How can I not be naive?

Maturity can be a physiological index or a psychological index. Psychological maturity and physical maturity are two different things, but they are related.

Speaking of psychological maturity, I think a mature person has strong independence in thought, emotion, action and economy, and is less dependent on others. Understand what life is, know what you want to do, have a clear goal in life, and put it into practice. I can control my emotions, have the ability to observe and gain insight into things, have a good attitude towards real life, and have considerable tolerance and resistance to setbacks and difficulties. Everything is no longer credulous, but focuses on practice.

In short, a mature person finds himself and handles his relationship with the outside world.

Whether there is a self and how to look at it are important criteria to measure a person's maturity. Of course, this is relative, because people are constantly maturing. You can compare the present with the past to see if you are mature. This is a vertical comparison, and you can also compare yourself with the people around you. This is a balanced comparison.

First, pay attention to the promise: a mature man will never break his word. He attaches great importance to every promise he makes. Before making a wish, he will carefully consider whether his words can really come true. If he could, he would never say, and his words would be carried out. Everything he says makes you feel at ease and trustworthy. A man with an unknown address, shooting at random and not taking action has nothing to do with maturity.

Second, don't talk big: a mature man never talks big casually. He will keep a proper silence and speak clearly but not noisily. Just drink a little wine and tell your story all over the table. You can hear it in half a room without a speaker. This kind of man will make the audience laugh at most, and no one will take your so-called "road to struggle" to heart.

Third, they are knowledgeable and reserved: they read books, accept new things and information, and constantly enrich their connotations. But they don't make public, their talents will only be displayed when necessary, and they will never deliberately show off to satisfy vanity. They are like mellow wine, the more you taste, the more delicious it becomes.

Fourth, broad-minded: mature men don't haggle over every ounce, don't covet petty advantages, don't care about small losses, and don't complain endlessly. Their eyes are never caught by trivial matters, and they are often "angels who turn back first" in small family quarrels.

Five, not self-centered: mature men respect themselves and know how to respect others. They are good at empathy, will consider problems from the standpoint of others, do not force others to accommodate themselves, and are good at cooperating with others. All men "like me" are typical little emperors and have not grown up.

6. Dare to admit mistakes: Mature men are not stubborn, can accept different opinions and are good at adopting good suggestions. They have the courage to bear the consequences of their improper decisions and never make excuses.

Seven. Strong-willed: Mature men have the psychological quality of never being confused. Once they set their own goal, they will work towards it. When encountering setbacks, they will analyze the reasons, learn lessons and correct their direction in time, but they will never give up easily. They will be very tired, but after the rest, they will start with confidence.

Eight, clean and tidy: mature men respect their appearance. They keep the hairstyle that suits them best, their chins are clean and stubble-free, their faces are not greasy, and they don't leave long nails. Clothes don't have to be famous brands, but they should be neat and generous, and they won't be wrinkled like couriers. They will never wear black shoes with white socks or travel in suits.

Respect for the old and love for the young: Mature men are caring, have a sense of social responsibility and have the traditional virtues of the Chinese nation. He will give his seat to the elderly and pregnant women, donate money and materials to the disaster areas, help out-of-school children and donate blood voluntarily ... they may not do all these things, but they will never do nothing.

Ten, have hobbies: They are not robots who only know how to work, but know how to use hobbies to adjust their tense nerves, which makes them interesting. No wonder women say that men with hobbies are not easy to go bad.

Second, mature performance.

A man needs tempering to mature.

1. Maturity shows honesty

Honesty is defined here as-facing anything bravely and honestly. It's as easy to say as eating, but harder to do than you think. It's not as difficult as climbing Mount Everest. I remember Bai Yang, a writer from Taiwan Province Province, wrote an article "Ugly China People". I remember a passage in the book: One of the ugliness of China people is that "when a person makes a mistake, he will cover up the first mistake with ten or even twenty mistakes". This sounds a little tolerant, but it seems to be as common as air in our life. Simply put, someone lies for a wrong behavior. Most men lie to another woman that they are single outside, with obvious intentions and purposes. After his goal is achieved, he will be forced to confess to one side because of the painful life like a splint on both sides. Now the society is advocating plain code consumption, and consumers have the right to get detailed information about products from merchants before consumption. Here, it is difficult for consumers (women) to get a clear possibility of consumption. By the way, it's hard to complain about this kind of counterfeiting.

Honestly, why don't you try it? !

2. Maturity shows two desires.

A person must have a desire, and with a strong desire, there will be a movement process to achieve it. What excites girls the most and makes them proud and excited is the pleasure of watching the man they love realize step by step and reach the peak of their career. Looking back, isn't the whole process of desire movement the growth process of a mature man? I have always heard a saying: men, it doesn't matter if they have no money, but they must have "talent." I believe this sentence is to express this meaning! It can also be seen from this sentence that every qualified woman wants to participate in the growth of a mature man. Even if she is unqualified, she at least wants to see him realize her wishes. This is what women are willing to pay. It will also be a moment for mature men to be proud of. Girls have a process of expecting boys. Once the expectation comes true, this process will be the greatest wealth in life.

3. Mature performance three tolerance

Tolerance here refers to a kind of tolerance unique to mature men. This kind of tolerance and forbearance is reflected in the behavior of treating things and others. Tolerance itself is a virtue, and tolerance is an extension of tolerance, tailored for men. Just like men's cologne. You can also compare it to gentlemanly manners. If a man shows his tolerance when he encounters difficulties, he shows his familiarity with things and personal charm to varying degrees. If a man shows tolerance when dealing with others, he will be recognized and respected by others.

Combine the above three points and sum up.

A mature man is the dream of all women. If a mature man is compared to a diamond ring that women yearn for:

Tolerance-the size of a platinum diamond ring implies whether his tolerance and tolerance can be accepted by her;

Desire-the carat of the diamond ring means that his career is directly proportional to the carat of the diamond;

Honesty-the inner refraction of diamond means that it is the inner shining point of a man.

Adult men are not necessarily mature. However, every adult man does not want to be an immature role in the eyes of his female companion.

1, a mature man should have an economic foundation. Since people use gold to describe a bumper harvest, women naturally use money to judge men's maturity.

2. Mature men should have a career foundation. Maybe not every man can make a fortune, but if you think you have accomplished nothing, how can you stand in the eyes of women?

Mature men know what they want, not everything. Know how to persist and know how to give up.

Mature men dare to take responsibility, although some faults are not entirely caused by him.

5, mature men are tolerant, and excessive care is the most unforgivable mistake of men.

6. Mature men are wise, not clever.

7. A mature man's words and deeds can make a woman learn a lot, while a young man can only let a woman teach him.

8. A mature man knows how to cherish and take care of women and how to go out for an outing. He must not be the first person to run alone.

9. Mature men don't quarrel with women in the street.

10, a mature man will not force a woman to wear clothes that he likes but she doesn't like.

1 1. Mature men don't play low-level jokes on women casually.

12. A mature man lets a woman know that she is wrong, but he won't make her lose face.

13, mature men make women relax without making women nervous.

14, a mature man will train his son into a real man.

Methods: In fact, maturity is ultimately about doing things and being a man, and there is no shortcut.