How can I quit masturbation?

Hello everyone! I'm back. Thanks for your support. Please call me Yulu. This paper mainly talks about four themes: action and spiritual sustenance, as well as the importance of abstinence programs and abstinence skills. These four are essential elements of abstinence, from how to make good use of one's internal skills to how to make good use of external skills, so as to increase the probability of winning both inside and outside, and to be expected to succeed!

First of all, I want to tell you what actual combat is. And said I was a real fighter. Actually, the actual combat here has two meanings. The first is that the core of abstinence will not change, which means that the confrontation between ideas is called actual combat or actual combat. The second refers to the experience gained after action and practice. I usually call it actual combat experience, which is relatively extensive. For example, line-of-sight management in actual combat is also an experience, and jogging in order to quit color is also an experience. What kind of teacher can make you more likely to quit color successfully? Is a person with unique thinking and high practical experience.

Okay, let's get down to business. First, let's talk about the elements of action. With a little common sense and a little thinking, you can understand how important action is. It can be said that all abstinence is inseparable from the word action. Action can give you valuable practical experience → experience can give you a breakthrough → breakthrough can give you a chance to succeed. Whoever says nothing will do it. The point is that you won't change anything. Next, I will share two action cases, one is me.

Case 1: One day, I listened to a recording and thought what he said was right, so I decided to go out for a morning run. The first day of morning running is really super hard. As you know, the person in charge is very weak. After running for an hour, he fell asleep, and his legs seem to be numb. But I didn't give up. Continue to get up at 5 o'clock the next day and listen to the recording of abstinence while sleeping.

Analysis and sentiment: Please see my own actions. Without this experience, I might still be an oil abstainer! The hardest part is actually in the beginning Actually, I didn't think too much at first. I thought he was right, so I did as he said, and then I insisted. It's that simple. The word "action" is simple to say, but not easy to do. I can only give you one suggestion: just do what you think is good, don't think about whether it is suitable for you, whether you can do it yourself, and whether it will be very hard. These ideas should be put aside and then put into action. For example, reciting formulas, don't think about whether I recite or read aloud, whether I want to read it 500 times or 1000 times. Don't think about it yet, read it first, and then think about the rest. That's about it.

Case 2: Nearly 350 days later, I woke up in the middle of the night, and after waking up, my thoughts went to my brain, almost to the edge of breaking the rules, indicating that my consciousness and vigilance were not enough. Finally, I woke up at two o'clock in the morning and studied until six o'clock in the morning. I kept my color stop and kept my color stop position.

Analysis and sentiment: I really admire this senior. I think his actions have reached the limit. It can be seen from this passage that his attitude, determination, action and understanding are quite good. You can compare it with this senior. If you had this attitude and action, you wouldn't be a quitter now. Abstainers are characterized by words but not deeds. Think about your last abstinence, and then look.

Next, I want to talk about the second theme of spiritual sustenance. In fact, I don't have any lofty goals in abstinence, just an ordinary person with low self-esteem. I believe there should be many such abstinence friends, and some even thought about suicide, and I am one of them. But why can I stand here and talk to you today? Yes, because this spiritual sustenance supports me, different people have different spiritual sustenance, and the expression of spiritual sustenance may be the concrete existence of family and lover, or the intangible things of beliefs and concepts, and I just have two concrete and intangible cases to share with you, plus a desperate case without spiritual sustenance.

Case 1: I saw a post about a brother last year. He met a very excited girl in his unit. In order to be worthy of this girl, he is determined to completely change himself and hope to give each other happiness … ..

Analysis: This kind of spiritual sustenance can make this senior burst into an infinite small universe, which is the function of this specific spiritual sustenance of lovers.

Case 2: I have complained about many negative emotions, and I am desperate and want to commit suicide. Complaining about this and that every day is very depressing. Everyone wants to live a better life, so I want to seek change. The first change is that I heard the recording of "asking for help is not as good as asking for help". It's all about some cases. Some terminally ill patients make themselves happy through some spiritual sustenance and teach us to smile actively and live a good life every day. After listening to this recording repeatedly every day, I gradually relaxed. Later, I found my spiritual sustenance by watching some inspirational films, which made my abstinence more effective. This is the invisible function of faith.

Analysis: There is no doubt about the power that inspirational movies bring you. Watching the hero's indomitable spirit do all kinds of things will also affect him. Even if you encounter setbacks in your study, work and life, the hero will silently push you forward. This is the spiritual sustenance that pushes me forward now. Thank you for meeting you. It is suggested that students can watch inspirational films on campus and office workers can watch inspirational films at work.

