A love story of "women are superior to men"

Speaking of our family's love story, we can only describe it in eight words: the same strain, women are superior to men.

This should start with my grandparents (in fact, they are my grandparents, but I have been close to them since I was a child, so I won't change my mind). Have you noticed that I put my grandmother first, because as long as I can remember, my grandmother has an absolute right to speak in this family.

? The combination of grandparents is sloppy. At that time, arranged marriage was popular, and I don't know where Taigong got his inspiration. Suddenly, I have to choose a husband for my grandmother in Zhujiacun, five miles away, and I must invite the other person to come to the door. To tell the truth, it was quite shameful to be a door-to-door son-in-law, which is why it also has a less elegant saying called Daomenzi.

? Who should I choose? Finally, Taigong turned his attention to my grandfather's house, which has three sons. But I fell in love with the boss at first sight, because the boss's cleverness spread all over Zhujiacun. But in this way, grandpa's father will be unhappy. If you send the most intelligent boss to be your son-in-law, it's like cutting a piece of meat in his heart. So he thought of the other two sons. Although the younger son is not as clever as the older brother, he is also outgoing, has a wide range of friends and is handsome. He will definitely talk about his wife in the future. But if you look at the second child, that is, my grandfather, it is different. He is not only plain, but also introverted and honest. Which girl can you please when you talk about marriage in the future? So he made up his mind on striking the table and became the second child.

? Finally, I don't know how the two elders reached an agreement. Anyway, my grandma and grandpa finally got married. But grandpa sacrificed a lot. Not only did he move to my grandmother's house and change his surname, but even his name was only one word short of my grandmother's.

As a result, my grandfather's oppressed marriage life began, and he was extremely excited.

Every morning at about four o'clock, grandma will get up to boil water, first fill four hot kettles, then make tea, and then put shortcakes, moon cakes and other snacks on the table. Last step, wake up grandpa.

This looks beautiful, but perhaps most people don't realize that all misfortunes begin with unexpected luck.

Grandparents have a lot of cats and dogs at home. Cats can barely accept it because they can catch mice, but dogs are really unpopular with grandma because they eat too much. Then why keep it? Because grandpa likes it, others will never know how many good words grandpa will say to grandma to keep a dog.

Every time I have morning tea, cats and dogs will sit around the table. I didn't respond at this time, but my grandmother was very angry when she heard them scream, and sometimes she took a whip to catch it. Fortunately, grandpa always protects me. Not only that, sometimes grandpa will hold a cat in his arms and feed the shortbread on the table directly. In this way, other cats and dogs gathered around and picked up grandpa's body. Grandpa not only didn't drive away, but broke off the shortbread and put it on his lap for them to eat. Every time this time, I can predict what will happen next.

? Grandma was so angry that she lost the cup in her hand and stood up and scolded, "You slovenly, can you get dressed?" You say, which trouser legs have not been scratched by cat claws and which have no black paint, look for yourself, don't wash them, those claws are all on the ground, still in your body, and the shortbread is eaten ... "Sometimes in this scene, grandma can scold for more than an hour, and she will be angry, and even find a whip to catch those cats and dogs.

? However, if grandpa doesn't obey the whip, he will argue confidently, "It doesn't matter if you scold me, they can't fight, what do they know?"

? I have been a coward for decades, so grandpa dares to stand up and argue with grandma about it, because he really loves those little guys.

? Sometimes grandma gives in and loses her temper, but if she doesn't turn around and give in, it's all over. Once I saw grandpa's eyes red with anger and couldn't say a word, while grandma was so angry that she went outside and picked up a glass bottle to knock grandpa's leg, but no matter how hard she knocked grandpa, she refused to fight back or stop. After grandma knocked on the door, he would take the initiative to help grandma who was so angry that she collapsed on the ground, then put her on the bed and said nothing.

? But at that time, I didn't feel sorry for my grandfather at all. I felt too timid and thought I would never find such a partner again.

? But grandpa's cowardice goes far beyond that. It's about feeding shortbread to cats and dogs. Grandma says dirty clothes are hard to wash, so she seldom wears new clothes. Every time he opens the closet, the new clothes that the children bought him a few years ago are still there, and he still comes and goes with those rags. Sometimes children really can't stand it, so they take turns to persuade them, "Dad, it's not that we don't buy clothes for you at home. Why do you always wear old and worn clothes? On the surface, people don't say anything, but secretly they will say that we are not filial to you and don't want to buy clothes for you. "

? But grandpa didn't take it seriously at all. "Let people say what they say. The new clothes are there, I'm afraid I won't wear them. Why should I be so decent as a farmer? " Finally, I can't help but add a weak one. "I am mainly afraid of wearing dirty clothes. Your mother is hard to wash. How to wash the old ones will do. " Everyone is afraid to say anything after hearing the truth. After all, everyone knows grandma's character.

