36 kinds of violence in school bullying and their solutions.

"bully", transliterated from the English word "bully", refers to bullying and bullying, while Baidu Encyclopedia's explanation refers to the bullying and oppression of unequal power between people who have existed in society for a long time.

The recent bullying incident in Zhongguancun No.2 Primary School has brought it back to the public stage.

I've read a lot before, and all kinds of opinions are complicated, so I won't list them one by one.

But as a little fat man who has suffered from school bullying, I want to write something else, about school bullying itself and the solution.

It's not just a superficial comment on hot spots, but how to solve them.

Of course, there will be omissions, and it is impossible to predict the new ways of playing in school bullying in the future.

And take this as the theme, hoping to help those in need.

In school bullying, "beating" is one of the most basic behaviors, and its manifestations are also the most diverse. Usually combined with beatings, it evolved into a school violence.

Scope: It is the most common in singles and group fights, and it mostly happens between boys and girls (between the same sex), including: those who are not pleasing to the eye, those who love to show off, those who love to report, and those who are powerless. ...

Solution: In school bullying, the behavior of "beating" is the best and the most difficult to solve. The good solution is that school bullying has no great evil. Fighting between children is nothing more than fighting for a sigh of relief and a reason. Soft persimmons are easy to bully, but hard stones can't pry them. Therefore, children should be brave, ambitious and tough from an early age. They should not be abusers, but they should not be bullied by the weak. What is difficult to solve is that this kind of struggle between children can easily lead to many minor problems, such as the participation of children's friends and the comparison between children's parents. When individual events evolve into collective events, it is difficult to deal with them. In addition, if parents participate, the strength of the victim, parents and the perpetrator will tilt, and once it is restored to its original state, it will breed violent emotions of the perpetrator and retaliate again. Therefore, parents should not come forward directly, but should give advice privately.

Solution: Parents should pay attention to their children's family education, especially the problem about school bullying, and pay attention to cultivating their children's sound personality and tough character. Don't be violent, but don't be a soft persimmon. Communicate with children in time, care about their school life, prevent problems before they happen, negotiate with children in time when bullying occurs, and make corresponding countermeasures. On the school side, we should strengthen the guidance of school-related education, especially the class teacher should pay more attention to the psychological growth of class students and deal with various problems in the relationship. Under the executable category, it is suggested to match the teaching and administrative posts of psychological liaison officers, be responsible for talking with classmates, and establish a good and harmonious relationship among families, students and classmates in series.

Compared with "beating", "grabbing" is a more brutal form of physical bullying, which is often combined with pranks and revenge.

Scope: it mostly happens to boys, boys and girls, including: people who love to show off, people who show off their wealth, what precious things they have or what others want. ...

Solution: "Snatching" can't be cured, but it is also the best school bullying behavior relative to personal injury. There has always been a saying in China that "destroying wealth and eliminating disasters", and most families also condone this kind of school bullying, or students usually solve it through teachers. But no matter which solution, it is a weak choice and can't really solve the substantive problem.

Solution: Don't show off your family's financial situation on campus, and don't carry valuables with you. If you don't let others try you, you will naturally break his possessiveness. When you really meet someone robbing you, you can solve it through the teacher at the first time, but be more vigilant afterwards. "Stealing a chicken does not erode rice", and robbing and stealing are also the same thing. You know who robbed it, but what if you stole it? Moreover, it is always solved by teachers, not by their own methods, which is more likely to worsen campus relations and create more trouble.

Throwing is one of the most common forms of school bullying. Most of them do not constitute bullying, but can only be called small fights between classmates.

Scope: Any gender, anyone is possible. From exercise books to precious things. Where you can see, where you can't see. "Falling" is mostly caused by emotion and pushing.

Solution: it is easy to solve the "throwing" under the nose, and I am most afraid of "stealing+throwing" without knowing it. This requires children to handle the relationship with their classmates at school, calm down their emotions, and not have too many disputes. Really met, learn to bow, learn to show weakness.