Next is the third theme, the color stop scheme. Some people may ask, "What color stopping scheme?" Color stopping scheme is a set of complete strategies specially designed for color stopping system, such as how to plan and budget the detailed scheme of this project when a teacher or leader gives you a task. The so-called color stopping scheme is a weapon specifically aimed at color stopping. Look at the picture first. If the circle ratio in the middle is taken as the color blocking, then the circles around the color blocking are the necessary factors for color blocking, and none of them are enough. Combining these circular factors is a set of color stopping schemes. Different people have different color stopping schemes, so it is most important to design a suitable color stopping scheme. Color stopping is a systematic project and a combination of various factors, so we also need to design a set of solutions for these factors, so the color stopping scheme was born, which is the system. It is very necessary to design a set of color-stopping scheme for oil-stopping.

Next, the last content, stop color skills, the so-called skills will not leave this core → repair the heart+break the yellow source, I will give you the actual operation with the internal and external attack method.

The core of abstinence from color = cultivating the mind (abstinence+goodness)+abstaining from yellow source (not looking at yellow+not thinking about yellow)

Abstinence: Read high-quality abstinence articles, recommend reading "Abstinence as a Good Medicine" in season 99, 1 17 and my mindfulness-mindfulness articles, and then practice in actual combat.

Cultivate kindness: for professional abstinence, cultivating kindness is to better assist abstinence, which is the main and kindness is the secondary.

Breaking the yellow source = don't look at the yellow (mind your own eyes)+don't want to be yellow (mind your own thoughts)

Don't look at yellow (take care of your eyes): ① You can't stay in a certain place in actual combat; 2 when you encounter actual combat, you know there are beautiful women there, but if you have to go there, your eyes will lose focus immediately; 3 In actual combat, I have seen beautiful women immediately avoid and don't recall. This is the essence of line of sight management in actual combat!

As for not wanting to be yellow (managing your mind), you are actually either YY or brainless. This is your inner strength.

Now when it comes to external forces, first, we must never eat garlic, onions, canals, leeks and leeks, because cooked food will make us have more evil thoughts, which will only increase the difficulty of abstinence. We don't need to do such irrational things. Second, block the browsers of mobile phones and computers. There are a lot of laziness, desire, evil thoughts and lack of self-confidence in the early stage of abstinence. In short, everything is poor, and there is definitely no better result for disheartened abstinence, so skills and methods are particularly important. A large part of the reason for quitting is that everything is difficult at first, and quitting is also the most difficult at first. How can it be done without some external forces and some means?

To put it simply, it is necessary to block the browsers of mobile phones and computers from the beginning, and there is no way to work. As the saying goes, we often walk by the river without wet shoes, and the internet is full of mines. Why take the initiative to step on them? It is easy to say that those who are determined and conscious have many desires and evil thoughts in the early stage of abstinence, and are particularly sensitive to that aspect. You also take the initiative to surf the internet. Isn't this asking for more happiness? Do you think it is useful to post for comfort after breaking the precepts and repeat this process day after day? Therefore, as long as you do as mentioned above, you can increase your chances of winning by attacking inside and outside. Only in this way can we hope to defeat the demons and successfully quit color!

The above is the whole content of this article. First of all, we must take action to gain valuable practical experience. Every time we think about our family, our loved ones and our own beliefs, we will be full of spiritual energy, and there will be weapons abstinence programs that can overcome our demons, and practical skills that can reduce failures and increase the winning rate. Those who have these energy blessings, go! Please don't give up, you and I each embark on a journey to find ourselves. Even if the road ahead is difficult or even uncertain, although we can't see the dim lights in the distance from here, the little lights of dreams will light up the road for us. The spring ballad you sang is pushing us forward now. Whether it's gratitude or farewell, it's because you can say it now. Thanks for meeting you!

The second part. Causes of repeated abstinence and the law of epiphany.

First of all, I want to thank you for your support. Unconsciously, I have read the last chapter of the series of articles "Count Your Mistakes". The content of this article is very innovative and explosive. It will tell you the real reason for repeated crimes and how to break through the bottleneck and usher in a real epiphany. In fact, they are related. I'll take you to solve this problem in plain words. Please listen to me carefully!