Because of their love for grandpa, their parents once secretly gave him money. Who knows that when I turned around, Grandpa gave it to Grandma before landing. I haven't forgotten to say, "my child gave it to me, so I'm afraid it will fall." Please keep it safe. " Is it really embarrassing? Later, everyone asked why, and grandpa said that he was afraid that grandma would not say anything when she saw the money. The answer-more embarrassing.

Since we got married, my grandfather never dared to have private money again. Sometimes it is rare for neighboring villages to sing in operas. My grandfather walked for a few hours to see it, and my grandmother was only willing to give me ten yuan of pocket money, and she never forgot to say, "Don't waste money, buy melon seeds to eat under the stage." Ok, ten dollars for melon seeds is enough. I'm full. Talking too much feels like tears, but even this grandfather is not willing to spend. Sometimes he takes back eight dollars and five dollars, and most of the time it is intact. At first, grandma was curious and asked him why he didn't spend a penny. He always replied that he couldn't go to the theatre, and then he gradually stopped asking. Grandpa only spent it once. As soon as he got home, he excitedly put his hand into his coat pocket. Then he took out a gold chain with a Buddha pendant and a wooden bead bracelet for me. He said that he bought it under the stage, like five dollars, and bought two kinds. At that time, my grandfather smiled foolishly, and my tears almost came out.

? But unfortunately, I put all my beloved things in an iron box and buried them. I thought it would be meaningful to take them out after many years. But now I can't remember where it is buried. There are two things in that tin box.

Later, I also begged my grandmother to give my grandfather more pocket money, but in the end, my grandmother refused on the grounds that my grandfather could not spend all the money.

At first, I really thought grandpa was a coward, and he was a little disgusted! But later, unconsciously mixed with a little love, and this love will deepen with the years.

It's still like this. Every time grandpa goes out to buy food by bike, grandma will talk to him for a long time. What are the specific instructions? It's just that you want to buy fresh vegetables, how much each dish costs, and then calculate the general ledger, and you have to come back and hand in any extra points.

? That's what marriage was like at that time. Originally plain and trivial, so simple that people don't look like love at all, but they can withstand a lifetime of polishing.

? A few years ago, my parents bought a house in the county, and I lived alone in it, preparing for the exam while recovering from illness. My grandparents called to say that they would come to see me the next morning. When I met them at the station that day, I saw my grandmother's eyes were cloudy and my grandfather's back was hunched. They embraced each other and came to me relying on each other. I suddenly realized that this seems to be the most beautiful appearance of love.

? Grandma agreed to stay with me for a few nights, and grandpa insisted on going back, saying that there were many livestock and people at home. Maybe you don't know how far it is from the village to the county seat, but I do. They have to walk ten miles to get on the bus at other village entrances, and then they have to drive for nearly an hour to get to the station in the county. Grandpa walked to the door and didn't forget to turn back and say to grandma, "Go back tomorrow and ask Lulu to call me, and I'll pick you up."

After grandpa left, grandma said that she married right, and grandpa was still so kind to her. However, later she realized another terrible thing. She forgot to give her grandpa the key to her house. At that time, grandma clamored to go back, but when I dialed grandpa's phone for grandma, he said calmly, "Don't worry, I came in." Grandma quickly asked, "I forgot to give you the key." How did you get in? " Grandpa smiled and said, "The front yard wall is short, so you can come in as soon as you turn it over."

? That year, grandpa was over seventy years old.

? I sent grandma home early the next morning. On the way back, I began to envy that unpretentious love, and suddenly wanted to find someone like grandpa-practical.

? Grandparents first, then parents. Talking about their love story is definitely brain-burning. Three days of small quarrels, five days of big quarrels, endless.

What the hell is going on? Without examples of parents, my mother wants to learn from her grandmother and hold her husband firmly in her hand. But dad is not grandpa after all, and she can take care of him easily.

? In my impression, my dad just loves freedom, lives away from home and has many friends. I really can't stand that I have many friends. Not only is my mother annoyed, but I am also angry.

Invite someone back for dinner if you have something to do. Today, Zhang San, tomorrow, Li Si, and Tian Hou Ma Zi. Eating is half a day, smoking and drinking continue. Every time I read it outside the door, I want to lift the table and leave, but to be honest, I don't have the guts. When I was a child, I was an expert at throwing away chopsticks when my father saw me before meals. But my mother is different from me. She has a bad temper. Most of the time, I saw them blushing and almost fighting.

