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Chaozhou marriage custom

Although marriage is free now, I believe that the elderly in Jojo are more or less particular about weddings. Let's introduce the wedding customs in Chaozhou, so as to communicate and compare with the elders at home.

(This content is more popular. Except for some areas and people with religious beliefs, it is basically the custom of parents or elders to get married, but now some links are gradually simplified. )

marriage customs

In the old customs, men and women should have "three media" (domestic media, foreign media and China media) and "six certificates"-six rites, which are:

(1), proposal, the man proposes to the woman, and after obtaining the consent of the woman, the man formally proposes to her.

(2) When getting married, the matchmaker asks the woman for her name, place of origin and ancestors for three generations, and writes it on the Geng Tie and sends it to the man. Within three days, if there is nothing unlucky in the man's family (commonly known as the three-day shun), it is convenient for the man to give his Geng Tie to the woman, and the two sides will divine the marriage separately to determine whether they are born together or together.

(3) Engagement is called "engagement", "engagement" and "eating". Men prepare engagement gifts for women. Gifts are usually a pair of gold earrings or a gold ring, as well as cakes, candy, cigarettes and so on. , but the woman must return the gift. Both men and women should send cakes and sweets to relatives, friends and neighbors, and report for marriage. At this time, the marriage relationship came into effect.

4. Employment, also known as "sending employment". Before the Qing Dynasty and the early years of the Republic of China, rich people not only sent gold and silver treasures, silks and satins, but also pigs, sheep and wine. In addition to chicken wine, poor households also send betel nuts and leeks. At this time, the woman should return gifts and give cakes and candy to relatives, friends and neighbors.

⑤ Invitations, some of which are called "choosing an appointment", "sending an appointment" and "proposing an appointment". After the appointment, the man chooses the auspicious day to get married and informs the woman. At this time, relatives and friends of both the man and the woman should give gifts. The gift for the woman is also called "sending pollen".

The wedding ceremony means that the man goes to the woman's house to marry the bride. The form of the wedding reception is that the groom comes to pick up the bride, and the bride is accompanied by a "bridesmaid" sent by the woman. The whole wedding must be accompanied by a young mother from beginning to end, with "four sentences" in every link and many wedding procedures. When the bride goes out, she should give her brothers and sisters "points" and eat a "sister table"; When the bride arrives at the man's door, the groom should "kick open the sedan chair door" and "it is best to pull it out", and the bride should "cross the line of fire"; When the bride and groom enter the bridal chamber, they must have a "marriage" and meet their in-laws in the hall; When there is trouble in the bridal chamber, the young mother will sing with the guests on behalf of the bride. On the third day of the bride's wedding, the ceremony of "opening a well", "smashing rice heads" and "stirring rice" will be held; In three to five days, the bride will perform the ceremony of "visiting her mother", that is, "first return" and "second return". On the first and second visits, the bride must come back when she can't see her family cooking, and she can spend the night at her parents' house when she comes back at the full moon.