What should I do if my friend can't let go and doesn't want to see a psychiatrist?

1. What is the reason for not wanting to see a psychiatrist? Maybe you think you will be treated differently, or you don't accept the definition of psychological problems? If so, she can be advised to do astrological counseling or tarot counseling, which is also a way of psychological counseling, which is different from conventional traditional psychological counseling.

2. If she has a tendency to be hard-headed, it proves that the situation is serious and you can't stay with her as a friend all the time. You still have to help her with professional psychological counseling, and the more friends you are, the less likely you are to see her solution, because you are not neutral enough.

I believe that your friend's psychological problems have brought you some troubles? After all, everyone has their own life. Besides caring and worrying about her, you should also pay attention to your normal life.

Based on people with psychological problems, we don't recommend family members or friends to help themselves, because different professional levels may delay the best treatment time.

The above is for reference.

Venting, supporting, companionship and other forces will help a person get out of the psychological predicament, but more importantly, the recipients can produce the power of "self-healing".

Because everyone's growth experience is different, it is difficult for us to ask a person to deal with his own problems according to common sense, so what we can do is to accompany them to promote more positive thinking and action. Here, I introduce some basic methods commonly used in psychological counseling, which ordinary people can also try.

1, listen

This step is very important. If a friend is willing to listen to you, it doesn't mean that he needs you to help him solve anything. Therefore, listening is what we can do, and it is also a strong partner.

There are several processes in listening: listening attentively, listening without judgment, and listening with appropriate response.

Listening attentively means that we need to be as undisturbed as possible in the process of listening, such as playing mobile phones while listening and looking around, which will be a blow to the speaker.

Without judgment, it is very important to listen to the thoughts and behaviors expressed by friends, whether they meet our own standards or not, and not to interfere and judge; Even though your friend's ideas may be extreme and worry you, judging will only lead to resistance.

Appropriate response does not mean that you should start judging, but give basic physical or verbal responses, such as supportive responses such as "Well, I think you are right", "I agree with your idea" and "Sometimes I feel this way", or nod, expression and physical response.

2. Promote the self-opening of "recipients"

If he can say something to you, it proves that you deserve his trust. At the same time, if it is not necessary, such as hurting yourself and others, then some conversations need to be kept secret as friends, which is also a kind of respect for the "receiver".

In the process of dialogue, you can use some simple language to help your friend say more about his feelings, which is the process of his feeling and venting.

For example, "Can you be more specific about what you just said?" "How do you feel now?" Wait a minute.

3. Appropriate guidance

In fact, many people's so-called problems come from the backlog of feelings. All they may need is an outlet. Then as friends, we can create some environment or conditions to help him establish such an outlet. For example: spring outing, camping, sports, entertainment and so on.

Sometimes, compared with the power of words, this kind of positive companionship can give another person the power of "self-healing".

Of course, these requirements may be a bit high for friends, but since we want to help some people, the most basic way is to know.

1. Listen without judgment.

You can ask her if she is unhappy. I feel that you are in a bad state these days. If she wants to talk, listen patiently, don't judge, don't talk, just relax and see how optimistic others are … and so on. Just stay with her and give some responses from time to time: What do you think of this matter, how do you feel this way … and so on.

2. Don't interfere too much when your ability is limited.

Your friend also needs your help very much at this time. Your concern may bring her infinite strength. However, when you help her, you should always remind yourself that "your ability is limited, and too much interference may be counterproductive." As a friend, the best help is companionship. I want you to know that even if the sky falls, I will always be by your side, with a shoulder to lean on and a hug always open for you to hug. Just accompany me silently, without too many words. Remember, just be a listener, accept what she has, don't judge her words and deeds, and don't tell her what to do. Listening and companionship are the best medicine you can give.

Keep him busy

If you feel that you are in a bad mood, don't think about it. If you still want to, let him get busy, let him have no leisure to think, let him live every minute to the fullest, and then wake up in the morning and don't fall in love with bed again. Get up when you should, get busy, open the window, breathe the fresh morning air, relax yourself and imagine yourself as a happy little angel …

Be a listener first. There is no real empathy in this world, but you can listen attentively and help your friends open their hearts bit by bit. There must be a reason why you're upset. Think about it from the standpoint of friends!

There are valleys in life, and the pressure of modern life is so great that many people have psychological problems more or less! It's just that some people are obvious and some people are not!

More companionship, more guidance, and help friends come out slowly! Sometimes people can't get out at a certain moment, just like falling into a whirlpool. At the critical moment, as long as someone pulls it, you can jump out quickly! Trust your friends!

First of all, as friends, we helped him analyze the reasons why he couldn't get over it and didn't want to see a psychiatrist. Then we can give him some suggestions and reasonable ways to help him according to these reasons. If he is embarrassed to go, or it is too much trouble to go to an offline psychologist, he can communicate online, which can greatly avoid the embarrassment of face-to-face communication in reality, and also allow friends, classmates or relatives to give him more care and care, which is also conducive to his healthy psychological development.

Just stay with him and accompany him through the emotional trough!

There is no complete and scientific psychotherapy network in China, and the knowledge and technical level of doctors have not kept pace with the times. Seeing a doctor is a kind of psychological comfort. Unless you need drugs to suppress people's thoughts and control people's behavior, you can only get out by seeing a doctor.

A person's life will experience many setbacks. How wide a person's heart is, how far the road is.

First, some things really make people unhappy. When you encounter difficulties, you should try to solve them step by step. Through continuous learning, adjust the mentality.

Second, find out the root of the matter, analyze the problem, find out the cause of the problem, find out the essence of the problem, and face the problem in a different way of thinking. Pay more attention to some positive energy things, so that you will be full of strength and hope!

Third, take her into something she likes or something new. Time is the best medicine for wounds. If you put it aside for a while, you may get over it later.

Fourth, you can try to enlighten and take your friends to a professional doctor for guidance.

Life is growing up in bumps and bumps, and every hard day is beautiful, because the future can be expected!