The characteristics of high EQ are (12).

If a person's IQ is a skin, then emotional intelligence is the soul of this person.

In order to gain a foothold in this society, in addition to ability, emotional intelligence also plays a decisive role.

People with low emotional intelligence will appear stiff when they speak. When communicating with them, you just want to end the communication with him as soon as possible, because staying one more minute will be particularly uncomfortable.

People with high emotional intelligence can establish a good balance with people or things, have moderate rationality and sensibility, are not extreme and impartial, and will not mess around because of emotional reasons, nor will they have a better impact on work and others.

They can establish a reasonable distance and boundary with others, which is conducive to maintaining their own ideas and controlling the initiative.

Dealing with things and dealing with people should be tactful and sophisticated, and be good at handling contradictions.

12 how many performances of high emotional intelligence do you account for?

0 1. No matter to others or yourself, don't complain, don't complain.

02. Be full of hope and optimism about life.

03. Be tolerant and tolerant.

4. Communicate on an equal footing. Without emotional communication, you will handle your emotions first.

05. Know how to praise others

06. Keep a good mood and know how to adjust your mood.

07. Good listening habits, a good listener.

08. Responsible and proactive.

09. Growing every day.

10. Don't gossip about others behind their backs.

1 1. Don't brag.

12. Don't compare too much with others, and don't compare other shortcomings with your own advantages.

The essence of emotional intelligence is to have someone else in mind. How comfortable you are speaking can determine the height you can reach. A high EQ can make you feel happy and happy, and make people around you feel happy and happy. Why not?

And staying away from people with low emotional intelligence is the first step to make yourself happy.

What is low emotional intelligence? What is EQ? Let's look at a true story

Xinger is brushing her circle of friends. She saw her friend Xiaoshi taking a selfie and was about to comment, only to find that this circle of friends was deleted by her. Xinger was puzzled. Is this a good shot?

However, she didn't think much, continued to look at her circle of friends, and suddenly received news from Xiaoshi. She sent a screenshot saying that she finally deleted a friend.

Xinger opened the big picture and found that the circle of friends had been deleted by the poem. Here is a comment that is particularly dazzling:

Your selfie is so amazing that I didn't recognize you.

This person is Xinger's classmates Xiao Shi and Xiao Zhen. She has always been famous for her cheap mouth, and few people make friends with her.

I don't know why, Xiaozhen doesn't go too far with others, but she goes too far with Xiaoshi.

They are high school classmates. Xiaoshi was born in an ordinary family, so he studied hard, wanted to change his fate and give his parents a good life, and his grades were also in the top five in his class.

On one occasion, the grade organized a spring outing. Xiaoshi didn't want to waste his study time, so he read on the bus.

Xiaozhen saw it and said, "Oh, you are still reading when you come out to play with Xiaoshi. It's really the top five in your class. You should be careful in Xiao Qi. Maybe Xiaoshi will pass you in the next exam. "

Xiao Qi has always been the first in her class. When Jane said this, she just smiled and said nothing.

But poetry is still awkward. Indeed, the whole class is joking, only they are reading books, which seems so out of place.

Xinger saw her embarrassment and said to Jane:

Besides being smart, we learn poetry well because we love learning. We can use this time to study. There is a reason why we are in the top five before the exam. People with more than 20 classes like you can't understand it.

Jane's words are awkward:

I'm kidding, hahaha.

Xinger doesn't care if she is joking. She and Xiaoshi sat next to her and asked Xiaoshi to accompany her to the movies.

Afterwards, Xiaoshi was very grateful to Xinger for her help, but she also hoped that Xinger wouldn't have a conflict with Xiaozhen because of herself, and Xinger didn't care. Regarding her study and family background, Xiaozhen still dare not say anything about her.

After the college entrance examination, Xinger and Xiaoshi applied to the same school, and both of them got the admission notice. They are very happy, and the university can be together.

Before the start of the university, the students called the class teacher, went to a restaurant for dinner, and talked about the university they were admitted to. The class teacher was still very satisfied with his students, and praised the poetry test by the way.

