Do people who betray in love still have feelings for you?

For those who have suffered emotional betrayal, there will be many doubts and questions in their hearts. Among them, a common question is: Does ta still have feelings for me?

Whenever someone asks me this question, I can understand it, but it is too difficult to make it clear in a few words, and it is biased to simply answer yes or no.

So I wrote this article, hoping that friends who are confused in this aspect can let go of this issue.

Do people who betray themselves still have feelings for themselves?

The key to this problem is how to interpret it. Feelings? .

So, ask yourself, what is this? Feelings? ? Then, you will find that you actually have no answer, so the corresponding question you are troubled by actually has no answer.

Feelings are proportional first.

In other words, if the amount of emotion is 100, then this 100 is for you, and it is also emotion; Giving you 20 is actually a feeling. From this point of view, betrayal is equivalent to giving others 100 that should belong to you, or even giving most of it to others.

Then, if you think this 100 must belong to me alone, at this time, 1 will be separated, of course, there is no feeling; And if you think, I don't care how much I pay, as long as there is still a part left for me, even if it is only 1%, then I still have feelings.

To be exact, husband and wife have had feelings for each other for many years. No matter how they betray each other, they even regard each other as enemies. However, you must also realize that a happy marriage needs feelings of 100 to enjoy. Even if it is 0.0 1, it is incomplete, hurting feelings and making marriage miserable.

Secondly, feelings are also hierarchical.

The deepest affection, of course, is the affection of husband and wife, which even exceeds the affection of parents and children to some extent. Because parents and children are based on blood relationship, and husband and wife? After all, it is still a social relationship. Therefore, no matter how bad parents and children are, we will never abandon them; However, between husband and wife, it is often full of betrayal and harm. There are many joys and sorrows, but few hardships. Leaders in trouble often fly away.

Those couples who can live a lifetime are undoubtedly affectionate. This feeling is a combination of friendship, affection and love, but it is higher than all feelings. If you demand such a high standard, then such feelings are really difficult to satisfy, and after betrayal, such feelings actually collapse.

Let's look at another situation. Every day when I pass the overpass on my way to work and see a beggar, I will give him some money. Then, after a period of time, there will actually be feelings between you. For example, if there are cats and dogs at home, will there be feelings? So, you see what I mean.

Between people, as long as they get along for a long time, there will be feelings. Therefore, correspondingly, even if a person betrays himself, in fact, in his heart, he still has feelings for himself.

This angle can better explain the relationship between betrayer and the third party. Why do traitors think that their betrayal is an expression of true feelings and is nothing more than the result of close contact? They think this is true feelings, so you think so, of course you don't think so.

Why do different people in a relationship have different understandings? After all, they have different interpretations of feelings. Like me, I never think that an affair is a real feeling because I don't deserve it.

Finally, I hope you can understand that emotion is a flowing variable.

People who have feelings for you today may become heartless tomorrow; And those who are cruel to you today may become affectionate tomorrow. Feelings are not immutable.

At the beginning, so many traitors and third parties thought that they had deep feelings for each other. Otherwise, how could they choose to bear a bad reputation instead of betrayal? But in the end, you see how many people finally tear each other down and hate each other.

In reality, I have seen many such couples. Because of the betrayal of one of them, the two divorced and became strangers. At that time, both of them felt that they had no feelings for each other. However, because of having children, two people will still have an intersection. Then with the passage of time, two people will gradually get along with a new relationship model. They will not get back together, but they will have a special feeling for each other, a very strange relationship, which is difficult to understand, but exists in reality.

Therefore, I hope everyone who has been betrayed will understand that emotion is an empty concept. Without a standard definition, it is naturally difficult to answer? Do people who betray themselves still have feelings for themselves? Such a question.

If your psychology is like this, there are actually many ways to solve these two problems, but don't start from? Feelings? Solve it yourself? Because feelings are invisible, invisible nothingness, you can never solve the problem of betrayal from feelings.

If you feel unwilling, you must learn to let go? There are many things in this world that may not be rewarded, but things are impermanent; As for whether to make a choice based on whether you still have feelings, forget it. The most important and powerful people in marriage are actually you and ta. You don't know if you still have feelings. Ta, I'm afraid I don't know how outsiders can answer questions you can't answer; Even if outsiders can answer it, will you believe it?

If you want to recover, you must work hard, and if you want to break up, you must learn to give up. In short, making choices is actually more valuable and meaningful than tangled feelings.