Once in my memory, I especially liked chatting with an uncle who often came to our village. At that time, I thought he was very interesting, and I was very happy to chat with him. But my mother couldn't stand it and called me outside to scold. I was very wronged at that time, crying that my uncle was very nice, he was willing to talk to me, and I also liked to play with him. But my mother said, "You just don't kiss your parents, you just kiss people outside." I didn't expect myself to break out at once, crying and shouting, "You don't understand me at all, so we will quarrel." And ran out for a long time.

But after that, nothing has changed. Every time my father comes back late from a friend's house, my mother locks the door. Then dad repeatedly told her not to drive, and then they quarreled. But my father always found a way to open the door. Just because my father is always away from home, I have given him many nicknames in private, such as "savage" and "flower-footed cat".

? Later, I asked my grandmother if she arranged for them to be together. Grandma said my mother had to marry. At that time, the relationship between the two families was not good, and she did not intend to agree. My mother is still crying.

? God, it's not an arranged marriage to argue so fiercely every day. Refresh my world view.

? Later I went to ask my parents how they got together. Who knows that my mother actually replied proudly: "It's not your father yet. When I had nothing to do, I ran to my house to peel corn and harvest peanuts. Where are you going to work? Obviously, I want to marry someone's daughter. " To tell you the truth, I almost lost my chin, and my father strongly denied it, but then I dug up a photo of my mother when she was young, shoulder-length black hair and clothes in the moonlight in my grandmother's drawer. It looks pure, and I believe it.

Later, my mother went out to work, and my father went out a few years later. I don't know if life outside is bitter, but they are beginning to know how to cherish each other.

One summer vacation, they picked me up to play, only to find that they stopped quarreling. As far as I can remember, my father was cooking smokily in the kitchen. Soon, he brought out the dishes, while my mother and I were chatting and eating at the dinner table. Just as this plate was finished, the next one came out. I don't have to be scared off chopsticks just because I eat meat before meals, because this time my mother is here and someone is supporting me.

However, there is also a disadvantage, that is, dad became a nag, and then your shoes were misplaced, and then you used something and didn't accept it. Anyway, it's next to me and mom. This time I gave him a new nickname-Guan Gugong.

It was after I left school that I discovered that their mode of getting along had changed. At that time, my mother learned from my grandmother's skills and paid attention to the economy for my father. To what extent? When I caught my dad, I felt that there was no love in this world, and I was like a lonely old man. When I was talking, my mother didn't ask him about his recent situation or care about his health. I am a daughter, too. At that time, God mended the knife: "Then if you hand it in on time, she won't have to stare." I guess all the women in our family know this.

But my dad is my dad after all. Even under such strict economic management, he can still keep a small pocket. Once my mother was ill in hospital and complained that she had no cash. He advised her not to worry, and then suddenly took out tens of thousands of private money.

But my mother didn't lose her temper that time because my father took good care of him. Just delivering meals and vigils. The night after the operation, my mother had a backache, and my father sat by the bed and pressed her all night.

? Of course, I also heard that once my dad slept too loudly during the vigil, and the patients in other beds couldn't sleep, so my mother picked up slippers and woke him up.

Later, when I was discharged from the hospital, my stingy mother actually bought a tens of thousands of big gold chains for my father, only a few thousand for me and myself. As a result, my dad said that it didn't take long to bring enough and let my mother change the bracelet, but so far my mother is still reluctant.

In this relationship of "women are superior to men", although my father never gave up fighting, I still think he will give in to his mother's arrogance sooner or later.

? Finally, let's talk about our husband and wife. Because I am the only child in my family, I grew up listening to my grandparents, parents and even seven aunts around me. "Lulu, when you grow up, you can't marry far away. You are the only one at home and you can't leave the county. "

"Well, all right." I remember my clever answer. "I will never marry out of the county when I grow up." Anyway, I've never been out of the county. Let's talk about it first.

? It's just a verbal agreement. I'm not at ease. As soon as I reached the age of marriage, my parents couldn't wait to arrange it for me. I chose a fat man at the village entrance. Indeed, I'm not value-conscious, but I can't stand being fat. Besides, I am possessed by a Chinese odyssey, and I firmly believe that my other half will definitely marry me in the future. Fat man is so heavy. How can Caiyun stand it? Later, they refused to give up and chose the sons of other village veterinarians for me. I have nothing against the profession of veterinary medicine, and there is nothing wrong with their son, who is thin. But his father is unfriendly. When he came to my house to vaccinate livestock, he asked my grandfather for a bag to take away the yellow wax stones I picked up and piled up at the door, saying that it was taken back to decorate the fish tank. But they don't know that those yellow wax stones dug out of the stone pile and cleaned up are my life. I remember standing at the door, looking at the slightly empty yellow wax stone pile, and secretly making a determined effort. So, this time it's yellow before it starts.

