Marriage counseling (counseling you to have a happy marriage)

The most difficult moment in marriage is not that you are no longer in the prime of life and my face is getting old, but that we don't know what the other party really wants.

We always want to change our partners in marriage with our own ideas and cognition.

But I forgot that in this world, one person can't change another person, only oneself.

Another reason why we want to change others is that I want to have control, but no one likes the feeling of being controlled.

For example, if you love someone, you need him to love me.

But in fact, loving someone does not give you the right to ask the other person to love you back.

Xiaoling, who went to the class reunion, was very happy to meet her deskmate Xiao Di, whom I haven't seen for a long time. She decided to meet again the next day and have a good talk.

Xiaoling and Xiao Di had a good relationship when they were at school, but after graduation, they went their separate ways and had no contact.

Xiaoling said enviously to Xiao Di, Katie, I really envy you. Your husband was so kind to you that he came to pick you up last night.

Xiao Di took a sip of the juice and said, What is there to envy? But to be honest, if it was a party a few years ago, it is estimated that my husband would not come to pick me up.

Looking at Xiaoling puzzled, Xiao Di told her what happened after graduation.

After graduation, Xiao Di returned to his hometown and found a good job there. She has a good life alone.

But this age is still growing. Seeing others in pairs, Xiao Di accepted the blind date introduced by her family.

I like Xiao Di very much on the third blind date. Although there is a baby boy, it is not very serious, which is acceptable to Xiao Di.

After more than a year together, they got married. My husband has always been very kind to Xiao Di. During his first marriage, he first lived with his in-laws because the new house had not been renovated.

In-laws are also very kind to Xiao Di. Her husband is a bit of a mother-in-law, simply because her mother-in-law can take care of people. Xiao Di is very happy to have such a mother-in-law.

When the house was decorated, Xiao Di and her husband moved back to live. Before long, Xiao Di became pregnant, and her mother-in-law happily returned to their home to take care of their lives.

May be accustomed to such care, so when her mother-in-law came home sick, Xiao Di and her husband couldn't adapt.

The baby is only over one year old, and her mother-in-law is sick because of hard work. Xiao Di can only be forced to be a housewife who needs to go to work, do housework and take care of children.

Because children are still young, crying is a common thing, especially without people. Often Xiao Di may be cooking or washing clothes. When she heard the baby crying, she had to take care of him.

Especially when the baby is two or three years old, he likes to run around and shout loudly. Sometimes he always makes noise to his neighbors downstairs. Xiao Di had to go downstairs to apologize to others, and she was really tired.

Xiao Di can't say that she only wants her husband to do housework alone, but her husband is used to being taken care of by others. Xiao Di asked him to do housework, but he couldn't bear it.

He is so reluctant every time and occasionally complains a few words, which makes Xiao Di very dissatisfied. She has to work every day and go home to do housework. Why can't her husband help her?

Xiaodi was very angry, angry with her husband:

Do you treat me like a nanny?

I have to go to work, take care of my children and do housework. I'm busy every day, and I don't know what's wrong with letting you do housework.

The husband is not to be outdone:

In your job, the salary is not high, you might as well resign. I got a raise some time ago. I earn a lot of money and work hard. Why should I do housework?

In addition, housework should be done by women and children should be taken care of by women, which is what my mother did.

Xiaodi said:

I'm not your mother. Since you think I earn less money, that's fine. Originally, I changed my job to take care of my children and family. Otherwise, you take care of the children at home and I'll change jobs to earn more money. Who do you despise here?

Quarrel like this has been going on for a long time. Although the child is only over three years old, he is also afraid to face the quarrel of his parents.

Later, there was a quarrel, which made Xiao Di completely change herself. She was not like her original self.

On that occasion, she and her husband quarreled because of some trivial matters. Xiao Di said angrily:

Have you seen your attitude towards your wife?

Look how good Uncle Wang downstairs is to his wife. I don't know what's wrong with me, because I'm a man like you.

The husband is also very angry:

Uncle Wang is good to his wife, not because his aunt is gentle and so good to uncle Wang. If you can do the same, I promise it will be good for you. Don't always blame me. Think about yourself!

Xiao Di recalled the relationship between Uncle Wang and Aunt Wang, and thought of himself. She felt a little tired. She's really tired these years. Would it be better if she could control her temper?

From then on, Xiao Di won't quarrel with her husband because of a trivial matter, because she knows that no matter how noisy she is, she will not change her husband, so she intends to change herself.

In fact, after the children went to kindergarten, Xiao Di planned to resign, because it was too inconvenient to pick up the children.

After looking at her savings over the years, she decided to open a massage shop. Although not as good as those massage shops that have been open for a long time, she gradually has some repeat customers, and they will also bring new customers.

Since Xiao Di has changed, she has found that her husband has also changed. In the past, husbands who didn't want to do housework would wash dishes and pick up children after dinner when Xiao Di was busy.

This is Xiao Di didn't think of, also let her very surprised. Those years of quarreling were really a waste of time.

Later, Xiao Di's temper became better and better, and her husband and children often laughed. Xiao Di thinks this family atmosphere is really good.

After hearing Xiaodi's story, Xiaoling couldn't help but sigh:

It seems that women still have to make themselves better, so as to influence their husbands. Looks like I'm going to change myself, too

Some women always feel that they have a bad temper, and people are getting worse because men don't love her.

But in fact, it is difficult for a man to change, and a woman should influence him through her own aura to make him change subtly.

Therefore, a woman must not adapt to a man just because he has gone bad. Only by trying to make yourself better can we change this bad guy.

Men always complain that women love to talk and complain, which is really annoying, but they never realize what women want. This is obviously just a kind of approval and considerate words, and they are all stingy to give.

When two people can be together, most of them are congenial at first.

You are willing, and I am willing, which is why life is connected.

At the same time, we all hope that the life of two people will be better than that of one person in the future.

Everyone's beliefs, values and rules and regulations are only valid for themselves and should not be forced to accept them.

Changing yourself is likely to affect others.

Everyone's beliefs, values and rules and regulations are only valid for themselves and should not be forced to accept them.

Everything everyone does is to meet some deep-seated needs.

Why not let yourself be the first person to find a way out?

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