1 1 magical scientific research, the original parent-child relationship is not the same as imagined?

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1. Family ties are close and people don't trust strangers very much.

A socio-economic study published in 2008 showed that people who are closer to relatives are less likely to trust strangers. Scientists engaged in this research also pointed out that the experimental method they designed can prove that the relationship between them is not only positive correlation, but also causal relationship.

In other words, the relationship between one's parents and family will affect our motivation and attitude towards strangers. The closer we get to our families, the less we trust strangers.

The older you get, the more you love your family.

A psychological study published in 2007 shows that among adults, young people will show stronger positive feelings about the relationship with new friends, while old people will show stronger positive feelings about the relationship with their families. In other words, the older we get, the stronger our feelings for our family will be.

3. Everything is because of my mother.

Freud said that all interpersonal relationships in a person's life are determined by his relationship with his mother when he was young. This is Freud's theory, but he didn't verify it. Now, scientists have finally done a long-term follow-up experiment, and guess what?

Freud was right: the relationship between a baby of 18 months and his mother can predict the relationship between this person and his spouse, colleagues and friends more than 20 years later. The less he was taken care of by his mother in infancy, the more anxious he became as an adult. So don't ignore the baby's needs as a child.

The mother's IQ affects the child's IQ.

Most of you have heard of it, but is it true? It's true. According to scientists' research, there are thousands of factors that affect a person's IQ, but the most important thing is the mother's IQ.

However, parents must not be nervous. Scientific research also found that IQ has little influence on people. High IQ has nothing to do with whether a person has good grades, excellent work, great achievements, happy marriage and many friends, or even whether he can be a good parent and teach his children well.

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Your taste in music comes from your parents.

A social science study published on 20 1 1 shows that teenagers' preferences for music are directly related to their parents' preferences, in other words, our tastes in music will be passed down from generation to generation.

Of course, there are many other factors that affect a person's taste in music, such as education, parents' income and so on. One of the findings of this study is very interesting. If parents like rock music, this preference will only affect their daughters, not their sons.

6. Fathers influence their daughters' views on mate selection.

More than one scientific research has confirmed that the relationship between a daughter and her father during her growth will profoundly affect her future mate choice. Women who have a close and positive relationship between father and daughter in childhood will find men like their fathers very attractive; Women with negative father-daughter relationship in childhood will subconsciously avoid men like their fathers when they grow up. This influence is also obvious in women's taste in men's looks.

Research shows that what kind of men women think are handsome is not simply determined by what they see in life, but by the appearance of all men. Women will construct their "beautiful men" through the appearance of their close male elders. A woman who had a good relationship with her father when she was a child will think her father's man is the most beautiful when she grows up.

7. Parents don't love their children equally.

There is more than one child in the family, and parents love everyone equally? Unfortunately, even though almost all parents will deny it, more than one scientific study shows that 65% of mothers and 70% of fathers have a favorite child, and this child is often the boss.

In addition, the mother prefers the eldest son and the father prefers the younger daughter. Other studies have found that the more beautiful children are, the more popular they are. Moreover, the more a child looks like a father, the more he loves him.

8. Evil stepmother is not a myth.

Do you think Cinderella's vicious stepmother is just a fairy tale? Do you think that everyone's acceptance of complex families has increased today, and the stepmother has become a good one?

No, no, no. Social scientists have rich research results that can tell you that in a family with stepmother or stepfather, the probability of child abuse is seven times higher than that in a family with biological parents, and the child mortality rate is 100 times higher. This phenomenon has a term in sociology called "TheCinderellaEffect", which has profound reasons behind it in evolutionary psychology.

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9. bosses with daughters are different

Judges with daughters will be different from judges without daughters in sentencing, especially the related cases are related to gender (such as gender discrimination, sexual harassment, etc.); And if the CEO of a company has a daughter, the company will give higher wages to female employees. Does that sound interesting? This is not a rumor, but a conclusion drawn by sociologists after years of data collection and analysis.

10. "son preference" is also very common in western society.

"Preference for boys over girls" is not our patent, and there is also a phenomenon of preference for boys over girls in western society. A study based on big data published by western researchers in 2008 shows that the first child is the daughter's family, and they are more willing to continue to have children.

Among unmarried pregnant women, if they have a daughter, they are often single when they give birth; If you are pregnant with a boy, you often marry your father at the time of delivery.

Couples who have daughters are more likely to divorce than couples who have sons. Divorced fathers are more willing to get custody of their sons than their daughters. When each phenomenon exists alone, there can be other explanations, but when these phenomena exist at the same time, the researchers believe that this can only show that they prefer sons.

1 1. The food we give our dogs is the healthiest.

The study found that dog owners tend to buy healthier food for their dogs than themselves. However, if you keep people instead of dogs, the result is just the opposite.

The food parents buy for their children is often not as healthy as their own, that is, children often eat more unhealthy food than their parents.

Parents, think quickly, is this true?