Gender psychology: Going out early and returning late may be the root of men's unhappy marriage. Home is like a hotel.

A man who goes out early and comes back late, who will accompany your woman?

In feelings, a man's love is always more rational than meticulous, and he often cannot understand a woman's mind and what she really cares about. As a result, he thought he was giving love, but he hurt a woman.

Some people say that over 80% of China people's marriages are just passable.

Judging from this data, the remaining 20% should be either happy or divorced.

In other words, it is possible that nearly 90% people in China are unhappy in marriage.

The Chinese Academy of Social Sciences conducted a sample survey before, and the survey results showed that 79.8% people thought that feelings were the most important factor in maintaining marriage, 1 1.6% people thought that children were the important factor in maintaining marriage, while economic factors only accounted for 1.3%.

Unfortunately, marriage is due to emotional problems and lack of emotion, which is the main source of China people's unfortunate marriage.

According to the survey in the Blue Book of Social Mentality published by the Psychological Research Center of China Academy of Social Sciences, the marital satisfaction of men in China is generally higher than that of women, and in terms of age, men over 50 years old have the highest marital satisfaction.

Some people say that when a man gets married, he has one more person to take care of himself; When a woman gets married, she has an eldest son.

Why are most women unhappy after marriage?

Because they often have to take care of their careers and families, when they are busy in these two aspects, they should always be alert to their aging speed and the chances of their husbands cheating.

After marriage, many women will find that when they are alone, life is very good. They want to find a partner and a safe haven. As a result, they found that the wind and rain of life were given by this companion.

Men have been fighting for their careers all their lives. Many men have a deep-rooted concept: the daughter-in-law is the master and I am in charge of the economy.

But they all forget that family is never a woman's business. If it weren't for a family of two, which woman would take off her dress and high heels, give up her job and social status and do housework for your baby without asking for anything in return?

Most men, after marriage, leave their women alone at home.

Women marry not for money, not for a house, but for love. They are often more concerned about male participation.

And most men, when they have finished what they should say outside, will only look into their wives' eyes and care about each other when they get home.

They feel that all their energy is spent on their work, so when they get home, they naturally stand up and play games, leaving the housework alone.

Women always pay more for their families, and men often don't realize it.

Why do so many precious mothers rush to enter the workplace after giving birth?

Because too many women are beginning to realize that only work and ability can help them. Those who expect men to rely on them will end up in No Country for Old Men.

And although the workplace is hard, it is far better than being an unpleasant housewife.

Before he got married, he thought it was a blessing that you could wash his hands and make bride soup for him.

After marriage, he thinks you are nothing but cooking.

Before marriage, he appreciated your delicate makeup and generous conversation;

After marriage, he spoiled your broth and dried noodles.

Married women are often able to share joys and sorrows with men, while men rarely understand women's hardships.

He thinks it is beautiful for a woman to stay at home without competition and pressure, but forgets that she instinctively dominates the workplace and gets applause;

He felt that women were complaining bitterly, but he forgot that she was once intellectual and beautiful.

A woman is like a flower. Only by diligent irrigation and care can she shoot new branches and sprout new buds.

Why do so many only-child mothers never choose to have a second child?

Is your other companion a man or a dog? You'll know when you have children.

This sentence is really reasonable. A woman conceived in October and walked out of the gate of hell to have a baby. She fantasized about her husband's happiness in holding the child, but never imagined that she would live like a ghost after having the child.

Some people say that after giving birth to a child and coming home, the husband consciously moved out of the bedroom, leaving himself crazy and helpless on the night when the child cried;

Some people say that after having children, the husband will grow into a cycad, and when the storm comes, he will not move: the child will not hold it when he cries, and he will not change it when he urinates, and he will not look when he is sick;

Some people say that even if you are widowed after marriage, what is even more terrible is that the father will always cheat the body at the critical time: the mother educates the child, and the father of the child says nothing; The mother sets rules for her children, and the father is a good person around her; The mother reported the remedial class to the child, but the father said it was not needed.

I endured everything. I am strong when I do housework and eat alone. I am most afraid that you don't know anything and do nothing, but you question me at a critical time. I shoulder the responsibility, and once something goes wrong, I only get the blame.

Every man with a low sense of family participation will have a very similar wife: disappointment, abandonment, anger, collapse, despair and leaving.

The chief culprit of marriage failure is by no means that love is not that simple.

There are many kinds of marriages, some because they really love each other, and some because they are suitable for each other.

Either way, it is difficult to keep passion in marriage for a long time, so intimacy and commitment are more important than passion in marriage.

I have been married for a long time and have no passion. I no longer want to meet kisses and hugs. At this time, although there is no throb of love at first sight between two people, intimate relationship is still necessary.

Intimacy is actually related to what we call participation. A man who is not involved at home cannot keep close relationship with his wife.

The best marriage should be that I mop the floor, you wash the dishes, I mop the floor, you help me clear the obstacles, you wash the dishes and I give you hot water.

Intimacy is the gathering of small things in two people's lives. A man who goes out early and comes home late with very low participation not only makes women feel insecure, but also can't stay close in marriage.

Then there is the promise in marriage. Since you have decided to spend your life with each other, you must abide by the "promise" in marriage.

Commitment is not vows of eternal love, but heart, brain and input.

Commitment is similar to management. We need to manage our feelings with EQ and IQ, and participation is indispensable in the process of management.

Marriage is a matter for two people. If one side manages and the other side squanders, it will not last long.

If one side is in charge and the other side is unmoved, the person who pays will be tired.

Don't be a person who goes out early and comes back late, remember the promise of marriage, keep both sides close, go home early after work, and take the initiative to wash dishes after dinner. Only when you participate, your wife will be happy, your wife will be happy and the family will be harmonious.

It is said that couples who love each other again will have the idea of 100 divorce and the impulse to strangle each other 500 times in their lives.

And those who can go to the end are often those who will resist impulse no matter how angry they are.

You don't have to care about right or wrong to win or lose everything. Some things are really small, but under the impulse, two people who were originally in love are likely to become strangers.

If you love her, you should spend more time with her. You don't have to do anything romantic. Just have dinner and chat together, and really protect her for life.

Author: Miss Xiaoxian

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