Later, under the persuasion of my parents, I finally agreed to live and work in other places with them. But unexpectedly, this time, I found a son-in-law for them in Chongqing. Is this a surprise? I forgot to reveal it before. Our family is from Anhui. And this time I confessed first.

I remember it was a very ordinary night. I accidentally saw the constellation and found that Aries should confess the next day. Then the next day, when I walked to the bathroom in the store, I thought of something halfway. Then I stepped back and stood in front of him, looked him in the eye and asked, "Do you have a girlfriend?" I remember he froze for a long time and asked me, "Who asked?" At that time, my little head really couldn't turn around and thought I was right in front of you. Why do you ask such a question? Did I get rejected? But I still don't give up. I looked at him with big innocent eyes and said, "I asked." Right under my nose, he turned red and hid in the room. I'm confused. It took me a long time to see him come out. He was still very shy and said weakly, "No", and then I took the opportunity to ask, "Can I be your girlfriend?" He said yes. So our love story began.

? In fact, I felt very guilty afterwards, because although I worked together in the store for more than a year, I hardly talked. Only once at work did I see him take care of his female colleagues. I envy him and wish I could be taken care of by him in my life.

Although I lost my advantage in love by taking the initiative to confess, I quickly regained the initiative by opening low and going high.

I have been exposed to grandma's strict control over grandpa's pocket money since I was a child. After I confirmed that my boyfriend would like to accompany me to settle in Anhui in the future, I firmly grasped the economic power. Complaining about the disadvantages on the grounds of her boyfriend's salary moonlight: what if she is sick and has no money for treatment? What if you want to start a business and have no savings? What should I do if I want to go home for the Spring Festival and have no travel expenses? Finally, it is also a fatal blow. What if you want to get married and have no conditions? My boyfriend suddenly woke up and took pains to transfer my monthly salary to me. I remember I sighed and shook my head helplessly and said, "If I really want to be with you for a long time, I don't want to worry about it!" "

I thought I was just grasping the economy, but I didn't expect to buy one get one free, and I also emptied his circle of friends. From my ex-boyfriend and my dad, there are always three Li, four Wang and two pockmarked people drinking and singing. It's no problem to ask for leave from work. It was all for him to decompress and relax, and then it was staged that he wouldn't answer my phone. No matter how I tried to persuade him, he refused to give in. He bluntly said that I didn't understand their brotherhood. Talk about this young man for one minute, and talk about the midnight karaoke bar for one minute until you burst into tears. But unfortunately, after his salary was paid, everyone gradually disappeared. It's true: ten years of life-and-death friendship broke down when economic strength fell. Hey, you're right.

So, man, when your wallet is empty, maybe there are not only withered wild flowers outside, but also distant brothers. Is it graphic?

After the completion of the economy, it is a very important item in life-eating and drinking Lazar is the first. To put it simply, I'm determined not to cook. I borrowed it from my mother.

As the saying goes, ten fingers don't touch spring water, and jade noodles don't destroy the smell of oil smoke. Okay, I'm exaggerating But I firmly believe that doing it once or twice is a surprise. After ten or twenty years, I will definitely become a yellow-faced woman. If you think about it carefully, you will find that there is a causal relationship. As long as you praise it with your heart every time, he will not be willing to do it.

? So, I praised my boyfriend for his delicious cooking until he went out to learn to cook. After I came back, I praised him even more. Because it's really delicious this time.

? Later, when he became my husband, I realized that there are two unwritten family rules in my family: one is that women manage money, and the other is that men cook.

? After I got married, I got pregnant. At that time, I not only had the joy and expectation of welcoming a new life, but also strongly worried about my husband's anxiety about son preference. After all, there is no guarantee of having boys and girls. So I tested my husband.

"Han Han, do you want a boy or a girl?"

? As a result, he replied, "What's so good about girls? You have to have a son if you want to have a son. " It never occurred to him that this might be a survival test.

? At that time, there seemed to be thousands of voices urging me to rush up and fan him to death, but I just stood there doing nothing. And I comforted myself again and again in my heart, "I am a person who wants to be a mother." I should be gentle, kind and compassionate. "

? Since then, I have been a top performer, telling him dozens of times about the girl I like every day. This is of course true, but more importantly, I want him to be psychologically prepared to accept my daughter. Talking when playing games cross-legged, talking when eating drama, talking when writing and reading, and talking when waking up in the middle of the night.