Solution: Don't argue, confront the conflict. Learn to control your emotions and manage your surroundings. More importantly, even if you can't make intimate friends, you should make friends with gentlemen and be kind to others.

"Push" is an easy operation, which can cause devastating damage in some positions, and its power cannot be ignored.

Scope: it usually happens between the same sex and the same sex, random deception. On the stairs, in front of the opposite sex toilet, on the rooftop, or in an unguarded state.

Solution: I can't think of other words to spread out except careful.

Solution: Be careful, and then you'd better find a small partner to go with you.

"Treading" is a minority, which mostly occurs in the period of youthful exuberance and breeds hatred and jealousy. It has nothing to do with people, but turns to venting things. Of course, it does not rule out that a very small number of people trample on others.

Scope: It mostly happens between people and things. Usually accompanied by tearing, spitting, pouring, burning and other actions.

Solution: The venting method of "stepping" belongs to the category that can be forgiven outside the human body, but it can't be compromised, and it can't be cowardly. This kind of school bullying behavior has not risen to the point of public provocation, so children can stand up and boldly resist to establish a dignified and powerful character.

Solution: If other bullying behaviors can't answer blows with blows, then "stepping on" this behavior needs to be countered. Say it out, scold it back, even if you take a step back, these counterattacks are allowed within a reasonable range.

Of course, in addition to the above five typical types, there are many other kinds of physical bullying: burning hair, spitting, forcing others to eat disgusting human excrement, and bullying with sticks. ...

Scope: Occurred in extremely distorted scenes.

Solution: It is necessary to resist, but we should also learn to show weakness. If the incident is frightening, you can seek support from the Education Bureau or even relevant departments with more authority and credibility. Really can't. I would rather transfer to another school than let my children continue to grow up in such an environment.

Solution: Refer to the solution.

During the campus, "taking nicknames" is the most popular and the favorite of students. Most nicknames have a certain basis, according to personality, constellation and appearance. But some nicknames are not like this, such as reproductive organs, vulgar words, TV programs or people who are attacked by everyone on the Internet. ...

These nicknames have become the psychological shadow of many students' childhood. For example, when I was a child, I was called "Banhua" because I was introverted and didn't like sports. I was handsome and learned to dance. At that time, for this nickname, I often felt desperate for the world.

Although rumors are not so lethal, they will affect the overall cognition of people around them, especially students, who are particularly concerned about face and other people's opinions.

You can be angry all day about a rumor that he once had an affair with someone.

Compared with rumors, libel smacks of personal attack and brings shame to people.

The antecedents of most depression are limited to slander, and childhood slander has a profound psychological impact on a student.

Compared with slander, different people bear different degrees of abuse. Those with strong psychological endurance can go in one ear and out the other; People with weak psychological endurance usually doubt themselves when they encounter abuse, and even hate from love.

Counting days is easy to form a distorted personality.

Threats are usually combined with physical bullying.

If you don't do it, I'll hit you; If you don't do as I say, I'll get back at you.

In the era when teachers and homework are the most important, countless people are threatened to help others cheat teachers and help others with their homework.

Similar "threats" are even worse than threats. When your psychological defense line is on the verge of collapse, he pretends to say whatever you are afraid of.

Much like a puppet in a TV series, you should obey even if you are threatened.

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Solution: The harassment of verbal bullying cannot be isolated from the outside world. As long as you are alive, there will be verbal bullying. Therefore, we can only proceed from ourselves and constantly carry out psychological resistance, which can not only resist gossip, but also ignore abuse and threats.

Solution: for verbal bullying, we need three aspects: from the perspective of parents, we should give children corresponding guidance from an early age, and how to face up to or ignore these interferences with people and things; From the school's point of view, we should not only attach importance to cultural education, but also work hard on ideological and moral education to guide students with correct moral concepts; For the students themselves, they should be in an invincible position in the school environment, turn a deaf ear to these interferences, strengthen their hearts and resist language injuries.

