Engagement customs everywhere

Chaoshan area: The wedding process in Chaoshan area is generally: proposal, engagement, hiring, invitation and wedding, commonly known as "six rites". Engagement is also called engagement, engagement and eating goods. The man prepares gifts (usually a pair of gold earrings or a gold ring, as well as cakes, candy and so on). ), and he is engaged at the woman's house, and the woman will definitely return the gift. When engaged, the man will go to the woman's house to "eat", usually eating sweet eggs or sweet noodles. Both men and women should send cakes and sweet noodle soup to relatives, friends and neighbors to report good news.

Hakka area: engagement is also called "tying", that is, formally confirming the marriage relationship again. Young men and their parents are going to the woman's house to deliver pig's head, fish and meat. , as well as the woman's parents, brothers and sisters, uncles and grandparents will appear. After lunch, girls will come out to meet and call each other "parents" and "parents-in-law" and "mother". After the marriage is settled, the man should ask the fortune teller to choose the date of going home, including the date and time when the bride goes out and the time of going home. In addition, the date when the woman cuts the red skirt and the man makes the bed should also be chosen at the same time.

Engagement in Guangzhou is called a "big gift", which is usually held one month to two weeks after registration and before the wedding. The man chooses a good day and brings gifts and various gifts to the woman's house. The woman's family does not accept all the bride price of the man's family, and the items belonging to the man's family need to be returned. After the "big gift", men and women began to send invitations, and the woman's family would send the gifts and invitations from the man's family together.

"Gift" items include: gift cake, coconut, three kinds of animals, fruits, four kinds of seafood, two pairs of dragon and phoenix candles, two pairs of couplets and so on. The items in the bride price imply auspiciousness, but the quantity must be in pairs, not in singular. After receiving the bride price, the woman's family should send the dowry to the man's family the day before the wedding at the latest (but some people get married on the same day).

The engagement custom in the south.

Eat jiaozi:

One of the most common customs is to eat glutinous rice balls. Before getting married, the groom should have a few bites of glutinous rice balls with his parents, brothers and girlfriends, indicating that he wants to leave them. Generally, his mother pays attention to feeding glutinous rice balls to his daughter. At this time, the bride should be moved to tears.

Pleasant:

After meeting the bride's family, the groom will bring the prepared bouquet to the room for the bride to get married. At this time, the bride's sisters will deliberately stop the groom and put forward many conditions that the groom can't talk about. The most common way is to give the sisters with red envelopes as gifts.

Go out:

The bride should be escorted on the limousine by a female elder with a bamboo plaque or a black umbrella, because the bride can't see the sunshine overhead, and the other party also hopes to live a happy life like this female elder.

Gift cart:

Specially used for floats with big gifts. Bamboo plaque can be placed on the back cover of the gift car or on the special car for delivering gifts.

Worship fan:

Before the bride got on the limousine, an auspicious little boy held a fan (put it on a tea tray) for the bride, and the bride returned a red envelope to express her gratitude.

Never say goodbye:

Everyone can't say goodbye to the woman's family when they leave her home.

Throw a fan:

After the car starts, the bride will throw the fan out of the window to show that she will not bring her bad temper to her husband's house. The little boy will pick up a fan and give it to her family. They will give her a red envelope to thank her.

Set off firecrackers:

Set off firecrackers when the car leaves the woman's house.

Touch an orange:

When the limousine arrived at the man's house, a child with two oranges greeted the couple. The bride should gently touch the orange and then thank the red envelope.

Leading the bride:

When the bride gets off the bus, a lucky elder of the man will hold a bamboo plaque on her head and help her into the hall.

Avoid stepping on the threshold:

Is to cross the threshold. Because the older generation said that it is not good to step on the threshold!

On the brazier, step on the tiles:

When the bride enters the hall, she must step over the brazier and crush the tiles.

Into the bridal chamber:

The couple took the groom's trousers and sat on the bench together in advance, saying that they both wanted to have a boy in the future. No man is allowed into the bridal chamber.

Korean engagement custom

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Before marriage, the groom should give the bride a dowry. Traditionally, the groom should send the bride price to the bride's house the night before the wedding, and the groom should wear a dress and paint his face black with dried cuttlefish juice. The groom's friends carried boxes full of betrothal gifts and sang hymns as they walked. The bride's family will run out to meet the gift-giving team, invite them to dinner and give them red envelopes.

wedding dress

On the wedding day, the bride wore bright traditional Korean costumes and a black hat decorated with jewels. The bride is wearing white socks and embroidered shoes. The bride's makeup is very simple. She wants to draw three red circles the size of nickels on her face (traditionally, she sticks red paper on her face) because Koreans believe that red paper can ward off evil spirits. The groom should also wear traditional Korean clothes, made of dark green satin and embroidered with golden silk thread, which represents good luck. The groom is still wearing a black silk official hat.

Important props at the wedding-white goose and gourd

At the traditional Korean wedding, the groom will give his mother-in-law a live white goose, because the white goose has only one spouse in her life, which is a symbol of loyalty. Therefore, the groom gave the goose as a gift to his mother-in-law to show that he would be loyal to her daughter for life. But in modern weddings, people have replaced a live goose with a wooden goose. The wedding venue was surrounded by a piece of cloth with peony pattern, and people gathered around the table to hold the wedding. The climax of the wedding is to share a Korean liquor (jung jong). According to tradition, wine should be poured into two scoops cut by a gourd, which should be planted by the bride's mother. Then the bride and groom sip white wine from the ladle respectively.