What is the development process of friendship?

At different stages of life, people have different logic in seeking and developing friendship. Childhood friendship is easy to sprout, and friends are children who can play together. After entering adolescence, we begin to learn how to establish close relationship with a person who is not related by blood, and friendship becomes more complicated and meaningful.

At this time, an important factor affecting making friends is "proximity", which makes it easier for us to develop friendship with deskmates, neighbors and roommates, because friendship is always related to some specific and negotiable things: the same school and teacher, familiar community environment, the same dance class and so on. The interests and experiences that friends often share create a content that is crucial to friendship: * * empathy and equality.

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Another important link from acquaintance relationship to friend relationship is self-exposure. We can't always talk about irrelevant topics such as anger and interest, but touch on more intimate topics such as emotion and economy, and sometimes we even need to show our bad side. For example, boldly tell each other that they are actually facing great mortgage pressure, because of some of their bad habits, they always quarrel with their lovers. Beverly Faho, a social psychologist at the University of Winnipeg in Canada, mentioned in his book Friendship Processes that "a typical feature of changing from an acquaintance to a friend is the increase in the breadth and depth of self-exposure". This process is often advanced in this way: one party will risk revealing personal information to "test" whether the other party will respond accordingly. If both sides are willing to expose themselves, it is like getting a key to friendship.

We all make friends at different times, and we are constantly drifting away from some friends. This alienation often begins with the loss of closeness and superficial communication.