Give the couple some words first. In fact, for couples who have just been exposed to abstinence for a few months, what they lack most is abstinence experience, which is accumulated over time. The experience accumulated in just a few months is not enough for you to solve all the problems in abstinence, so the couple don't have to ask what to do if they often break. For the couple, it is good to continue to absorb abstinence knowledge, just as it takes time to upgrade monsters, and there is no hurry.

Well, here's the topic. First of all, I want to talk about a main reason that runs through the whole article and is repeatedly decomposed. That is: articles that find the right medicine, which I call "ladder articles". As the picture shows, if we compare this staircase to the road of abstinence, then the contents of these stairs are the articles we want to know. When we understand the core of the corresponding article and put it into action, we will naturally jump from the first step to the second step. And so on, until you reach the top, everyone needs different articles, in different order. For example, every time A breaks a precept because of emotion, the article A looks for is of course an article about emotion, and for example, every time B breaks a precept because he can't control his thoughts, the article B looks for is of course an article about abstinence. This is the right medicine to find an article, which is easy to understand.

Chinese medicine also pays attention to finding the cause and then prescribing the right medicine. Through the "ladder article" mentioned above, we should also find the cause, and then prescribe the right medicine to stop drinking, but in fact most people don't know how to find the corresponding article. For example, every time A breaks the precepts because of his emotions, he always reads articles about health. After breaking the precepts, he always said: I have also read articles about abstinence. Why do I still break the precepts? You see, because A didn't solve the emotional problem now, just like the Chinese exam, you filled in the math problem on the test paper? Even if this math problem is correct, it will only give you zero in the end, and it is against the precepts when you quit, so it is very important to find the right medicine to quit. Of course, we occasionally encounter corresponding articles, but it takes a little luck, and we can't leave everything to luck, so we should master the rules instead of waiting for the corresponding articles to come to us.

All right, now let's talk about the real epiphany rule. As shown in the figure, if we compare this staircase to the road of abstinence, then the content of the staircase is the article we are looking for, and the seventh step is our bottleneck. If we want to meet the epiphany and cross the steps, it is not only for a single content, such as "an article about emotion+an article about abstinence+an important factor", except the last factor. Some people may have more than a few articles, such as emotion+disillusionment+actual combat+breaking the yellow source. It depends on everyone, what problems you have now and what you lack in consciousness, and this important factor is also one of the cores of the full text, that is, innovative arguments+actual combat cases and analytical opinions are indispensable!

Innovative arguments+actual cases and analytical insights are indispensable opportunities for epiphany, and they are usually indispensable. Next, I will make a case analysis with my epiphany.

Epiphany case: In fact, at first, I was no different from you. We are both abstainers who quit repeatedly, and our class is in the bottom ten in terms of qualification, but it is the experience accumulated by this qualification after two years of repeated withdrawal. One day, after watching the 99th season of Abstinence as a Good Medicine, I completely realized that the Big Bang ushered in an epiphany.

Analysis: In fact, the 99th season of Abstinence as a Good Medicine also has innovative arguments+practical cases and analysis, such as: ① We should look inward, but we usually look outward; (2) Through inward observation, I found that my true self is pure awareness, and then I distinguished my thoughts and entered the invincible mode; ③ By constantly paying attention to and exercising the feeling of pure awareness, we can take root in the invincible mode for a longer time, and the three ABC modes are also very innovative. As for the case and analysis, it is the car accident and gastroscope. Through the case of car accident and gastroscope, the laws of three ABC modes can be expressed more objectively and easily, so as to know how to enter invincible mode.

You see, I can have an epiphany through this article, which shows that this article must have its uniqueness, and this uniqueness may be an opportunity to open the door to epiphany, provided that I understand the core content of the article. If I had just glanced at it at that time and knew a little about the content, I might still be an abstention now.

However, because of the accumulated experience of repeated abstinence for two years and my careful taste of the core of this article, I immediately understood that many people who didn't understand or had a little knowledge before immediately understood, thus ushered in a big explosion of consciousness. So the law of epiphany is = finding the right article+innovative argument+actual case and analysis+understanding the core content of the article, and of course, paying attention to actual combat and other aspects. We sometimes have an epiphany because of something, but it depends on luck, and we can't leave everything to luck, so we should master the law instead of waiting for an epiphany to find ourselves.

From what I said above, we can know that in fact, repeated abstinence is related to epiphany, because you don't know how to find the right article, and because some patchwork articles have no innovative arguments, many truths have no practical experience, and the content of the thinking framework is fixed, so you don't have epiphany. Of course, there are still some excellent posts that are really good, with their own unique ideas and real cases. We should know how to find such articles.