Why do we get hurt in love?

Each of us is eager to be loved, and many people, once in intimate relationship, will hurt those who love them and eventually leave in disappointment. A long time ago, a hedgehog fell in love with another hedgehog. They nest together for food. It seems that everything is perfect, but only they understand that there is an insurmountable gap between them, that is, whenever they want to hug each other, their thorns will always pierce each other's bodies and make each other black and blue.

Hedgehog fell in love with a little mouse. When the hedgehog tried to kiss the mouse, the thorn on the mountain stung the mouse with blood. One day, the little mouse finally couldn't stand it. He ran away. Hedgehogs are in pain. He hates his thorns. So the hedgehog endured the severe pain and pulled out all the thorns one by one. Looking at her scarred but very soft body, Wei Zi felt very happy. Looking for love again, the hedgehog without thorns becomes unattractive. It is neither a mouse nor a hedgehog, and it becomes neither fish nor fowl. At this moment, he met the next hedgehog. He was conquered by the hedgehog's angularity and personality, and worshipped and fascinated without principle.

The hedgehog who lost its thorn decided to fall in love with this unique taste. Whenever he gets close to the other person, the other person's thorn will plunge into his old wound, making him bleed and lose the taste of eating. I thought that love should be like this. It must be giving, not taking. So the hedgehog endured the severe pain and still insisted on his love. After a long time, the hedgehog couldn't remember how much blood he had lost. He only felt that the hedgehog covered with thorns was becoming more and more fierce, so he decided to go back to his nest to recuperate, and the love of masturbation ended like this.

In love, we are sometimes like this hedgehog. All intimate relationships need to accept the opposition of the same person. There must be hate in love. Why are there thorns? That's because we're not safe enough inside. Then how can we put away the nature of the body and coordinate the proper distance between love and independence? Then you need to practice both inside and outside, solve your psychological deficiency from the inside, establish your sense of security, find a man with enough love ability from the outside, and repair your inner hurt plot through external love. Otherwise, you will only continue to repeat the past pattern and endure the pain in your feelings again and again. You got it?