Detailed explanation of ancient marriage proposal steps

According to the traditional custom in China, the relevant steps should be followed when proposing marriage. What are the steps of proposing marriage in ancient times? What do you mean by the so-called three bundles of six gifts? Let's take a closer look.

First, the ancient marriage proposal steps

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Two or three ancient books

Letter of appointment: Letter of appointment is a formal engagement between men and women; Najib (for writing).

Gift book: Gift book is a list of gifts, which lists the types and quantities of gifts in detail; Use it when receiving gifts.

Marriage book: that is, the book to marry the bride. On the wedding day (personally welcoming the bride), when picking up the bride.

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Third, the specific content of the Six Rites.

1, using

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Step 2 ask the name

That is, the man asked the matchmaker to ask the woman's name and date of birth.

There are two kinds of names, one is the name given to the woman when she was born in March. The second is the name, that is, the name. As for the man's name, he was told when he was recruiting, so he only asked the woman's name, not the man. Name-asking ceremony or goose. What's the ritual order? Feel at home. May I have your name, please? The host Xu, the guest is here, as a first gift? . The purpose of asking names is twofold:

One is to prevent close relatives from getting married with the same surname;

The second is to use the date of birth obtained by asking the name to predict whether the marriage of the parties is appropriate.

3. Najib

That is, after the man retrieved the woman's name and eight characters, he performed divination in the ancestral hall. After getting a good omen, he prepared a gift to inform the woman's family and decided to get married. Zheng Xuan Note:? Returning to the temple is a good omen, and the messenger sent a message, so the marriage was decided. ?

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4. Zheng Na

Also known as Nabi, it means that the man's family gives the woman's family a dowry.

? Najib? And then what? Accept the levy? These two ceremonies are often performed together. This is the main procedure of engagement, which Ningbo people call it? Wen Ding? , Ninghai people say? Make up your mind, that is to say, when men give women engagement fees, they usually use physical objects and cash. The custom in Ningbo is that according to the age of the woman, one year old carries a load of old wine, 16 years old 16 tons of wine. About 48 silver dollars. In some places, it is also calculated by rice, and the value of a load of rice a year is similar to that of old wine. In this ceremony, both sides use red, green and gold calligraphy stickers, also known as? Longfeng book post? . What is written on the post is some auspicious words, but there are certain procedures. Did this man write it? Yang Li Fan Hu, Qin Jiu Side, Qian Jin Yinuo, Guangsheng Peng Bi? ; The woman replied:? One branch is lucky, three students fit together, seven are extremely ashamed, and nine are like celebrations? Wait a minute.

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5. Please make a date

The man chooses the wedding date and prepares gifts to inform the woman's family for permission. ? Could it be a ceremony to invite an auspicious day to marry the bride? . It is also the "cloud of etiquette" in the modern sense. Scholars are stunned "? Please use goose, the host will say goodbye, and the guest will tell you the date, such as a gift. ? After the man's family decided to get married on an auspicious day by praying to God, they sent someone to tell the woman's family and ask her for advice.

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Step 6 welcome in person

That is, the groom goes to the woman's house to get married. It is the last procedure of the Six Rites, that is, the groom personally goes to the woman's house to marry the bride. Welcome has two meanings: one is to show the inheritance of matriarchal customs after the transformation from monogamy to husband power system. The man personally went to the woman's house to pick up the bride, showing respect for her. But it also contains the fact that the marriage system of concubinage is irreversible, which shows the strong desire of men for concubinage.

I showed you the content of this article, and I think everyone has a certain understanding of the ancient marriage proposal steps. Of course, we all know the ancient Three Books and Six Rites clearly.