How to see in-laws as good in-laws?

Whether the in-laws are good or not depends largely on the mentality of the daughter-in-law. Everyone's personality is different, some are straightforward, some are strong, some are gentle, some are easy to talk and so on. It depends on whether the daughter-in-law can correctly understand the meaning of her in-laws, because of their personality.

My parents' personality is recognized and loved by the whole village, especially my mother, who has been in politics. From the first village director to the later deputy secretary of the street party Committee and director of the National People's Congress, she has always been people-oriented. As long as the people find my mother to reflect the problem, she always tries her best to help solve it. If they can't solve it, she will ask her superiors about the reasons and national policies, and then explain them to the people. My mother has worked all her life. After I retired from the army, I stopped talking about my work and let me solve my own work. The only time I spoke was because of my wife. Just this once, the other party promised that it is really difficult to get the help of the old-timers and will do it well anyway. My wife goes to work in the next street. When the street staff knew that she was my mother's daughter-in-law, out of respect for my mother, they were very enthusiastic about my wife's work and actively helped her get familiar with the business and the situation. But that's all. She was sent to the village Committee by the street and changed to four village committees. During the epidemic this year, she neglected her duty, not only failed to reflect on her mistakes, but also vilified her secretary, which led to her final dismissal. Her street party secretary came to meet my mother in person. Explain the situation and hope mom won't be angry. My mother thanked her, apologized for her daughter-in-law's behavior, and personally called her secretary to apologize. Her whole family were dissatisfied with her dismissal, thinking that my parents could keep their daughter's job without help, but they didn't know what her daughter usually did.

I felt good when I first fell in love, but after less than a year of marriage, I showed my true colors and was selfish. My mother comes home from work to cook dinner every day, and my wife says she wants to lose weight and doesn't eat dinner every day. In the morning, my mother asked her what she wanted for breakfast and made it for her. She said, when will you meet me for breakfast? I won't eat it myself. I told her mother outside that my mother didn't make her breakfast or invite her to dinner. She is ill in hospital, and I go to the hospital to accompany her after work every day. My mother retired for two years and delivered meals from the canteen to the hospital at noon every day. Because the water was hung, my mother sat by and watched until the water was hung. Even if something happened in the middle, my mother said, I'm in the hospital now, and I'll talk about it when I get back. Her own mother went to the hospital to see her, took off her shoes and slept in bed, without bringing her daughter food. In this way, I went to the hospital to accompany me after work and told me that she hung up the water to sleep at noon, and my mother left after delivering the meal. I didn't know to show it to her. I thought my mother wouldn't do such a thing. Unexpectedly, people in the same ward couldn't stand it. Do you want to face it directly? When your mother gave birth to you, your face fell into your mother's stomach Your mother-in-law sends you meals every day and takes your dirty clothes home to wash. What kind of fruit do you want to eat? When you have lunch, your mother-in-law will buy it for you right away. Is that how you arranged your mother-in-law? Other people in the ward told me that your wife is really nothing and we can't stand it. We envy her having a good mother-in-law, but what does she say? Who told your mother to have a son deserved it? Your mother-in-law has been to the hospital once now, but she came empty-handed. As soon as she came, she lay in bed, took all the fruits that your mother bought for her when she left, and asked your mother to buy them the next day. We really can't watch it anymore. These are just some small things in daily life. When she gave birth to a second child, she asked for leave from the unit two months in advance because of pregnancy-induced hypertension. When she got home, she clamored for hospitalization, saying it was dangerous. My uncle and aunt are both deans of the hospital. At that time, the beds were very tight, so it was impossible to arrange for you not to have children. My aunt wants to arrange a bed for her, but she doesn't want to. She wanted to live in a single VIP room and said she didn't want to live with people with no quality. Because he was hospitalized before, he was vomited by others in the ward, and menstruation asked gynecology. Director to help, and then vacate a room, but more than a month from the hospital to give birth to a baby, premature, even the director of gynecology finally angry, angry with my aunt, saying that your nephew daughter-in-law or something, if it weren't for your face and Zhang's, I would have kicked her out, such a poor person is rare. No one I contacted said she was good, but she was outside, always sorting out my parents' mistakes, knowing that everyone in our family looked down on her. Last year's demolition, her mother urged her daughter to divorce me and asked for a sum of money. If she doesn't get divorced, she writes her daughter's name. My old house is very big. When I was a soldier, my home was completely decorated, with a total area of more than 800 square meters. My father's factory was also demolished, and the land was bought by myself that year. People who understand demolition should know that it is expensive. This time, I also made up my mind to divorce. When her mother saw it, it was wrong. She had no choice. She was anxious for grandpa to sue grandma. Finally, she asked my grandmother to come forward. My grandmother advised me not to leave for the sake of my three great grandchildren. My uncle and they also advised me to forget it. She is such a person. Everyone is not ignorant. For the sake of the children, forgive their family once. All three of our children were brought up by my mother. She is not only ungrateful, but also fabricates facts all day. Her mother has never taken care of her grandchildren for a day. Now both my grandmother and my uncle regret it. Last year, they should not have advised me. They should support my divorce, say when I will live, give all my gold ornaments to her mother, and then her mother will give them to her son's mother-in-law, wife, aunt and uncle. When they found out, they swore that the shit was in my head and it was shameful to give away my son-in-law's things. Not worthless.