Guiguzi: Don't be too honest. These three routines are easy to learn.

As the most famous legend at the end of the Warring States Period, the theory founded by Mr. Gui Guzi, the ancestor of the strategist and strategist, is very practical. His students Shang Yang, Sun Bin, Pang Juan, Zhang Yi, Su Qin and others used Gui Guzi's theory to create their own achievements, which was admired by future generations. Then, as the inheritor of Mr. Guiguzi's spirit, what routines and means can we learn from it to help ourselves make ends meet?

The first routine: response symbol.

In the process of getting along, people will inevitably have disputes. If it is a dispute between friends, it will be easier to deal with it because everyone knows it. If it is two strangers, or people who meet for the first time, then we must take certain strategies.

First of all, we must gain each other's trust. Because in today's era, there are many liars, and everyone is born with a huge protective net, which wraps up their truest side layer by layer. At this time, you should take the initiative to walk into the other party and gain the trust of the other party by echoing, so that the defense of the other party will gradually disappear. After establishing a certain trust foundation, slowly instill your own ideas into each other and influence each other with your own words and deeds, and the result will naturally be better.

If the other party doesn't want to be beaten by you like this, and keeps his position, he will definitely let the right one in. Then you should adopt the strategy of long-term war of resistance, gradually reduce each other's defensive psychology, and exchange your sincerity for each other's trust. Although it will take a lot of time, the benefits will definitely exceed your expectations.

The second routine: fear it through friction.

In the face of some people who are timid or have never seen the world, we can use the strategy of "fear from fear" to force them to identify with themselves. By creating chaos around him so that he can't find a real solution, you can win in chaos and fish in troubled waters at this time. Although this routine seems a bit mean, in real life, this method is indeed the most effective. After all, when people are extremely confused and flustered, they will choose to go to the hospital in a hurry, so that you have the opportunity to become the person they trust most.

At this time, you can make use of your knowledge and resources, make suggestions for it, find the real crux, then prescribe the right medicine and finally reach a perfect ending.

Sometimes, when we do things as a person, if we give everything to the people around us at the beginning, others will not cherish it. It is better to create some confusion and twists and turns, so that the other party can understand your "pain" and "difficulty" and let the other party know that you are the one who really cares for him. Maybe at that time, the other party will listen to you.

But when using this routine, we must pay attention to the method and control the limit. If we frighten it too much or bring more serious consequences, it will not be worth the loss.

The third routine: confusion and confusion

When people are at the crossroads, there will always be such and such ideas, which is actually human nature. Of course, many people are firm at first, but as time goes on, many people will waver in their goals. If you add fuel to the fire at this time, it is easy to confuse the other party.

Although we pay attention to being honest with others, it is not right or wrong to let them enter our rhythm, control our thoughts and use each other to achieve our goals by such means. Self-protection is the first law of nature. As long as it's not too much, in fact, any means can be used.

In addition to the above three routines, there are actually many routines that can be used. For example, if you "get high", deliberately say a lot of compliments to each other, let them relax their vigilance, and then express their views and ideas, then it will naturally be much easier for the other party to promise you.

Another example is "micro-defense." When the other party puts forward his own point of view, you can try to deny the other party, see if the other party's position is firm, and then make your own choice. Some people who are not firm are easily pushed around by others, and this is where you can take advantage.

The city routine is deep, I want to go back to the countryside; Rural roads are slippery and people's hearts are complicated. When we are alive, we will always encounter such and such routines, either by others or by others. If we can understand this, our hearts will naturally be calm, and we can calmly deal with both routines and routines.