Do couples who have a flash marriage have feelings (how should couples who have a flash marriage maintain their feelings)

We often see flash marriages in TV movies. After these people get married, their lives are happier.

But is this really the case in reality?

Flash marriage means that both men and women get married in a short time, as fast as lightning. Flash marriage left because you didn't know each other thoroughly from the beginning and lacked a certain emotional foundation.

So the real thing happened around me.

My aunt was born to my grandmother in her forties. She is an old child. She was spoiled as a child.

My father is the oldest in the family. He is nearly 26 years later than my aunt. Now my aunt is only 26 years old, and my grandfather has stepped into the ranks of 70 years old.

Because in my hometown, girls basically get married around the age of 20, and some even get married earlier, and they become mothers around the age of 20.

My aunt used to go to school in other places, and now she has graduated for four years, but she has been unable to find a partner. My family was very anxious and arranged several blind dates for my aunt. My aunt also went very well and didn't refuse.

But no matter how many blind dates were arranged, my aunt didn't respond or contact me.

She was not worried at all, but she went her own way and worried her family to death.

Then suddenly one day, my aunt said that she was in love, and the family was very happy and eager to bring it back, but my aunt didn't do that. She pushed it away and didn't bring it back.

Until one day, we made an appointment to go shopping together. On the way shopping, she kept holding her mobile phone and returning messages, from "husband" to "dear", which made me feel very annoyed.

But when I looked at it carefully, I felt something was wrong and asked, what does that man look like? How long have you known him?

Aunt said she had known him for more than a month, and told me how handsome that man was, a little fresh meat and a little suckling dog.

I once thought that menstruation had drunk ecstasy soup and was possessed by evil spirits.

Then, she took out a photo, a photo of two people side by side, with a red background.

I felt something was wrong at the time. Isn't this a photo that only marriage certificates can use?

I asked seriously: Did you get a marriage certificate?

My aunt was confused at that time. She thought I didn't know what it was for, so she dared to show it to me so confidently.

I asked directly: Do you know him? Do you know his temper? Do you know anything about his family?

My aunt said that she knew everything. Hearing this, I have nothing to say. After all, it is the person you choose and the road you choose.

It wasn't long before the family knew that she had got a marriage certificate.

My aunt took the man home. In my opinion, that person is just ordinary, and his height and appearance are all ordinary in my opinion, but in my aunt's eyes, they are just as good.

It may be because they were still in love a few months ago, and there was no contradiction, but after this love period, many problems emerged one by one.

He thinks my aunt is lazy and doesn't want to do anything. He often chats with my father and uncle about small things at home. He feels good. In my opinion, even if menstruation is bad, he shouldn't talk to outsiders. After all, this is a private matter between you.

My aunt thinks he can't talk. Every time she gets angrier, the man just tells her that she is in pain. She often says that my aunt is in a hurry, and when she hits twice, she cries and says it hurts.

There are more and more contradictions between the two people, and there have been divorces, saying that they are out of temper and personality. My parents also advised them. Now that they have obtained the certificate, let's take a look. After all, no one is on the way from the beginning, they are all running in.

My mother also said that my aunt: since she has obtained the certificate, she will get married again in the future, regardless of whether she is married or not. It's a second marriage if you say it, so it's hard to find it again. What did you do when this happened?

Later, the two of them had a big fight, and my aunt often complained to me how much she regretted it. She does nothing to please. Now they are still in this state, and it is unknown whether they can persist together in the future. I can only say one step at a time, and maybe one day they will be smooth.

There will also be many people who get married by flash, and some people have a happy marriage life after flash marriage. And some marriages are often accompanied by various problems. I think aunt's situation may not be uncommon.

What do you think of flash marriage? It's really hard for a suitable person to say "Let's get married". However, marriage is a serious and practical matter. Are you really ready?

Flash marriage is often accompanied by many problems.

First, there is not enough understanding between the two sides.

In psychology, people generally have a disguised personality, and in order to achieve their goals, they will hide their bad side.

People who get married in a flash marriage often enter the marriage hall during the love period.

When my understanding of each other was not so comprehensive, I mistakenly put my future life in the hands of TA.

Second, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the biggest problem in these years. You don't even know your husband, let alone his mother.

You don't know his family situation, and you don't know his mother-in-law's attitude towards your marriage, so the quarrel after that is inevitable.

Third, hidden dangers of extramarital affairs and domestic violence

Flash marriage, often can't see a person's character.

But there are also many families who divorce after flash marriage, mostly because of extramarital affairs and domestic violence.

These reasons often make a person depressed, disappointed with his family, and suffer a serious mental blow.

Therefore, no matter what you do, you should think it over before making a decision. Don't wait until you really regret it.

If it can be saved, it is of course the best, but if it can't be saved, what will you do?

There are too many days and nights in life that we need to experience. Don't let a temporary choice make the future regret.

Entering marriage should be a decision made only after there is enough time to expose each other's shortcomings and confirm that they can tolerate each other.

Flash marriage needs careful consideration.

Time is a talker. It explains everything to us. You don't need to ask questions before it speaks.

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