I didn't expect the head teacher to finish praising the poem, and Xiaozhen picked up the words here:

Xiaoshi studies very well, but it must be luck to be admitted to this university this time. Maybe she will fail the exam again.

She won the eyes of her classmates and class teacher with these words, which is just jealousy.

Xiaoshi doesn't want to say more. I feel used to it for three years, so I have to endure it.

Xinger couldn't stand it any longer, gave Jane a white look and said:

As for a third-rate university like you, how dare you talk about poetry? Why don't you have this luck?

Jane said, I ... Oh, it's just a joke. Don't take it seriously, Xinger. The poem said nothing.

Xinger sneer at once:

I'm kidding, too. Why can't you afford it?

This bottom choked Jane don't know what to say, the teacher in charge see awkward atmosphere, just picked up the cup and said:

The students did well in the exam. Come on, let's raise our glasses. Congratulations.

The students stood up and raised their glasses one after another, and accepted the blessing of the class teacher, and the matter was over.

Originally, Xiaoshi thought that after he went to college, he would not be really cheap, but he was still very happy.

I never thought the world was small. On the train to school, I happened to meet Xiao Zhen, who was in the car with her.

Xiaozhen didn't see Xinger by her side this time, so she said something that she thought was a joke, but Xiaoshi hated it. Xiaoshi didn't want to say anything to her, she just laughed.

Who knows that before getting off the train, Xiaozhen said that she would add Xiaoshi's WeChat to everything, saying that she had something to contact.

Xiaoshi was forced to add her WeChat, thinking that in different schools anyway, she would never see her again and would not chat, so she added it.

When I got to school, I met Xiaoshi in Xinger and forgot Xiaozhen to add her WeChat.

Once there was an activity party in Xiaoshi's department, and she also participated in the program. Xinger took many beautiful photos for her, and she selected some and sent them to her circle of friends.

As a result, I saw Xiaozhen leave a message: Yo, I didn't expect a good baby who loves learning to participate in art programs. It's amazing.

Xiaoshi is a little unhappy. She is not a nerd. Some small programs will still exist, but she chose to ignore Xiaozhen's comments.

Later, no matter what her circle of friends sent, Xiaozhen had to comment, and naturally she didn't say anything nice.

When Xiaoshi got married, she sent wedding photos in a circle of friends. Xiaozhen comments: Your husband is so beautiful, how can he have a crush on you? Ha ha ha ha ha.

Xiaoshi sent a photo of the baby after delivery. Xiaozhen comments: Why is this child so ugly? I'm afraid it didn't follow mom.

There are many such things. Xiaoshi only talks to Xinger occasionally. If Xinger had Xiaozhen's WeChat, she would have missed her.

Xinger advised Xiaoshi to delete Xiaozhen. Xiaoshi felt a little embarrassed and didn't chat much. I deleted people soon, which was embarrassing.

But this time, Xiaoshi was really angry. She took a beautiful selfie and posted it in a circle of friends. As a result, Xiaozhen still said such a thing and couldn't stand it.

You are what you say.

There must be such a person in your life. He (she) is the "chat terminator" among friends. He (she) has a magical ability. When he (she) talks, he (she) is silent; when he (she) talks, he (she) "talks to death".

They often like to satirize and belittle others to satisfy and fill their inner balance.

"Take a mean mouth as humor, an outspoken mouth as frankness, an uneducated heart as casualness, a low emotional intelligence as frankness, seriousness as frankness, and happiness in the suffering of others."

When the volcano in your heart is about to erupt, he will always add: "I am a straight-tempered person, so don't mind."

In fact, many people say some unkind things, which makes people feel joking or playing pranks, which makes people feel very humorous.

But in fact, if you say hurt others, it's not funny at all. You can only say that you are a superficial person.

With people with high emotional intelligence, we will have a particularly comfortable feeling, because they know how to respect others and will fully observe your emotions.

There are too many people in this world. Instead of knowing people with low emotional intelligence, it is better to stay away from them and make friends with people with high emotional intelligence, and your world will be full of warmth.

Leave room for speech, that is, be kind to others; To do things moderately is to be kind to others.

Timely silence is virtue and wisdom; Reasonable concession is a measure and an atmosphere!

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