What do you mean by settling down in Suzhou? ,,

Marriage and family integration means that when you get married, the man has no bride price and the woman has no dowry. I also run my own party. After marriage, I can live on both sides. Equally important, couples who get married in the same family usually have two children. It is agreed in advance that one child will take the man's surname and one will take the woman's surname. This is also the place where the merger is easy to produce contradictions.

The two families have their own plans and different positions, which is not reasonable. If the family can persist, it must be based on a strong concession from one side. After a long time, it is inevitable that there will be contradictions, but before the topic of dispute is involved, the children's surnames and other issues have begun to quarrel. No matter how reasonable you are, it is impossible to put down your own interests.

Wedding custom

In ancient times, the basic steps for men to post posts were as follows: after a man obtained a woman's birthday through a matchmaker, he put it in a place with divination significance at home, such as under an incense burner or in front of an idol, for three days. If everyone in the family is safe in these three days, it means that this marriage has been approved by God and the divination is successful.

If an accident happens in these three days, even if a bowl is broken, the birthday table will be returned to the woman, and the marriage will not succeed. In some places, after getting the woman's constellation, please ask the fortune teller to compare it. If the horoscopes of the man and the woman match, the marriage is concluded. Modern people often use the second one, especially when parents are dating their children. Wait until the eight characters have passed before the man posts.

Write the names and birthdays of both men and women side by side on red paper and send them to the woman's home. When the woman accepted the position, she agreed to the marriage. The purpose of posting with eight characters is to "ask God's will" and show the concept of "marriage is predestined".