Break up to save the golden age

A person's emotional cycle is about 28 days, which is also an important compound period after breaking up.

Even if your predecessor dumped you on his own initiative, as long as you really loved each other, during this time, your predecessor will definitely think of you in the midnight dream, and there will inevitably be a trace of regret, loss and unwillingness.

But you have to be clear, even if your ex will think of you during this time, it doesn't mean that "the other person wants to get back together with you", because these emotions and psychological States are inevitable in everyone's forgetting process.

But many people will have such questions: "Why did you break up for so long? My ex always turns to my circle of friends, and sometimes I feel very sad. Does he have the idea of getting back together? "

Actually, it's not. The so-called "ex misses you" is mostly because he began to miss those beautiful memories, which is what I just said and what he needs to experience in the process of gradually forgetting and choosing to let go.

At the same time, the ex's willingness to compound is also influenced by many factors, such as actual pressure, the emergence of new love, subjective will and other variables. The fluctuation of these variables may affect your ex and your compound impulse more or less.

But then again, I do admit that "the length of time after breaking up is one of the factors that affect the compound probability", but I dare to tell you confidently: "Time is only a small part of the influencing factors, and the real factor that determines the probability of recovery-in fact, it lies in the changes between each other after breaking up.

After breaking up, many people tend to make wrong judgments under excessive emotions-thinking that as long as they still love each other and think that the other party can't let go of themselves, this is their bargaining chip. You have to understand: more than 90% of the ex's attitude towards getting back together is not "does he love you or do you love him", but "is this relationship worth it? Is it suitable between you?"

If your predecessor has clearly realized that "even if we get back together with you now, you will still return to the past mutual torture mode, and he will force himself to recognize the reality!" ! "

From the point of view of mentality construction, you should straighten your mind and control your emotions. As long as the other person is still single, I will definitely believe that he will fall in love with me again.

In the process of recovery, why do you always unconsciously want to pester your predecessor for quick success? That's because you have no direction at all. In other words, you don't know what you should change or how to correct it.

Remember, you are an active rescuer, so the initiative to save and the decision to influence the progress of your relationship are determined by your rescue behavior.

In order to overcome the anxiety of many people, list ten factors that need to be changed to save love!

1. What was the reason for your breakup? What are the points of your predecessor's dissatisfaction with you in your relationship? How should you change?

2. What were the reasons for quarreling with each other before?

3. What are the subjective and objective pressures that lead to the breakup (distance, bride price, economic disparity, potential competitors, etc.)? )?

4. In the contradiction, is there any hidden conflict such as gold shop consumption?

5. How long has it been since they communicated effectively in their last life? Who is easy to lose control?

6. Do the two families have any prejudices and misunderstandings about your feelings?

7. Are there any extreme personality defects on both sides? (such as domestic violence, derailment, etc. If it exists, how can it be changed to win trust?

8. Do you have any contradictions about the future? If so, how to balance it?

9. Did your ex send any sad news after the breakup? What does the other party want to express?

10. Did your ex tell you his ideal type before breaking up? If so, what are the differences between your expectations and his?

Only when you have an effective and clear understanding of the above ten issues will the time required for you to get back together become shorter and shorter. On the contrary, I don't know my own shortcomings and deficiencies. I just pester my predecessor, let alone get back together, and I can't even be friends.

So, do you want to understand? What exactly affected the composite effect within 28 days after you broke up?