What constellation is in Lian Yue, Lian Yue?

How do powerful people upgrade their thinking mode?

It is said that the person with the highest IQ in the world is only 228, which is about twice that of normal people. But in reality, the ability difference between people is very big.

Why is this?

It is not so much the difference in IQ as the difference in way of thinking. The values we often say are also the embodiment of thinking mode.

Show you two different people's thinking modes about success and failure.

Macho man:

Pay → success, gain happiness; Pay → fail and gain wisdom.

Afraid of people:

Pay → succeed, worry about paying too much; Pay → failure, fear

Two completely different ways of thinking, intense and timid, have created their different moods.

Paying too much attention to the results will lead to the psychological trap of "Valenda" effect.

Valenda is a famous tightrope walker in America. He unfortunately slipped and died in a major performance. His wife said afterwards, I know something must happen this time, because he always kept saying before taking office that this time is too important to fail; In every successful performance before, he always thought about walking the tightrope itself, regardless of everything it might bring.

When we pay too much attention to the results, it will make us unable to concentrate on the process, and we will constantly criticize ourselves and suffer from loss.

And the process is the most enjoyable.

If you want to keep your mind in the process of continuous exploration and enjoy exploration, you must understand the thinking mode behind your mind.

To optimize our thinking mode, we must know how it came from.

Three sources of thinking mode

1. The outside world, our direct experience of the outside world.

2. Conceptual model, we get indirect experience of the world from others.

3. Self-reasoning and induction, we rely on the conclusion formed by reasoning.

Simply put, our own sensory experience, all the information we get from society and our education, as well as the results of our own thinking and our past experiences, together constitute our own thinking mode.

What is a bad thinking mode?

There are many kinds of bad thinking patterns, but what columnist Lian Yue said can be summarized as follows: If you don't live the way you want, sooner or later you will think the way you live.

As long as you think according to your own way of life, take your present situation for granted and don't want to change, this is the worst mode of thinking. Because it means closing the outside world and rejecting all possibilities.

How to get rid of bad thinking mode?

In fact, there are many kinds of sayings, and the following are the three most important ones:

1. Look at different views of things as objectively as possible.

Different people have different understandings of something, and these understandings are not necessarily wrong, but there are also many people who choose to take it out of context and choose the one-sided truth that supports their personal intentions to influence reality, such as politicians in the US presidential election.

So when we look at things, we should consider different aspects and find different viewpoints in a balanced way. Don't trust others' understanding easily. When we make our own understanding, we should choose the truth that can support your point of view without distorting the reality you convey.

2. Reject all tags.

People are lazy. Tagging is the simplest way to understand the complex world, from "straight man" to "regional black".

Labels are like first impressions. A bad label may lead to misjudgment. For example, if you label your child as "smart", then your child's future behavior must be kept "smart", limiting himself to the only feature of being smart, losing other possibilities and covering up his true self. Is it bad?

Don't make it up by yourself, expand the scope.

People have the abstract ability to supplement the special functions of their own brains and expand the categories of special events.

For example, the constellation analysis that makes many people flock to it is a typical example.

This is similar to the truth that can be applied to any specific situation, but it is useless and does not help to solve practical problems. But constellation analysis seems to be more acceptable, or scary, because its text description is not a lot of useless nonsense that has nothing to do with itself, but a lot of useless nonsense that is rarely known by everyone.

How to upgrade thinking mode?

It's simple, but it's easily complicated by us-find a career or fun that you are willing to pursue all your life, 1 is enough, and the rest is to let go!

Send you a story:

John Wood, a former Microsoft executive, made a wish to build a library for Nepalese children during a holiday trip in 1999. As the plan began, he realized that maybe this was what he wanted to do!

He resolutely resigned as the marketing director of Microsoft in China, and started to set up a non-profit organization "Reading Space" to help children get a better education and break the cycle of fate. In "Leaving Microsoft to Change the World", he talked about the real blow to him.

In the spring of 2003, he was running in San Francisco and saw a house he liked very much. When he went to see the house, he found that the house price was completely beyond his current affordability! A former Microsoft executive, almost 40 years old, can't afford to buy his own house. He began to doubt whether he should give up chasing his dreams.

That evening, he received a letter from his friend Laura:

John, your life doesn't belong in a waterscape mansion. You have no home, so to speak. You need to keep doing what you are doing now. Because the progress of this world is really slow, especially in the poorest countries. Do not take real estate seriously. You already have something that few people can have-you know exactly what you are doing every day, and you are sure what to do. It would be a disaster and a huge mistake to sacrifice this for the pursuit of spacious houses.

In the process of pursuing, you will face self-doubt, you will think about all kinds of sunk costs and opportunity costs, you may want to give up because of environmental pressure, and you may even give up on your own initiative, because persistence is too difficult and anti-human.

But only these unsatisfied deep interests can make you gain more happiness, learning → practice → recovery → spontaneous optimization, and your thinking mode is quietly upgraded.