The relationship between family, friendship and love

The relationship between family, friendship and love.

Emotion is a spiritual need of human beings. People have secular desires, and there is a difference between emotion and desire. So why do we have emotions? What are the differences and connections between these emotions? Life is inseparable from three relationships, family, friendship and love. This is my view on these three relationships:

1. favorite

Affection is an innate blood relationship and an inseparable part of life.

Emotion is a kind of relationship that blood is thicker than water, and people can't choose or refuse.

Affection is to hate to itch after being hurt, but gnash your teeth to help each other clean up the mess and interrupt the relationship between bones and muscles.

The feelings of Luo Zijun's mother and daughter in the first half of their lives, no matter how often they dislike each other and how noisy they are, still have to stand up for their loved ones at the crucial moment.

2. Friendship

Friendship is the most important relationship in life, which is based on the consistency of three views and established in long-term work, study and life.

Most of the happy times in life are linked with friendship and are precious memories in life.

Friendship is a kind of affection that supports a person to get along in society, and it is a relationship that changes with the changes of conditions. .

In the first half of my life, Luo Zijun and Tang Jing grew up playing with their best friends, and they had many happy times. They can do anything for friendship, or they may go their separate ways because of the change of conditions.

3. Love

Love is a possessive relationship between two men and women through mutual attraction and admiration, which has strong exclusiveness.

Love is the best and sweetest relationship in life.

Love is elusive and easy to die. When I came, I was unstoppable. When I left, I left nothing but a sigh.

Luo Zijun had a love affair with Chen and separated after having a mistress.

Chen and Lingling had a love affair and separated after marriage.

He Han and Tang Jing had love. After He Han met Luo Zijun, the love between He Han and Tang Jing disappeared.

After love enters marriage, love can be transformed into family affection in the long-term day and night. Only when love is transformed into affection can it last for a long time, and only when love is transformed into affection can it support each other for a long life.

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Everyone has compassion and compassion.

Mencius said: "Everyone has compassion; Everyone has a heart of shame and evil; Everyone has a respectful heart; Everyone has a heart of right and wrong. " Mencius said that there are beautiful things in people's hearts. Compassion, shame, respect and right and wrong are inherent qualities of human beings. Since there are so many beautiful qualities in people's hearts, human nature is good. To this end, Mencius also cited an example. If a child is about to fall into a well, as others, we will certainly give him a hand. This is compassion, because there is love in everyone's heart and goodness in everyone's heart. This explanation is not unreasonable, but if you understand people's emotional needs, you may not feel so. This paper does not discuss the goodness and evil of human nature, but discusses where these so-called compassion, shame and respect come from. Is this a natural instinct or is it instilled in us by the cultivation of social life?

The needs and emotions of human existence

Survival and reproduction are two basic needs of human beings. Let's talk about survival needs first. We must have a living circle, in which we can help and support each other and get a safe living space through the existence of the team. In this space, we pay our own labor and provide corresponding help and feedback to others. When is this most obvious?

For example, if you travel or explore in the wild, if you go alone, you will have an uneasy state in your heart at this time. Go out with more friends, at least you will be more stable. If several people spend a long time alone in the desert, when you meet another group of explorers, you will feel very cordial and will definitely greet each other and talk to each other. If the other party needs help, you will spare no effort to help the other party on the premise of ensuring yourself. This is a kind of empathy. The affection between people is also the adhesive for people to form society.

Society is the sum of interpersonal relationships, and emotion is the bond of interpersonal relationships. We will have affection, friendship and love in society. Under the control of these emotions, we will establish interpersonal relationships. Individuals have relatives, friends and lovers in society. That's because individuals need the existence of these people and need to establish such emotional relationships in your life. If this relationship is not established, we will be eager to have it. There will be a force that drives you to want everything. This desire is just like our need for food, sleep and safety when we are hungry, sleepy and in danger. This is a primitive instinct.

People's social attribute is the driving force that dominates people's emotional desires.

People's social attributes are all kinds of attributes in the society they construct. If people don't build a society, they don't have social attributes. Why do people want to build a society is because a person can't survive in nature, not to mention other high-end enjoyment, even the most basic food and clothing may be difficult to solve, so people build a society, in which one plus one is greater than two, and with social people, they have social attributes. The motive force for people to build a society is people's desire for survival. In order to survive better, it is necessary to build a society and build a society. Therefore, the most basic connotation of people's social attribute is a need of people's life.

To live, we must build a society; Building a society requires the formation of various relationships and ties between people; If people want to have all kinds of relationships, they need something to push them. Who will pursue these feelings if there is no motivation? This is like having a voltage, there are conditions for forming a current. Without voltage, there will be no current. Therefore, there is such a driving force in human instinct to build a society, which is the driving force for the construction of our social attributes.

Therefore, driven by this source power, people need affection, friendship and love. It is with these emotions that there are various relationships between people, and the sum of relationships between people is society; Of course, ethics studies the law of the relationship between people.

To build a society, we need to formulate various social systems, and there will be morality. Under the constraint of moral power, social networks are complicated and intertwined, but they are operating in an orderly manner. Therefore, these emotional needs come from a primitive call and are the instinctive needs of human survival.

Comprehensive attributes of love

Some people can't tell love from sex. It is true that love comes from sexual attraction, but love is not equal to sex, because love is also mixed with emotional factors. Sex comes from the demand of human nature, and love contains both emotion and sex. It is a kind of synthesis, so love is the intersection of human social attributes and natural attributes, and finally human beings survive and reproduce under the control of love.