What color should a child's personality be?

Was your circle of friends screened by blue+pink, pink+purple, orange+green, gold+blue two days ago?

This is the "main color of personality" quiz launched by Netease Cloud. By choosing a few pieces of music and scene association, test your personality color, describe your personal characteristics, see you in the eyes of others, and be an attractive group. Careful netizens made a table for everyone:

Look at these words: energetic, gentle and kind, trustworthy, smart and aura, elegant and noble … is there always one that can poke you? In fact, most of the online quizzes about horoscopes, various fortunes, personalities and personalities have no scientific basis, and they mainly bring some little happiness to everyone with the help of Barnum effect.

Barnum Effect: A psychological phenomenon proved by psychologist bertram Fowler in 1948. I believe it is easy for everyone to believe that a general description of personality is especially suitable for him. Even if this description is empty, people still think it reflects their own personality, even if they are not such people at all.

Just as adults want to crown themselves with all kinds of beautiful prefixes, parents will label their children with all kinds of personality labels. Most parents want their children to be enthusiastic, outgoing and active. If their children are quiet, don't like to show themselves in public and don't take the initiative to make friends, parents will always feel a little anxious involuntarily, hoping to do something to help their children change such personality characteristics.

Some parents will choose to let their children participate in some interest classes such as small host, dance and vocal music, while others will choose to let their children leave home independently to participate in some camp courses or group activities, learn to make friends actively and integrate into the new environment. There is no problem with these practices, but parents need to get out of a misunderstanding:

Introversion and timidity

Introverted, unsociable

Introversion is not good.

Little frog recommends two movies to you here. I believe you will have some brand-new understanding of "introverted personality" after reading it.

The first is a TED talk entitled "The Power of Introversion" shared by Susan Kane. She told everyone with her own personal experience that introversion and extroversion are just natural personality characteristics, and there is no difference between them.

The second is the only documentary "After Zero" in China that records children's growth for a long time. Shooting of this documentary began in 2006, and the film crew tracked and recorded 10 many children born after 2000 in a kindergarten, from kindergarten to primary school and middle school, which lasted 10 years. When the director introduced his original intention of shooting, he said: Children are not mud, and it is impossible to be photographed as you want. 10 The growth trajectory of more than 0 people with different personalities after 00, I believe that parents will definitely find the shadow of getting along with their children and bring parents a new perspective and thinking.

Little frog has something to say.

Accept the child's introversion, appreciate the child's personality, don't force the child to be lively, don't force the child to be a "spokesperson" in the crowd, give the child comfortable time to be alone, and don't let our stereotypes and prejudices bring "emotional shackles" to the child's mind.

Children's personality should be colorful, and every child is a unique color!