How did ancient westerners pursue love?

On ancient women's concept of mate selection

There is a poem named "Self-protection" in the Book of Songs Feng Wei. The first half is about a young man and woman from love to marriage. The general idea is that a sincere young man comes to the woman's house to buy silk, not to buy things, but to marry a woman who sells silk. When the woman is in love, she will send the man home and send him far away. The man asked to get married early, but the woman said she didn't mean to delay the time. You haven't hired a matchmaker yet, wait until autumn to get married. In this way, the two agreed on the time and place of farewell. At the end of the year, the woman arrived first, but when she saw that the man hadn't come yet, she missed each other very much and was afraid that they would stand me up, so she shed tears. Later, when the man arrived, the woman smiled and chatted happily. The man told the woman that our marriage had been divined and there was nothing unlucky. Let's get married.

The woman readily agreed, moved her belongings, got in the man's car and left, forming a partner. This is a folk woman who accepted the love of an ordinary man who was in power in Zheng State and became a couple. The poem "Meng" opposes women's free love, but it reflects the certain universality of civil independent mate selection in the pre-Qin period.