"I am a middle-aged married woman who would rather stay in the car downstairs than go home!" Why?

I read an article about a man who was driving home downstairs but didn't want to go upstairs. It seems that the door is a watershed. Before opening the door, he can be himself, but after opening the door, he is a husband, a father and a son. Identity requires too many identities and responsibilities, which is overwhelming.

Liu Li told me that she is a married woman and would rather stay in the car than go home.

A woman, especially a married woman, ran home after work, but at the last minute she lost the courage to go upstairs. Instead, she would rather stay in the car for a while, turn on her favorite music, close her eyes, and assume that she is standing on the highest mountain in the world and feel the peace and relaxation brought by the vastness.

A person has been married for many years when he reaches middle age. How tired a woman who has always been like a right-hand man with her lover will be in marriage. I don't know how much this man who once wanted to marry her home knows.

1 When people reach middle age, married women dare not give up their jobs easily, for money and for their position in marriage.

Liu Li is not young, she will be 40 years old in a blink of an eye. Let's see, she has been in love with her husband for 12 years. From a little girl full of fantasy about feelings to a woman who can be independent at the wedding, Liu Li has changed a lot.

Before getting married, what she wanted to hear most was what her husband said to her, "You are responsible for beauty, and I am responsible for making money to support my family." Young man, marriage looks really simple. Later, I knew that Liu had heard those words. Don't take them seriously.

After getting married and having children, Liu Li didn't go to work for four years. She feels that she is tired of taking care of her children and family at home. She and her husband made the same contribution to the family, but gradually both her husband and in-laws changed their attitudes towards her.

Marriage is actually as realistic as society. When people measure you, they will calculate the value of your own contribution. In marriage, women's housework and children's education are intangible and can never be compared with the money earned by men.

At this time, Liu Li began to go out to work. Even if it was difficult to find a satisfactory job, even if it was tiring to pick up and drop off the children, she persisted.

Sometimes when a child is ill, she has to ask for leave and face the displeasure of the leader. As a mother, it is really difficult to do a good job and take good care of children. Fortunately, the children have grown up a little and the work has begun to get on the right track.

However, Liu Li will still be tired. At work, she is an employee and a project leader. Her work is endless, and the third-party disputes are endless. After work, she should go home as soon as possible, wash vegetables and cook, and urge her children to study. In the dead of night, she wanted to go to bed early and found a pile of clothes to wash in the bathroom. At this time, the customer sent a message to change the cooperation plan. .......

She is really tired, and her body and mind are running. She really wants to quit her job, grow up with her children and study with him, but she can't, because she needs to maintain economic independence and earn money herself to win a place in marriage.

No matter how tired she is at work or at home, she will choose to stick to it. She is afraid of a life abandoned by her husband and in-laws.

Taking care of family and work has become the responsibility of married middle-aged women. If you don't do it well, you are unqualified.

When people reach middle age, married women dare not relax themselves too much. Family, children, the elderly and marriage always need all her energy.

Liu Li's best friend advised her not to think so much and to have a rest when she was tired. It is right for a woman to fight for her family and career, but she can't live without her own life.

Liu Li is afraid to go to a colleague's party. First of all, she is responsible for the children's study at home. Second, she really has no energy to compete with a group of children. Her only luxury is to go to bed early and take good care of her fatigue.

When a woman reaches middle age and has a family waiting for her to do something behind her, she sometimes goes home and pushes the door open. Her elderly in-laws are waiting for her to cook. The naughty children haven't started their homework yet, and the home is a little messy. The man has a dinner party tonight, and Liu Li has to go alone for everything.

Sometimes she wants to ask an aunt to help cook and take care of her in-laws, but men object. Liu Li's husband thinks they are just an ordinary family and can't be too melodramatic.

The word melodramatic may always appear in the mouth of a man who doesn't care enough about women.

Liu can't relax herself at home, and neither can she. She should always keep herself like a soldier, rushing to the front when things happen, and protecting her children, the elderly, her marriage and family behind.

So sometimes, despite driving back to the community and stopping the car, Liu Li doesn't want to go upstairs and go home. She prefers to stay in the car for ten minutes, which can save her mother-in-law from nagging for ten minutes and play games with naughty children for ten minutes, which is lost because of men's neglect.

Married women in China will take on too many responsibilities, pressures and trifles. The door to go home is also the dividing line of their lives. Before opening the door, she can be herself, an independent woman. After opening the door, there is a daughter-in-law, a wife, a mother, a daughter and a nanny.

How dare a "nanny" who lives with many people relax?

In middle age, married women dare not expect too much love. Men who are used to ignoring marriage don't understand what comfort women need.

If the most tiring thing for a married person is the relationship with her husband in marriage, then everything else can really rank second.

A woman is a very complicated animal. One second, she can be exhausted because she has so many housework and things to worry about, and the next, she can forget them all because of a considerate and comforting word from a man.

Middle-aged and tired women actually lack men's love, care, tolerance and understanding in marriage.

Liu Li's husband is always very busy, so busy that he has no time or careful habits. As before, he asked Liu Li how he was today and whether he still had to go to work to take care of his family.

In fact, women's despair in marriage often begins with men's neglect and inaction. She is busy cooking and a pile of dishes are waiting to be washed, but he won't go into the kitchen to help.

She washes the dishes and the floor at home is dirty. She wants him to help her clean up so that she can relax. Instead, he picked up the phone and went into the study. What is more exasperating is that he went to play games.

In-laws are a lot picky when they get older. Liu Li has tried her best, but he still doesn't know how to stand up and tell them not to be too hard on his daughter-in-law.

The child has a heavy reading task and has to go to cram school on weekends, but he has never taken the initiative to pick him up. Maybe he really doesn't know what grade his son is in.

Liu Li dare not expect too much love. She knows that after years of marriage, husband and wife will become relatives and allies.

But in her heart, she still hopes that her ally husband can understand her tired, weak and comforting heart.

Marriage is not a one-man show for women. Need two people to play together, need two people to help each other, support each other and encourage each other.

In many family affairs, it is not good if one person can get busy, but it is perfect if two people work together.

I hope all women know how to treat themselves well in marriage. If too many responsibilities overwhelm you, find a man to fight for yourself, take a breath, don't be embarrassed, and don't get used to silence.

I hope that men will always remember their promises on the road of marriage, give more care and understanding to their lovers, support each other and understand the difficulty of a weak woman.

There is pain and heat, care and understanding, companionship and comfort, so that neither of us will be the one who would rather stay in the car than go home.