After years of liking, how should we distinguish between obsession and love?

See if you will change yourself because you like each other. If you are stubborn, you will change unconditionally for each other. Love each other and respect you. You are yourself.

If you like someone, you will change yourself beyond recognition and unlock a new one. You never thought you could be so crazy about love, but in the end you don't understand, is this obsession or love, because that person didn't promise himself, so your feelings for him became obsession?

I know a girl who has changed a lot. At first, in my impression, she was a big girl who was spoiled by her family. She is a bit headstrong and arrogant, and can't do any housework, but she is kind. I think it's very simple in her world. I like it if I like it. If you don't like it, you don't like it. If others are really good to her, she will also pay sincerely. She is a straightforward person, without so many twists and turns.

Although she has a small temper, she is still likable. However, when she met a boy, she found herself changed. She began to learn to do housework. I remember that she always piled up her clothes and took them home to be washed by the washing machine. But later, in order to take care of a boy, she started washing clothes by herself. She will tidy up her things and clean them carefully.

Especially when it comes to cooking, I remember that she cooked at first, and the whole kitchen was a scene of disaster. But now she not only won't make a mess in the kitchen, but also cooks good dishes, especially the dishes that the man likes. She learned to make soup, because the man's stomach was bad, and because she liked him, she was changing herself and becoming a suitable person for him, but later she broke up.

Her love didn't bring two people together. Now she stopped, only to find that she didn't want to do anything, and she still couldn't let go of that person. This is a paranoid obsession.

There are two extreme experiences in liking someone. One is that you can like someone quickly, and the other is that it is difficult to like someone. When two people are together, it is also a bittersweet process. Your love can't be exchanged for two people, but it is considered as an obsession. And true love will make two people live happier and freer.