Gender Emotion: When men stop taking the initiative, women with high emotional intelligence will deal with it in these three ways.

Marriage is an eternal problem under the guise of a lifetime. In this earthly life of two people, it is not only difficult to be single-minded and loyal, but also difficult to live a relatively happy life.

Everyone longs for a good marriage, but a good marriage is hard to come by, and in marriage, emotional intelligence is more important than love.

People with high emotional intelligence generally have strong emotional control ability, and will not conflict or quarrel with each other because of disagreement, nor will they put themselves in a passive position because of minor problems.

People with high emotional intelligence are more tolerant, understanding and accepting each other's shortcomings. Husband and wife are the most difficult interpersonal relationships in the world. In marriage, people who can control the escalation of contradictions and quickly resolve them without hurting harmony are the most precious.

People with high emotional intelligence seldom argue with others about right or wrong and winning or losing, because they know that feelings are more important than winning or losing, and they generally have strong emotional ability and empathy. They know how to talk in their marriage life, and they always have the ability to face contradictions.

People with high emotional intelligence are more likely to run a marriage and get happiness.

Generally speaking, people who can make you feel relaxed and not tired will not have low emotional intelligence.

So, what does a woman with high emotional intelligence look like?

In the recently hit TV series Elite Lawyer, Li Na, the secretary of Bin Luo, is a strong woman with high emotional intelligence. She not only has a completely independent personality and excellent business ability, but also can speak and do things. She often tells what she should say in jokes and always knows what to say and what not to say.

Work, life and interpersonal relationships are simply too easy in front of people with high emotional intelligence.

Li Na hopes that Bin Luo can be promoted to senior partner. Instead of instilling hope directly into Bin Luo, she said a sexy sentence: "I am not satisfied with being only a secretary of the general partner." He expressed his ambition and his trust in Bin Luo.

At work, Bin Luo's eyes can tell what it means. When reporting work, she only said what Bin Luo wanted to know most, and she would never tell all the information she knew arrogantly, which was extremely efficient. Which leader wouldn't like such a secretary?

Not only that, she is also very friendly to the people around her. When it is time to help others, she will help others. She can always feel the feelings of others at the first time and has strong communication skills.

When He Sai heard that Dai seemed to have sent him takeout food, she immediately relieved Dai and laughed that He Sai was face-blind. She was relieved more than once and could care about Dai's self-esteem. Who doesn't want such a good colleague?

And she is different from Andy in Ode to Joy, with high IQ and low EQ. She not only has high professional quality, but also can communicate with different people in the best way. When reporting on her work, as a professional woman, she is careful and meticulous. When it's time to relax, she will have a cute and playful side.

Carina Lau's high EQ is often praised in the entertainment circle. Her marriage with Tony Leung Chiu Wai is a much-told story. Although Carina Lau likes to be lively and social, Tony Leung Chiu Wai prefers to be alone. Not only that, he never likes to ask about trivial matters at home.

In the face of such a "boring egg", normal women may accuse one or two sentences from time to time, or spit out that the other party does not love themselves, and even don't understand why the other party can't accompany themselves.

However, Carina Lau always chose to respect Tony Leung Chiu Wai's three views and decorate his home. Tony Leung Chiu Wai left with a suitcase, while Carina Lau never complained and accused, and always assumed the responsibility of the family himself, and then waited for Tony Leung Chiu Wai to come back.

She likes to socialize, Tony Leung Chiu Wai likes to be quiet, and she never asks Tony Leung Chiu Wai to socialize with her, because she clearly knows that two people should be independent individuals first, and each enjoys his own life, which will not affect their marriage feelings.

Even in the face of the scandal between Tony Leung Chiu Wai and Maggie Cheung, Carina Lau is indifferent and tolerant. She said, "I'm glad that he really likes Maggie Cheung. It is good for him to decide. Maggie Cheung is also a very good actor. "

In the face of such a confident and completely different Carina Lau, Tony Leung Chiu Wai always smiles. He once said, "She is very lively, but I can't. I like her excitement very much. "

People with high emotional intelligence know how to understand people from each other's perspective;

People with low emotional intelligence only know how to transform people from their own perspective.

Too many people flaunt that they can't live together because of three views, but people with high emotional intelligence are always comfortable in marriage.

Dealing with complex interpersonal relationships in marriage is more important than three views.

The most important components of EQ are emotional ability and emotional control ability.

* * * Feelings determine mutual understanding;

Emotional control ability determines the attitude of the other party.

Good interpersonal relationship is inseparable from understanding and acceptance. Husband and wife are the most difficult interpersonal relationships in the world, and it is more important to understand and accept each other and talk well.

Psychologists have found that emotional intelligence is more important than IQ in many interpersonal interactions.

Women with high emotional intelligence generally use these three tricks to resolve men's cold violence:

1, learn to live with problems.

Famous American psychologists have studied marriage for 40 years and come to a conclusion that most problems in marriage can't be solved. For example, the differences between husband and wife's living habits sometimes make each other unbearable, and the differences in consumption concepts will also bring many conflicts.

Then in the case of different habits of both sides, accepting their differences and living with problems is the solution.

2, insight into each other's real thoughts.

In the process of getting along, paying more attention to each other's living habits and small details can help us understand the people around us more clearly and gain insight into each other's real thoughts.

3, "soft landing" beat about the bush

When you can't understand each other or have doubts about some aspects, you should avoid direct questioning and accusations, and gently cut into side issues to further understand each other's ideas.

Women with high emotional intelligence are elegant dancers. They not only have a pair of eyes to see the world, but also are good at opening each other's hearts with scalpel-like dexterous language, just like lifting weights easily and solving all kinds of difficult problems easily.

Author: Miss Xiaoxian

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