"We are engaged, how can we mention the bride price again?" What should the man do if the woman's house starts from the ground?

0 1. After the engagement, try to save money for the bride price.

Xiaoqing (pseudonym), the fiancee of reader Liu Zhe (pseudonym), is such a girl.

In the eyes of others, Xiaoqing is obedient and sensible, and is a good object suitable for cohabitation; In fact, she is weak and indecisive, and her life is completely controlled by her parents.

Liu Zhe is a migrant worker, his hometown is in the countryside, and he got engaged to Xiaoqing last year. At that time, Xiaoqing's parents proposed a house, a car and a bride price of 654.38+0.8 million.

Liu Zhe's parents have already paid a down payment for a suite in the county, and the remaining money is enough to buy a car, but with the bride price of 6,543,800+8,000, it is somewhat difficult.

So parents proposed to reduce the bride price. After all, it is the central rural area, and everyone's economic level is similar. It's really stressful to take out so much money at once.

However, the woman's family insisted on a bride price of 6.5438+0.8 million. Later, with the help of the matchmaker, Liu Zhe and Xiaoqing got engaged first.

When engaged, Liu Zhe gave her a red envelope of 1000 1 and a gold necklace. As for getting married, just wait for Liu Zhe's family to try to save money for another year, and get married when they have saved enough.

In fact, a bride price of 1.8 million yuan, a house and a car are already very high wedding standards in the local area. The reason why Liu Zhejia is willing to empty his family is because Xiaoqing is not only beautiful, but also virtuous.

02. The car discount is 6,543,800 yuan, and it is not bad to give a bride price of 280,000 yuan.

As the saying goes, if you marry a wise man, a good woman will prosper for three generations.

Xiaoqing is undoubtedly a model of a good woman. After graduating from junior high school, she worked in a local factory, and most of her monthly income was given to her parents to subsidize her family.

She usually comes home from work, washes clothes and cooks. Moreover, during the holiday, she won't go to the county like other girls, and she doesn't have a boyfriend, and her dress is also very simple.

Liu Zhe and Xiaoqing met on a blind date and liked her very much.

Xiaoqing can work with him in the provincial capital in order to get married. He specially spent more than 4000 yuan to configure a computer, and also prepared a USB flash drive, which contains a lot of tutorial materials.

Liu Zhe originally wanted Xiaoqing to learn more computer knowledge when she was free at home, so that she could find more relaxed jobs such as clerks and artists in the future, which was easier than her in the factory assembly line.

Who knows, not long after the computer came back, she gave it to her brother to play games.

Xiaoqing also has a younger brother who goes to college. He was loved by his parents since he was a child. What is good at home is basically left to him.

After the engagement, Xiaoqing's parents built a new house at home. It is said that they will build a three-story building for Xiaoqing's younger brother to get married in the future.

Half a year later, Liu Zhe and his parents successfully saved some money and borrowed 654.38 million yuan from relatives and friends, ready to marry Xiaoqing and go home.

However, when Liu Zhe asked Xiaoqing to go to see the car together, Xiaoqing faltered and said, "My dad means it's useless not to buy a car yet. He said that he would directly discount 654.38 million yuan as a bride price ... "

03. We are engaged, how can we mention the bride price again?

Liu Zhe and his parents were stunned.

Liu Zhe took a fancy to a car and paid a down payment of more than 30,000 yuan. Now Xiaoqing's family wants a bride price of 280 thousand, not a car, which means there is not enough money

My parents were helpless and went to the matchmaker to discuss the argument. The other party insisted on 280,000 yuan.

Moreover, they also said that if the bride price money is not returned for the time being, it will be kept in the hands of parents for five years. If the young couple don't break up after five years, the 280,000 bride price will be returned intact.

Liu Zhe's parents were so angry and anxious when they heard such a response that the old couple quarreled without saying a word.

Liu Zhe went home full of joy to buy a car and get married, but now she was quarreled at home by Xiaoqing's parents, and she was also full of anger.

He called Xiaoqing and asked, "We are engaged. How can we raise the bride price again? What do your parents mean? What do you think is the most important thing? "

Xiaoqing said, "I don't know, but my father won't hurt me." He must have done it for my own good. I listen to him. "

Liu Zhe held back his anger and patiently explained: "Your parents' behavior is to sit on the ground and start with a price, and there is no integrity at all, which directly affects our marriage. Please help convince them. "

Xiaoqing said she had no choice but to listen to her parents' arrangement.

Liu Zhe was completely angry and said, "Of course you don't care if the knife didn't cut you. In that case, let's break off the engagement. I won't keep you. You can slowly pick the rich at home. "

In this way, the marriage between the two was completely cold.

04. The starting price of a woman's house brings retribution.

His parents knew his stubbornness and gave up after several persuasion. During this period, the matchmaker came many times, but because Liu Zhe ignored him, he gradually stopped coming.

On the Mid-Autumn Festival this year, after Liu Zhe came home, he heard from his parents that Xiaoqing's father had passed away.

It turned out that Xiaoqing's father owed more than 200 thousand when he built three floors. He had intended to pay back with his daughter's bride price. Unexpectedly, the marriage was ruined and a large group of people came to ask for money.

Xiaoqing's father was very sad, so he drank to drown his sorrows. He didn't expect a cerebral hemorrhage after drinking and left without help, leaving a pile of debts.

Xiaoqing couldn't find a good husband's family at the moment because of the breakdown of her marriage. In order to avoid people who came to ask for money, she and her mother went to other provinces to work to make money.

Liu Zhe's mother sighed, which is really retribution.

Liu Zhe was disconsolate. In fact, Xiaoqing is a very good girl, but like Fan, she is bound by her family background.

In Ode to Joy, Fan not only wants to get the approval of Evil Descent, but also wants to get rid of the bondage of Evil Descent, so he can't achieve spiritual independence at all.

In the face of family background, Fan compromised again and again. She burst into tears and lamented that "one's family is one's destiny".

05. To get rid of the bondage of family background, we must first rebuild ourselves.

So, how to get rid of the bondage of family background and become a spiritually independent person? Su Like Mingyu?

Louise Hay, a famous psychotherapist and best-selling author of Heart Reconstruction, said:

"If you think that being born in a family is your destiny, then you will lose. Because only you can find the exit of all problems, and only you can rewrite your destiny. "

Everyone who wants to get rid of the shackles of family background should first face up to the reality they are facing and build a strong self, instead of blindly obeying and compromising, and let others control your destiny.

Start from yourself, start from a little change, and one day, everything will be suddenly clear!