How to test whether your ex still loves you? My predecessor told you these three words.

In the process of redemption, one of the questions we want to ask each other most is "Do you still love me?" .

This answer means a lot to you, but it is so difficult to get a real answer from him. I believe you are the same, all kinds of entanglements and temptations, but you still can't get the answer you want.

How can I know what the other person really thinks?

Ask aggressively, he may have scruples;

Carefully probing, he may have hidden something;

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In fact, the best way is to observe!

There is a concept in psychology called "subconscious", and "slip of the tongue", "slip of the pen" and "subconscious action" in life can reflect his true inner thoughts.

Even if the other person's breakup attitude is firm and rational, his subconscious language will betray him. We can judge whether his heart still loves you by observing these three sentences of his predecessor.

The first sentence: don't tell everyone the news that we broke up.

For a boy, if he resolutely breaks up with you, he will send a single signal in the circle of friends, hoping that the whole world will know that he is single. This will help them get out of their emotional injuries faster and find new girlfriends.

If he tells you "don't tell others the news of the breakup" when breaking up, it means that he is probably hiding the fact of the breakup and leaving room for reunion.

This is because men are rational animals.

The book Selfish Genes describes that the selfish nature of human beings is gradually formed in the growth environment of natural selection. Rationality and sensibility are gradually evolved in such an environment and written into everyone's genes.

Rationality is a kind of thinking ability, which can make logical thinking according to the obtained information and make better strategic choices.

Perception is a solidified reason, which can make quick decisions based on a small amount of information and avoid danger.

In primitive times, women's physiological characteristics determined that they had a long pregnancy and lactation period. Their job is to collect fruits in groups and take care of children and the elderly. In other words, in order to survive, they must rely more on men, seek advantages and avoid disadvantages, and make a quick decision!

Because men are physically strong, they assume the responsibility of protecting women, children and young people, and cooperate with observing the distribution of prey and dangerous sources to choose the best time to hunt; While exploring the environment, choose the most favorable terrain as the base camp. Therefore, they must make rational decisions.

Therefore, when he told you not to announce the news of the breakup, he must have made a decision after rational thinking. On the one hand, it is to stabilize the situation first and leave room for later restructuring. On the other hand, let you draw a clear line first and let you give him enough safe space to think.

In any case, he didn't want to tell the public about the breakup, mostly because: in his heart, you are still on the same side.

Second sentence: I don't know why we broke up.

When he broke up, he showed sadness and kept sighing: "Why did this happen? How did we get to the day of breaking up? " .

If so, congratulations, he probably still has you in his heart.

Breaking up is an established fact, but his feelings show that he cherishes this relationship and still can't bear to part with you. The fact that he really wanted to end the relationship activated his "separation anxiety".

Dissociativeanxiety refers to the anxiety, uneasiness or unpleasant emotional reaction of infants who are separated from their relatives. That is, the sadness and pain that infants feel when they want to be separated from someone after having a close emotional bond, in order to express their refusal to be separated.

Everyone will have some degree of separation anxiety.

Psychology believes that the mode of getting along with parents in childhood will be solidified and derived from the intimate relationship in adulthood. Childhood separation anxiety will be derived into adulthood.

Our lives are faced with big and small differences, and we have to bear the anxiety of separation.

The first separation is when the baby leaves the mother's uterus (born on the ground);

The second separation is the separation of the baby from the mother's breast (weaning);

The third separation is that the baby leaves the mother's arms (walks);

The fourth separation is that children are sent to kindergartens (schools) by their parents;

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Separation is staged again and again, and anxiety is separated again and again.

Therefore, when his "separation anxiety" was activated, he loved you and didn't give up, mostly because of a fake breakup.

The third sentence: Don't persist in any difficulties in the future. Tell me and I'll try my best to help you.

Generally speaking, after breaking up, everyone is very happy and happy. You go your sunshine avenue, I'll go my wooden bridge. Especially when boys are determined to break up, they will never want to have any entanglement with the woman.

So after breaking up, he said, "Come to me when you are in trouble", mostly because he didn't trust you, and he still had pity and love for you, fearing that you couldn't handle the difficulties without him around.

Men want to help you as much as possible, mostly because of guilt.

Take breaking up as an example. Nobody wants to take the responsibility of breaking up, and neither does he. He doesn't want to blame himself, so he will try his best to alleviate his guilt.

I feel guilty if I like it. After breaking up, a man feels guilty about you mostly because he still loves you!

Above.

The above three sentences that the current president said to you show that he still loves you in his heart, and you still have a chance to save it. Only by grasping the timing of recovery can we control the rhythm, grasp the initiative and be comfortable in recovery!

If you find that he still has you in his heart, congratulations. If he is difficult to judge at the moment, don't worry, contact the senior, and the senior will help you!