? But only once, I was extremely emotional. I casually hugged him from behind him who was busy in the kitchen, then put the pillow on his back and said softly, "Hanhan, I really like girls." I want to dress her and braid her hair. I want to dress her up as a princess. " But I know you don't like girls. What if I really gave birth to a daughter? "At that time, hundreds of steel mills became soft. He suddenly turned around and hugged me and said emotionally, "Who said I don't like girls? I like boys, children, children. "One afternoon a few days later, as a school scum, he read poems for several hours, and then recited to me," On the sparse phoenix tree, there is a phoenix living. "I was at a loss. As a result, he said, "Shu Tong, this is the name I gave our daughter. "

Then I really gave birth to a daughter. Although someone took care of me in the second month, it was him who accompanied my daughter and me at night. I'm not the only one brushing. Hey. I have to take care of my newborn daughter, but this is not a good nursing advocate. When I closed my eyes, I fell asleep. I wake up crying, but I don't know how to nurse. No matter how hard I tried, three or four hours passed and I didn't eat a drop of milk. The baby yawned again, and he was completely angry. He rolled up his sleeves, hugged his sleeping daughter and suddenly stood up. I thought I was going to fight, but I saw him sit down carefully again, chanting, "Look at these eyes, look at this mouth, look at the distance between the five senses." So many children push to take a bath every day, I have never seen anything more beautiful than my daughter. " I was just about to say something, but I found that his eyes couldn't take off his daughter. He should talk to himself.

? He took care of us every day, until I was out of the month and someone else took care of me, and he reluctantly went out to work. Before going, he agreed that his daughter should take my surname, and said that having a daughter was enough, and he felt that happiness was almost overflowing.

? After he left, I thought about what he said to me at the wedding for countless nights. He said, "I will take good care of you." What a plain sentence, but it's great to do it.

Later, I took my children to meet him in other places. This small room is full of happy fireworks.

Sometimes I miss grandma's phone call. We talked very simply on the phone. Sometimes we asked about the weather, and sometimes we said three meals a day. Grandma has a bad stomach, but she can't help but put a handful of peppers in the dish, saying it would be tasteless. I said tomato and egg soup is also good, sweet and sour. But grandma said, "I do like it, but your grandfather doesn't like it, so I seldom do it."

Although it is a simple answer, I seem to feel the feeling of caring for each other for many years at once.

? After hanging up the phone, I thought a lot. I think that in love, Han Han said that his greatest wish is to sing while playing the guitar. Then one day, I suddenly gave him a guitar. He turned and hugged me for a long time without saying a word.

Another time, he took me out to play and wanted to buy me a comb, but I knew he had only a few hundred dollars on him at that time, and the comb was very expensive, so I kept saying I didn't like it, and then I dragged him out. But he came to me early the next morning and opened the red gift box in his hand. It contained the comb he wanted to give me. I picked it up and looked at it carefully. The magpie pattern painted on it is really beautiful.

Something seems to be changing quietly, and I began to enjoy cooking for him. Yesterday, tomato brisket, today's Luo Songtang, tomorrow, I will think of something different. It doesn't matter what a yellow-faced woman is.

I began to relax his economy again. Sometimes I'm afraid that he can't eat well outside on the day of work, and sometimes I'm afraid that he has no money to eat with his colleagues occasionally. Sometimes I just feel that he has worked hard and want to be nice to him.

But as soon as he comes back, he will still give me the money awarded by the unit, saying that he is afraid of losing it. At that moment, I suddenly felt that he was more and more like my grandfather.

? One day I received two boxes of wine from my father, saying they were for my son-in-law. I went back to WeChat and said, "I don't have to spend money to buy it for him. I will give him money to buy wine." Who knows, the father on the other end of the phone said angrily, "I don't know you yet, just like your mother."

I just want to explain something. Who knows that there is new news in the WeChat family group? My mother just sent: "Look at your son-in-law. The monthly salary will be transferred to Lulu as soon as it arrives. Look at yourself again. When didn't you wait for me to ask for it? Pay double next month. " Then add an irrefutable expression.

? I suddenly gave up the explanation, and my father was probably too depressed. Ha ha. He is the only one who is still dying, and suddenly wants to sing the sentence "Please forgive me for being bohemian all my life and loving freedom ..."

This is the love story of "women are superior to men" in our family. I hope my daughter can tell her when she grows up one day, starting with her parents and then passing it on from generation to generation.

? In fact, although love looks different, the feeling of happiness is the same. I hope we can all have a love story of "holding hands calmly and never giving up."

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