The Way of Family Harmony in the Book of Changes —— Divining the Family with Wind and Fire

At present, the family problem has become a big problem. Father and son turn against each other, brother and husband are at odds, and every family has its own problems. In my opinion, the family is harmonious and happy. The reason is that the home is gone. Then what is family? This is from Zhouyi. Eight, eight, sixty-four, thirty-seven, and the family of wind and fire, which mainly talks about the family.

From the perspective of divination, it is the divination of a woodpile, just like the picture above, with rafters above and fire below. This is getting more and more prosperous. Therefore, this first tells us that family members should live with each other instead of accommodating each other. The so-called mutual assistance means helping each other. He gives you a hand, you push him and support each other. This is very harmonious. But in reality, among family members, he said that you can't do it, and you said that he is not good. There are not a few people who undermine each other.

Oracle said, "Home is good for Ligustrum lucidum." Chastity is firm. Women are too important to a family. Not only for this family, but also for the whole family. One woman will affect three generations. Therefore, the word of family divination is one sentence: "It is good to have Ligustrum lucidum at home". That's all.

Family divination is too simple to explain the problem, so Confucius made a detailed annotation: "Hey, family, women are inside, men are outside, men and women are right, and heaven and earth are right." Family members are strict, and parents are strict. Father, son, brother, brother, husband and wife, family pair; Stay at home and the world will be stable. "

It is natural that women are at home, men are at home, women are at home, men are at home, which is different from the equality between men and women now. Men work for heaven, women work for Kun, and men and women keep their positions. That's right. The problem with many couples now is that they are in the wrong position. Except for women, men have lost their position, which is upside down.

Strict family, parents call it also. Mother is strict with father, and father must be strict. This is not as serious as Jia Zheng, who always frowns. This sternness refers to the principle, that is, the family way. If it violates the principles and family style, it must be severe. Fight when you should, and scold when you should. This is the seriousness. Therefore, parents are guardians of the family.

Wind and fire family, adding wood to the fire, means that some people get wood and others get fire, but only wood or fire is not enough. Men and women are righteous and heaven and earth are righteous. Pay attention to this orthography, which is the key. Combining yin and yang, combining rigidity and softness is positive. Zheng, in the Book of Changes, there are two other meanings, namely, winning the position and winning the position. Success means not doing things to extremes, and success means doing one's duty well.

How can I be right? Confucius later said: "Father, son, brother, brother, husband, wife and family are all right;" Stay at home and the world will be stable. "

Father, son, what does this mean? The former is a noun, and the latter is a verb, father and father, which means that a father should be like a father, a son like a son, a brother like a brother, and a husband like a husband.

Most of the current family problems are because fathers don't know what fathers should do, brothers don't know what brothers should do, and wives don't know what wives should do. If they are not in the right position, this home will be in chaos.

"Home is at home, the world is determined", and how can you talk about the world? This is probably the origin of "self-cultivation, keeping the family in order, governing the country and leveling the world". It is a matter of self-cultivation. Qijia is not the family we are looking for. The term "home" in ancient times refers to a family and a huge group, such as the Jia family in A Dream of Red Mansions and a big family, which was called home in ancient times. Putting a family together is to run a family well, and then expand it to run a surname group well. This is not a small team, but a large group of people. Home country, home country, expanded is the country.

Then how did these hexagrams come from? It is based on hexagrams. One hexagram has six hexagrams. From bottom to top, the first is a child, the second is a wife, the third is a close relative, the fourth is a brother and sister, the fifth is a husband, and the first is a parent.

The next divination in the family is the first divination, which represents children. Divination said, "If you have a free home, you will regret your death." Laziness is leisure prevention, prevention. Children, to manage him well, we should not only educate, but also teach. This is education. Watch out for the kids. Be careful of what? Be careful what he does wrong, he should correct it as soon as possible. However, for parents, what is Tao? What is positive? What's the matter? This is very important. Parents nowadays, to be honest, don't know much.

The second trick of family divination is the wife. Liu Yi said, "I have no friends, but Chinese food, and I am sincere." So, you can do whatever you want, just not too casually. If you feed in the middle, you will keep the middle way, which is what we often call female virtue (but nowadays people are afraid that many people don't even know what female virtue is). Chastity is solid, that is, you will stick to the right path In this case, you will be lucky. There are not many words here, but the meaning is very deep. What is a clock? How to keep chastity? Whether you can do it or not, can you really understand this problem?

People in the first Theory of Three Represents family. Prophecy said, "Family members are embarrassed, so they regret it, and women and children are always stingy." Embarrassed and severely denounced, home here refers to the head of the family, that is, parents. Parents should strictly control the family, so that even if someone does something wrong, there will be no big problem. However, if the girls at home are laughing and the children are willful, this is a sign of family decline.

The fourth is brothers and sisters. The divination says that "the family is rich and prosperous." Brothers and sisters must unite and live in harmony, and this family will prosper. However, look at today's society, many families, brothers are not harmonious, and such families are rarely strong.

The fifth is the husband. Oracle said, "Wang has a fake family, so I don't pity him." What's home here? As the head of the family, you should have family style, family style, family rules and family laws. As long as you can do things according to the family style and everything according to the rules, you won't be sympathetic, just don't worry, discipline, and everything will be smooth. However, the problem is now, there is no family.

For a long time as a parent, divination said: "You are blessed, you are awesome, and there will be blessings in the end." Blessing is honesty, prestige is prestige, and what is honesty? Or a family, according to the family, will have prestige, so that there will be luck in the end. Jia Mu in A Dream of Red Mansions and sourdrang dowager in Kangxi Dynasty should all be based on family divination. How to be a parent? Learn to be strong and do it.

These hexagrams are very complicated. Confucius summed them up as "father, son, brother, brother, husband and wife". This is the family way. It's easier said than done. Now that my home is gone, where has it gone? It was broken when it broke capitalism. This is the legendary five virtues-monarch and minister, father and son, brother, husband and wife, friend, and eight virtues-filial piety, filial piety, loyalty, faith, courtesy, righteousness, honesty and shame.

So, if the family is not harmonious, then ask yourself, you are a parent, have you played the role of mom and dad? If you were a child, did you do it yourself? If you are a husband, do you look like a husband? Does the wife look like a wife? Reflect like this, and then work hard to do it well, and this family will gradually get right. Don't blame, don't expect the other person to change, cultivate one's morality, cultivate one's morality first, cultivate one's morality, cultivate one's morality, not others!