What is growth thinking?

When I first came into contact with this, I listened to a passage from the book Lifelong Growth by Fan Deng. At that time, I felt that my brain was wide open and there was a feeling of awakening. What can I say? I just feel that there is light ahead, there is hope in life, and I have unlimited possibilities ~

Recently, due to the training requirements of the company, I have read this book intensively, and now I have read two thirds; Books are really good books. It's just that foreigners write books and always like to borrow quotations from others. Obviously, two examples can make sense. If you have to cite more than 10, it will make people feel verbose.

My understanding of growth thinking means that people's ideas and ways of thinking are not fixed. In a person's growth experience, everything seen, learned and experienced can promote people's development and growth to a certain extent. It is not determined by human's talent, personality, behavior, literacy and other related internal or external factors, nor by human's behavior at a certain moment.

I used to hear people say, "Look at the old at three, look at the old at seven." When I was a child, I listened to my parents nagging. Adults may think that this is just to motivate children, but now I think how scared children should be when they hear this sentence. For example, when I was young, I didn't know how to be clean and hygienic. I always only wash the face in the center, and the scope of "unwilling" washing is a little bigger. Every time my mother sees it, I always think, "It's over, I'll grow up like this." But when I really grew up, I naturally learned to wash my face and neck, just as my mother expected. Now that I have a child, I always feel funny when I see a child only washing his face, but I can never say something like my mother, "Look at the old at three years old and look at the old at seven years old." Actually, I still don't quite understand why children always wash their faces in the center. Maybe they can't control how to throw water on their faces. )

I'm not sure if I have growth thinking, but I feel that every time I encounter a problem or work, there is always hope when I am in pain: "I should be different if I get through this!" " "So, every time I stumble and stumble, although I may make little progress or pay a painful price, there will always be a little progress.

In the education of children, I always feel that no matter what the children are now, they can't decide their future direction. Just like my teammates always tell me, "I was very flexible when I was young, and this child is nothing like me", or "This child has such big feet and has grown up …", or "This child loves snacks so much and has grown up …", I feel very sad every time I hear such words. Physical quality, personality cultivation and other factors can't be said to have no influence on people's future, but people's life is so long, there are so many things to learn, so many things to do and so many scenery to see. How can we know that there is no chance to stop and reflect and change during the journey?

In terms of intimacy, I used to prefer fixed thinking. At the earliest time, I always liked to watch the constellation theory or various marriage matching theories. Whenever something happens, I always like to sit in the right position and ask for trouble. In life, if there are some contradictions or conflicts, they often end up with personality disagreement, three views disagreement or inability to communicate. In this way, I stumbled for more than ten years. In fact, in retrospect, many changes have actually taken place between two people. Whether it is good or bad, in the running-in of each other, there have been many tacit understandings that others can't replace.

Recently, I always feel that every family has its own unique way to get along with each other, and the model of each family is unrepeatable. No matter how it is publicized and interpreted in books, TV and chicken soup, real life still needs two people to explore the life code belonging to them.

2020/817 23: 00 Beijing time