Sexual bullying is a kind of behavior in school bullying that has to be faced squarely. Even when I was a student, my sexual consciousness was not strong, but the impact of sexual bullying on a female student's life was really turned upside down.

Rape, indecency ... ugly, unimaginable.

Sexual bullying can be divided into six categories:

But whatever it is, whether it's school, family or even individuals, I don't know where to start.

Solution: Generally speaking, we can only organize sexual education consciously or unconsciously from the aspect of physical health knowledge, and give separate course guidance to girls to ensure their physical and mental safety.

The word "relationship bullying" means bullying, and the purpose of isolating individuals is achieved through small groups.

Among them, the common forms are nothing more than these six:

"Relationship bullying" can be seen as a struggle within a group, or it can be compared to a royal struggle in a special scene, which uses the spark of relationship collision to create contradictions and conflicts again and again.

A group of people, a group of people, I'm sorry, a group of people are really booing, and a group of people are deliberately targeting one person. ...

These more or less relationship bullying will make the isolated people more or less uneasy and uncomfortable, and even have a strong resistance to the past and psychological shadow on their later lives.

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Solution: If you find that your child has encountered problems while growing up, the most important thing is to find the root of the problem. Since he is isolated at school, he should be given enough love in his family to make him feel warm. At the same time, tell children the importance of choice. If this circle doesn't suit you, you can go to another circle. There are always people who can get along with you, and there is always a world that can integrate you.

Solution: Refer to the solution.

If the previous bullying can still blame the society, then such a "counterattack bullying" is purely self-inflicted.

This is the perpetrator, but he suffered a greater degree of bullying.

This is innocent, and it is taken out on by the students who have just been bullied.

Similarly, there are six ways to counter bullying:

Furthermore, if you fight back against those who bully you, you can also say that it is understandable to fight violence with violence; It is shameful to bully the weak and more innocent people.

They say the law of the jungle, but what's the difference between bullying people like this and the former? Even if you are bullied, you deserve it.

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Solution: In ancient times, there was a saying that "if people don't attack me, I won't attack"; Today, we advocate the concept of social honor and disgrace and eight honors and eight disgraces. If you want to fight back against bullying that doesn't exist, you can't be a perpetrator first; If you don't want to be defeated by their bullying, you must first become strong.

Solution: we can start from childhood education, instill Confucianism, advocate benevolence, righteousness, courtesy, wisdom and faith, and eradicate the root of evil ideologically; At the same time, we should be strong not only in thought, but also in action. For example: strengthen exercise, keep fit and so on.

In recent years, cyberbullying is the most terrible thing. Network riot troops can attack designated people or individuals only by the provocation of a few people, and will cut off all the retreat.

Their words are sharp, regardless of your face; They are talented and logical; They argue that they won't let go until they tear you apart and give in.

In cyber bullying, the six most common forms are:

In any case, the taste of cyberbullying is unpleasant after all. Ten thousand people in Qian Qian and ten thousand words in Qian Qian scold you, blame you, hate you and blame you. After all, this ambush from the whole network world is not something that ordinary people can resist.

Solution: temporarily isolate the network state to avoid the limelight, and then make a sound after the hot spots subside.

Solution: parents and teachers should take good care of them and calm their recent emotions to avoid breeding; At the same time, as far as possible, children should not be exposed to any information about the network, and seek temporary peace in purity.

School bullying is a terrible thing, but it is not a difficult thing. From the beginning to the end, it has always existed, and no big city or small city can avoid it.

If it weren't for Beijing and Zhongguancun, there might still be many people who don't take school bullying seriously now that the media can ferment wildly.

Fortunately, however, some people came forward, and thousands of Qian Qian people came forward. Even if one thing is true, the children will be much better, and the school bullying incident has changed a lot.

I only hope that the campus will become a paradise for children, full of smiles, with the most naive smiles and the most natural truth.