Sushi Wei Zi Road

Our life is always walking, and we are always separated from time. Even if we miss it desperately and are anxious to regret it, it is still a little late.

Walking is the work of movie master and Hirokazu Koreeda. It is the original work of the classic representative film "Go on".

On the road of life, there is always a little too late.

The story happened in late summer. Wei Zihua in the yard is blooming brightly, and the yellow butterfly on the hillside is dancing. Many people in Hengshan returned to their hometown by the sea in southern Hunan with their wives and children. Only attend the annual reunion on the anniversary of Pingping's brother's death.

Between cool wheat tea, red watermelon, fried corn tempura cooked by my mother, take-away sushi and eel rice, I spent a seemingly ordinary but turbulent day lazily.

The story is about a 47-year-old middle-aged man looking back on what happened on this day. It was seven years later when I wrote this story. Both parents in the story have passed away. The author hopes to go back to that day with himself now and make up for what he didn't do or say at that time.

The tree wants to keep quiet, but the wind will not stop; My son wants to serve his parents when they are old, but they are gone. Those missed company, those warmth that can't be sent too late, can only be eternal regret.

About family, about growth, the author's words are delicate and calm.

I came across this book. The protagonist in the book is about his own age. The story in the book is very similar to his own experience in recent years, and he has more feelings after reading it. Let's share our views with you through this book.

1 Are parents really biased towards families with many children?

My answer is yes. Although many parents don't want to admit that they are biased, from another perspective, there are always some children that parents especially like.

Just like the big brother in the book, the book says, "I just don't know when my father's expectant eyes always skip me and look at my big brother."

There is also a passage in A Dream of Red Mansions, in which Jia She tells a story, alluding to Jia Mu's partiality.

Unlike previous one-child families, many families now have two or more children. Many parents' initial intention is to let their children have a companion in the process of growing up, but this problem before parents is also very arduous and deserves our deep consideration.

2 The lack of childhood love, do you really need to spend a lifetime to heal it?

"I'm surprised that although I'm over forty, I haven't got out of that shadow yet, and I still have some negative emotions on my body."

This is the shadow of childhood. Out of admiration for his father, boys hope to be like his father when they grow up, and regard his father's career as their ideal.

However, after this ideal was ignored by my father, I suddenly felt ridiculous, ashamed of having this idea, and then disappointed and disgusted with my father.

As a child who is not loved by his parents, he will feel that he lacks the care of his parents because of the comparison between his brothers and sisters. When I grow up, I want to escape from this home.

How should adult children face their elderly but imperfect parents?

No matter how strong your parents are, they will grow old one day. How should they get along with their parents and children who have been hurt by their parents?

Parents are here, and life is still there. If you compare a person's life to a marathon, no matter how old you are, you haven't reached the turning point yet.

We should cherish the driving force of this road. This motivation comes from parents. With this, we have no reason not to let go of what has happened.

I have read less than half of this book, and it almost breaks my heart to see the protagonist unable to open his heart to his elderly parents.

In him, I also saw my own shadow. I always think that the telephone can replace companionship, parents can take care of themselves, parents don't need their own companionship, and parents will always be there waiting for us.

If we still have parents to accompany us, I recommend reading this book, which may make us make some changes in our later life and have less regrets.