Why don't men do nine and women do ten in folklore?

1, northern folk customs have "Celebrating Nine" and "Celebrating Ten", that is, men don't celebrate Nine and women don't celebrate Ten. That is, "men celebrate reality and women celebrate emptiness." For a man's birthday, the integer is "ten", and every ten years old is called "one rank", also called "ten days". Give a woman a birthday one year earlier. For example, her 60th birthday passed before she was 19 years old. This is called "four ranks and nine ranks".

2. The custom of celebrating "Nine" instead of "Ten" is popular in Jiangnan folk customs. The so-called "after the ninth day but not after the tenth day" means that the birthday is not after the tenth day, and it should be celebrated on the ninth day one year in advance. This custom is said to be related to the story of "Zhao Yan borrows her birthday" in the sixty-ninth chapter of the Romance of the Three Kingdoms.

Zhao Yanshou should be nineteen. By Guan Yu's divination, God decided to borrow his life. Xing Jun, who is in charge of life, added a nine-character in front of Zhao Yan's book of life and death, so that he could live to ninety-nine. There is also a saying that "do nine but don't do ten" because "nine" and "long" are homophonic and have enduring meaning, while "ten" is full of everything, and it will be damaged when it is full.

For rural people, the completion of a new house, marriage, birthdays and other things are all major events! There is a very traditional emphasis! And "men don't celebrate nine, women don't celebrate ten" is the rule of rural people's birthday.

Rural customs:

In rural areas, people often say: Grandpa's 70th, 80th and 90th birthdays, or Grandma's 79th and 89th birthdays, etc. And this means "men don't do nine, women don't do ten". Old men usually celebrate their birthdays in whole numbers, and some women celebrate their birthdays one year earlier, such as 69, 79, 89 and so on. Although they can't say why, the old people think that the ancients have always done this, which is auspicious.

As the saying goes: different winds in five miles, different customs in ten miles. There are also differences in customs and habits across the country. Some places advocate that "men should be nine". Because they think that "everything is full, and when it is full, it will lead to losses."

In their view, full means the end, which is unlucky for people who celebrate their birthdays. For example, someone 100 years old has to say that he is 99 years old. You say you are a hundred years old, but he will still be unhappy. So men in these places basically celebrate their birthdays one year in advance.