of sexual morality and laws related to sex (marriage law, law on the protection of minors, etc.). ).

It is normal for human beings to fall in love and get married at a certain age, but this normal phenomenon needs scientific guidance, moral norms and legal constraints. There are very few teenagers who commit crimes on sexual issues, but it is not uncommon for teenagers with moral decline. He (she) has not only caused harm to the other party, but also brought regret to himself and troubles to his parents.

Teenagers in their prime should abide by the law and bear moral responsibility. Love and marriage should pay attention to at least three points: first, don't say "I love you" to your classmates easily. First of all, you need an appropriate age. High school students should not fall in love. Many universities also advise juniors not to fall in love. Besides, we need the right people. There are no perfect people in the world. To love someone is to tolerate the unchangeable aspects. Second, don't make out with your lover too early. "Stealing forbidden fruit" often feels bitter, and "the melon is ripe" can enjoy the fun of life. The third is loyalty to your spouse. Cherish the beautiful years as beautiful as flowers and jade, and join hands with the ups and downs of life to enjoy the sunset red.

5. Enough is enough and pursue lofty cause.

At present, the sexual information on websites at home and abroad is confusing, and teenagers have to rely on their own self-control. First of all, don't browse pornographic websites, which use a small number of free photos as bait to make people pay for their audio-visual products that promote pornography and violence. In addition, it should be noted that some websites sell sex toys, including inflatable mannequins, plastic models of human sex organs and so on. Most adults don't need such items in their lives, and teenagers should not enter such websites. Moreover, it should not take too long to enter a good sex education website. Some sexual knowledge is needed at an appropriate age, and exposure to a large amount of sexual information is not conducive to the physical and mental health of teenagers.

Not falling in love before marriage and not having sex after marriage are not the most important things in life. The real meaning of life lies in creating and contributing material or spiritual wealth to society, so as to realize one's own life value. Youth is beautiful, but true youth belongs to those who work hard and make progress.

References:

Gao Jinhua. On the right and wrong of network knowledge [N]. Health News, 2002-08-20(7)

Gao Jinhua. Help teenagers correctly understand online sexual information [J]. China Health Education, 2004 (4): 37 1-372. (Editor: Liu)