What if the boyfriend doesn't take responsibility? Marry a man who is irresponsible.

The topic of intimacy has been enduring since ancient times, and every family has its own problems.

Look at the man next door. After work, he goes home to cook and clean up the housework. What about you?

When I get home, I lie on the sofa, and instead of helping my children with their homework, I brush my mobile phone there myself.

I'm going to work, too Can't you share some for me?

How did I marry you blindly in the first place?

Over time, she became an "dissatisfied wife" like Xianglinsao.

When women start complaining, their partners dare not avoid it, while men can only attract more complaints from women.

Women look at men, but they can't do anything. Behind women's complaints is a demand, but few men can see this demand.

Psychologists have found through long-term observation and research that:

Human beings love to complain, probably because our ancestors cried loudly when threatened.

Man is an animal who likes to express himself.

We talk about things that interfere with us in order to seek help from others or organize forces to fight back.

Now we don't have to face the threat of the jungle world, but we have formed people who need others to listen to us well.

Therefore, women complain that this habit comes from our evolution and is difficult to change.

Let's go back to today's topic: What if a man has no responsibility and gives birth to a child?

Here, I would like to make two points. Many times, we will confuse things. A man's lack of responsibility and having a child are two different things. Most people always treat two things as one thing.

Before expressing the ethics and norms you require in intimate relationships to others, ask yourself a few more questions: Why?

Is this your own standard or someone else's standard?

Men don't take responsibility for two reasons.

1. I didn't learn what responsibility is in "Native House".

2. A strong partner will hide a man's responsibility.

If it is a question of a man's own family background, he needs to see this part himself. Growth is his personal business, and all you can do is to accompany him.

When your accusations appear, you subconsciously become each other's parents, and you stand in a higher position than each other, which leads to the imbalance of intimate relationship.

In intimate relationships, the relationship between the two sides is always equal.

Intimate relationship is unbalanced, and finally it may be parting ways. It is an iron law that an unbalanced partnership cannot last long.

If the other person has tried to share family responsibilities with you, and you are disappointed with your partner's efforts and feel that the other person can't do anything well, then this is the part you need to adjust.

In the relationship between men and women, what men need is encouragement and encouragement.

Their self-esteem is too strong, and they can only relax their vigilance when they get home.

Men want to find a woman they admire and get inspiration from her.

If what you get from a woman is picky, then a man's child side will be aroused (even if he is already a big man), and he will either confront directly, escape or endure.

Two people who are dissatisfied with each other, like incompatible parts, toss and turn on the endless road of life and break up with a slight shock.

At that time, men sometimes break out, either having an affair or having their hearts in this family.

Children have never been a bond to maintain intimate relationships.

Married life is doomed to be too trivial and messy.

Kid! Kid! Kid!

Most people have always believed that children from divorced families must be suffering.

When the love between husband and wife can no longer continue, after countless struggles, some couples will eventually choose to divorce.

This idea is so ingrained that we never think about whether it is right or wrong.

Divorce itself will not bring problems to children.

Because for children, the growth of children needs a "good" relationship, not just a "good" relationship.

When children learn English gradually, they begin to realize that there is an important person missing in their lives: father (or mother).

At this time, no matter who the child's caregivers are, they are faced with this problem, telling the child what is a father and what is a mother? Where have you been?

Help children establish a sound concept of parents psychologically.

Remember: this is an important task for caregivers.

At this point, when telling your child, you must avoid saying something like the following:

"Your father (or mother) doesn't want us both!"

"He (she) is dead. Don't mention such cruel and heartless things in front of me! "

"He (she) went far away and never came back!"

"He (she) doesn't love you, so he won't come to see you!"

Parents should not belittle each other in front of their children and express their resentment.

For example, some mothers will say to their children, "Look, your father is nothing, that is, he doesn't care about anything, he just knows how to eat and he knows how to be lazy.

All these years, I have been supporting this family by myself ... "。

In this way, children will eventually get closer to one of their parents and hate one of them.

This situation is very common in real families.

Please remember: this is the time for children to establish their self-awareness, because of their parents' psychological concepts (what kind of people are my parents? ) is an important part of children's self-awareness!

Divorce always hurts children the most. If parents can't respect and belittle each other in front of their children, the children's hearts will be divided.

Get along in a different way. For the sake of the children, we are still a family.

The impact of divorce on children is from the impact of divorce on themselves to the impact on children.

In other words, the influence of divorce itself on children is 1, and the influence of peers on children is 10000 times of this base.

The role and image of parents are in each other's words, which directly affects the children's spiritual world.

An irresponsible person can be a good father to children.

A woman who complains about everything can be a good mother for her children.

For children, both sides are people that children like, but they don't have to wear colored glasses to see TA's parents.

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