What are the traditional wedding customs in Korea?

Korean traditional wedding customs and etiquette

1. Marriage topic

Before the traditional Korean wedding, both men and women's families should know each other's family status, knowledge and personality through matchmakers. If you like each other, you have to meet your parents first, so sometimes you have never met before you get married. After both parties agree to get married, the man usually gives the "wedding invitation" to the woman first. If the woman has the idea of getting married, give the Marriage Certificate to the man, and then the marriage will be established.

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After receiving the engagement letter, the man's family will write "Nacaiwen" and "Sizhu", wrap them in red cloth and send them to her family. The bride's family who receives the "four pillars" will carefully refer to the date and time of birth of the bride and groom who will hold the wedding, and then write "Ji Juan" on white paper and send it to the groom's family.

note:

-four pillars: the letters of the date of birth are recorded according to the sixty jiazi.

Tina Cai Wen: An article thanking you for your engagement, asking you to choose the date and time for your marriage.

Ji Juan: A letter from the bride's family who accepted the list of four people at a traditional wedding to the groom's family, asking the man to tell the woman the dress number (size) that the groom will wear at the wedding.

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After the groom's family received the letter from the new bride's family (Ji Juan), they put "satin picking" and "marriage book" in a marriage book box and sent them to the bride's family. Among them, picking satin is usually delivered one month before the wedding. Before the wedding, put "money" together with "marriage certificate" and "seal collection" and send it together with "catalogue", which is called "letter". The bride will sincerely keep the "marriage certificate", "receiving money" and "four pillars" together with the items and expenses needed for the wedding to show her love for her husband. These things will accompany her into the coffin.

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Nabi: After exchanging the four-poster list after marriage, the groom's family gave gifts to the bride's family to prove their engagement.

-Picking Satin: The gifts given by the groom's family to the bride's family when collecting money are mainly blue and red satin, so it is called picking satin.

-Seal off: If the general family is well-off, pack more other materials. This is called sealed mining.

-Money: a gift for the bride.

-Wedding Letter: A letter sent by the groom's family to the bride's family together with a list of gifts when they get married.

Letter: Marriage certificate and gift list are sent to the bride's house in a box. Customs vary from place to place, and most of them are called paying money or sealing mines. People who go to the bride's house by treachery are generally older and blessed with children. The bride's mother who receives the letter (box) should keep the marriage documents until the married daughter gives birth to a child, respect her parents-in-law, and give them to her daughter when she thinks that her daughter will not return to her parents' home.

4. Xun Zili

After the wedding, the prospective groom should get up early. If there is an ancestral temple, he should go first. If not, let his parents sit down and kowtow to them solemnly. After kowtowing, the groom should kneel before his parents to thank them for their kindness, and say that he would welcome the newlyweds (wives) to live a good and serious life, thank them for their kindness, and then come to the wedding hall.

The bride-to-be also kowtows to her parents on the morning of the wedding, and then goes to the wedding hall.

5. Yan Li

After the groom takes care of it, the bride's family will guide her to hold the wedding. When marrying a daughter-in-law, people usually walk to the bride's house, but some people will let the groom ride to the bride's house. When the groom arrived at the front door of the bride's house, the representative of the bride's house came out to meet the guests and introduced them into the house.

When the groom enters the gate, he has to cross the "fire" basin lying in the yard, which means exorcism.

The groom put the goose on the table and kowtowed twice. At this time, my mother-in-law came out and walked into the house with a goose table.

The wild goose symbolizes growing old together, which means that once you become attached, you will never change. Live geese used to be used, but now they are made of wood.

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-Li Yanli: The first procedure of the wedding ceremony. The ceremony for the groom to send the goose is called Li Yanli. Let people learn three virtues that geese possess:

First: Goose stands for love. Once agreed, it will always be observed. If you lose your partner while you are alive, you will never find another partner.

Second: when geese fly, they queue up to obey the rules of superiors and subordinates. The geese flying in front scream, and the geese flying behind will respond, showing respect for etiquette.

Third: wherever the geese have been, they will leave traces of their own visits. Drawing on this habit of geese, they said that they should leave outstanding achievements for their own lives and live a happy life forever.

6. Worship ceremony

After the ceremony, the groom stood in the hall of the bride's house or the east of the wedding hall, and the gift table was ready in the yard. The bride waiting in the house begins to wear a cluster (also called a cluster crown) on her head after the groom walks in. In order to keep evil spirits away from the bride on festive days, the left and right faces of the bride should be pasted with rouge made of red paper, one between the eyebrows, and then they are ready to step into the wedding hall. The bride and groom met in the wedding hall. After the meeting, the bride and groom said goodbye to each other. According to the principle of Yin and Yang in the cosmology of eastern philosophy, the singular number is Yang, the even number is Yin, the groom is Yang and the bride is Yin. Especially in the "wedding ceremony", the number of kowtows should be doubled, so the bride pays homage to the groom twice, the groom pays homage once, and the bride and groom repeat it once.

7. Wedding ceremony

After the worship ceremony, the wedding began. The groom knelt down, the bride sat down, others poured the wine on the glass wrapped with blue and red silk, and the bride bowed. Others put the tip of the glass on the left side of the ceremony table, then on the right side, and then point it at the groom on the ceremony table. At this time, the groom will lick the wine and give it to the bride, and finally take the glass away. The wine at this time is called acacia wine. After the ceremony, the guests put dates and chestnuts on the gift table in the groom's pocket, which indicates that the young couple will have children early.

8. Candle Night

After the wedding ceremony is held at the bride's house, the room where they are arranged to stay at night is called the "new house". They have a habit of peeking at their new house on their first night. There are many reasons to peek at the new house. One of them is that in the past, in order to carry on the family line early, there was a custom of early marriage. Usually, people who secretly love the bride or young people who have secret contacts take the bride away on the first night, so they start to guard the new house. There is also a saying that "there are many good things". When celebrating, you are afraid of evil spirits approaching, so you guard the new house.

9. Yugui Xinhang

After the wedding ceremony at the bride's house, you have to stay at the bride's house for 3 days, and then the groom takes the bride home. This is called returning home or going to a new place. Before returning to Japan, the bride's family will give her husband's family money and silk, such as dates and meat. Almost all brides go to the groom's house in a sedan chair when they start a new trip. At the groom's house, people come out to sprinkle soybeans, red beans, cottonseed, salt and so on. And light firewood at the gate to let the bride cross it, which means to drive away ghosts. These customs can also be seen now.

-Coin and silk diet: the diet of dates placed on the table when the bride meets her parents-in-law for the first time.

10. Coins and gifts

The food brought from the bride's family is put on the table, and the husband and wife salute in front of their parents-in-law, introducing the order of family and relatives. At this time, only the bride kowtows to her family, and the groom stands at the table to introduce her family. If grandparents are here, they will prepare another table, kowtowing to their parents first, then to their grandparents, to their immediate brothers and then to their uncles and family.