What do new friends talk about?

First, please remember that silence is not as terrible as you think, so don't rush to break the embarrassment. Mayday singing: I am most afraid of the sudden silence of the air. So I was anxious to break the silence, which made the atmosphere very awkward. When two people have nothing to say, as far as my experience is concerned, crustily skin of head will only get worse and worse. Don't worry, be silent for two seconds and see if the other person has anything to say. Sometimes the other person's topic is better than yours. As soon as he opens his mouth, you should take it and talk more about this topic. The other person will think you are very considerate. It's better than embarrassing him by asking. When there is quiet, you must feel relaxed and indifferent. It's natural for the other person to see you. He will think you are steady and even find you attractive. I have a friend who is a hottie. The first time I had dinner with him was at the wedding. He is a friend of men, and I am a friend of women. We chatted for a while, and then there was nothing to say. We waited for half a minute before we started talking about another topic. According to the news, it will be embarrassing, but seeing that he looks so natural and particularly comfortable, I actually feel quite normal and comfortable. Therefore, when chatting with anyone, you must have a normal heart. Even if you have nothing to say, don't worry. Stability comes first. Second, be sure to leave a message to the other party, and don't make a summary and evaluation speech. I once met a filmmaker and chatted for a while about several popular dramas. As soon as he opens his mouth, the movie should be no entertainment! Entertainment movies, that's not a movie, movies should have depth and taste! I don't want to say another word to him next. Did you get a look at him? When you meet for the first time, don't rush to comment and express your opinions, which is very risky. It is possible that the other party can't agree with your point of view at all. Venus once interviewed a guest and talked about having children. A woman's life is incomplete without children. In fact, this kind of chat is very bad in life, because you don't know how the other person views this problem. We are not gods, and no one can stipulate what movies should look like and what women should look like. If you define something, you will offend people who don't think so. So when we meet for the first time, we must not express too many opinions and comments. Besides, the concluding remarks are unacceptable. You ask each other: What are you going to do during the holiday? The other party said, go on a trip. You said that a good trip is good for both body and mind. -this kind of words is not easy to answer, understand? Have a nice trip. This is the concluding remarks. The other party can only say, uh-huh. You have to leave a message: Are you going to Thailand? I heard that there is a place in Thailand-will you go to this stop in your travel plan? The other party can then say: yes or no, if not, you can also ask, where are you going? Third, affirmation and praise. What is worse than a concluding speech is whether to make a qualitative speech or not. There are so many eleven people. What is the door? People who can do this are so stupid that they are basically hopeless. If they want to chat with others, they have to deny others and make them uncomfortable. what do you think? If you are a person who can't chat, you can follow the other person's words, smile and affirm his point of view, and then find some of his characteristics to praise. When she orders a dish, you can say: You are good at ordering. Are you in charge of ordering food when friends go out? The other party will be very happy. Trust me. We don't have to be the dominant topic to show our advantages. Even if you are really a person who can't chat at all, at least you can leave a comfortable impression by affirming and praising others. If you want to express yourself, you might as well wait until you know more about him. The fourth one can speak according to some obvious preferences of the other party. Once I stood in line to go to the bathroom with a girl I just met. This new relationship is the hardest to greet. I don't know what to say. It's awkward not to say anything. It happened that she took out a lipstick from her pocket, which belonged to ysl. I said at that time, where did you buy your ysl? I like this very much, but I can't find it in Beijing. She'll be online soon. Where did you get it? . . You might say, ah, you girls like to talk about this, horoscopes, cosmetics. Don't come to such a conclusion. In fact, I'm just a person who doesn't like to talk about constellations. I just want to say that when we first met, we didn't know each other. Pay attention to each other's characteristics, and then find clues to talk about. If it is online chat, you can look through his circle of friends first to see what he is interested in, and then talk. What do new friends talk about? How can such a strange chat break the deadlock? First of all, let me talk about my three points: 1, breaking ice is not a topic. Although it doesn't matter what the topic is, one condition must be met-safety (don't involve personal issues, such as talking about each other's names). 