Grandma Wei Zi takes care of the baby

In today's society, the pressure of life is great and the cost of education is increasing. More and more children are taken care of by the elderly, because both parents have to go out to make money, and it is difficult for a person to support the family's income.

When old people take care of babies, grandparents used to take care of children. Nowadays, many young parents are only children, so more and more grandparents have become the main force to take care of their babies. After all, this is the only child in the family, no matter what the old people there like.

In rural areas, it is common for grandparents to take care of their children because they all live together; In the city, many grandparents take care of their children in the community, because some are worried about the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and some live far away.

I once saw a topic on the Internet and said, "Who brought your children?" More than half of the people chose grandma, followed by their parents and grandma.

It can be seen that the "main force" with children has gradually moved closer to grandparents from the original grandparents. The reasons for this situation are also varied. Generally speaking, grandparents in rural towns are more common, and grandparents in urban communities will take care of their children better.

Many old people like to ask their children a question. Do you think "grandparents are close or grandparents are close?" I hope that I will rank first in the children's hearts, be loved by children, and be loved by children.

A group of surveys abroad have shown that children communicate more frequently with their grandmothers, have a higher degree of love, and communicate less with their grandfathers, especially grandmothers who spend more time, materials and companionship.

So everyone thinks that this ranking is that grandparents rank first, and grandparents rank behind, but statistically speaking, the more accurate ranking is: grandma first, grandma second, grandpa third and grandpa fourth.

Of course, this data is only a rough data and cannot represent every family. After all, the situation of each family is different, and the time spent with children is different.

We can find that more and more young mothers choose to ask grandparents to help with their children, and I believe everyone can guess some of the reasons.

First, the advantages of grandparents with children.

There is an obvious advantage for grandparents to take care of their children, which is to avoid the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Because of living habits and personality reasons, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, coupled with the conflict of parenting concepts, many treasure mothers are reluctant to ask their mother-in-law for help.

Grandma has an advantage in this respect. My daughter was brought up by herself, and she is familiar with her personality and living habits. Therefore, there will not be much difference in the way of educating children, including living habits.

In addition, many grandmothers also care about their daughters when they help with their children. When educating children, mothers' opinions are also given priority, and there are few conflicts because of parenting concepts.

Second, the disadvantages of grandparents taking care of their children.

Because she is her own daughter, when grandma takes care of the baby, she must put in a good word for the child's mother, who has a very high position in the child's mind. The corresponding father's influence in the family is relatively low, and his sense of existence is also relatively low. Because of incomplete understanding, the number of times children hear their father from their grandmother is much lower than that of their mother.

Besides, when a mother-in-law lives with her son-in-law, there will be some estrangement, which is more or less unnatural, but the same problem is also reflected in her mother-in-law.

Many people think that grandparents should take care of their children. After all, Ma Bao is married, so it's an attitude to help take care of the baby. They are also their grandchildren and have the obligation to help take care of the baby.

Most grandparents still love children very much. After all, "every generation of relatives" are willing to pay for taking care of their children, but it is easy for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to quarrel because of their children's problems.

For example, during confinement, the mother-in-law loves her children more than her daughter-in-law, and dotes on them too much when educating them, which undermines the normal education of parents. These problems are hard to avoid, coupled with the lack of communication between them, they all have grievances. Over time, natural problems will become more and more.

In fact, the important task of children's growth is more on their parents. The help of the old man can only help part of it. It is ok to take care of children's daily life when they are young, but it is not easy for the elderly to intervene in education after they are older. Parents should not leave everything to the elderly, they must take responsibility.

As for the grandparents who help with the baby, we should also consider the practical reasons. Who has the time, who has the energy, and who is close, all these factors are combined to decide who can help. As for who the child is close to, there is no need to ask the child this question. It must be who brings more children, who is good to children, who is willing to accompany children, and who is close to children!

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