2. Any safe topic can be used as a starting point for chatting, and the key is how to expand it next. There are two kinds of icebreaking: the primary icebreaking is to let both sides avoid the embarrassment of having nothing to say, and the advanced icebreaking is to exchange some things that are really interesting to each other. Let's talk about the most common weather as the topic of primary icebreaking. People who can't chat will just say "it's a beautiful day" and then don't know what to say. The correct way to break the ice can be like this. Let's call it topic+state+feeling. As a preliminary judgment, "The weather is fine today" determines the starting point of the topic, and then we extend this judgment to an observable objective fact-the state. The state can be a phenomenon (such as a lot of people running on the road in the morning)-an observed phenomenon, or a behavior (I can finally take off my sweater)-a behavior. Specifically, it can be as follows: The weather is fine today, and there are many people running in the morning. Today's weather is really good. I can finally take off my sweater and join in the feeling (shallow feeling). There are two aspects to adding feelings: 1, which is convenient for the other party to pick up the topic. Because the state of the world is Qian Qian, but there are only dozens of shallow feelings of human beings, so shallow feelings are more likely to cause * * * in unfamiliar relationships. 2. If the other person doesn't pick up the topic, we can extend to the next state through the feeling just now. Repeat this pattern, theoretically you can always talk to yourself. For example, the weather is fine today, and there are many people running on the road in the morning. I am also eager to try (feel) that I haven't exercised for a long time, and my stomach is almost up (the other party doesn't pick up the topic, and I have extended to a new state). After the age of 30, the body is particularly prone to obesity (feeling). I attended a class reunion last week. A few people didn't recognize it. Time flies too fast (feeling). It's a fine day today. I can finally take off my sweater. I have an impulse to liberate myself. I'm going to travel to the south for a week while taking my annual leave (the other party doesn't pick up the topic, so I expand to a new state). I'm so excited that I can't sleep (feel) when I think about it. Can't sleep and catch up with American TV series. I finished "Game of Thrones" (state) in one breath. I am a person who can't control my favorite drama at all. What do you talk to your new friends? Suppose you know a celebrity, a world-class celebrity, what should you talk about? You don't want to talk about your major with each other, do you? Talk about your major or the other's major? Talking about your major, the other person may not be interested at all, or think you are selling. Are you really confident and insightful about his major? The other person is a tennis player. Do you really want to talk about tennis? Can this make each other happy? Can you please each other? Can't you? I met a math professor, and you discussed the math problems in primary school with him. Will he like it? It should be impossible to like it, because the levels are different. Unless you are a three-year-old child, maybe the professor will think you are cute. Even if you meet a world-class celebrity, you should introduce yourself straight to the point. If you think your information is valuable because you protect your privacy and don't disclose it at all, how can you be friends? For example, Huan Zi said that some students and employees can't see the circle of friends on WeChat, and they don't say their own information. How can I help you? I don't even know who you are. How can I help you? You may still feel that you don't understand you. Even if I don't know who you are, I can help you. Isn't that the fortune teller on the street? There are some masters who are proficient in the Book of Changes and gossip divination, but they are not in the street. We are professional in the workplace, but we can't treat each other equally, can we? After all, there are no two identical leaves in the world. It is helpful for you to know the situation. So, when you meet new friends. Whether you want to help your new friends or deepen your relationship with them, you have to reveal something, right? How do you make friends with CIA people? When we meet new friends, we should provide more information on our own initiative. Like your name, or even your nickname. There is a name. It's good. Better have a nickname. Because nicknames are often easier to remember, easier to get along with and easier to communicate with. You should also introduce your hometown, work and so on. Why do you want to introduce your hometown and work? When the villagers saw the villagers, their eyes were full of tears. Hometown is also a way to establish contact quickly. Introducing a job is also a way of revealing information, letting the other person know your occupation and helping to establish social ties. For example, you are all engaged in the internet, and it may be faster to find the same topic. That is, you should throw as many labels as possible, such as name, job, hometown, and so on. In this way, the other party can quickly find the basic similarities with you, which will help to quickly close the relationship. Introduce as much basic information as possible, but don't make it simple. About family situation and personal privacy, it's definitely hard to say. Every bosom friend has a thousand glasses of wine, and you may meet a new friend you like very much. But you don't know each other well enough, so it's better to be conservative, or there will be endless trouble. Therefore, as far as possible, speak without "dangerous" labels and talk less about depth.