What is the real reason why men don't like to go home?

There is a jingle: the man who comes home from work is poor; The man who comes home at 9 pm is an alcoholic; 12 The man who goes home is a goat; The man who comes home at 2 am is a gambler; A person who doesn't go home all night is haunted by ghosts. It can be seen that it is no accident that men don't go home from work or go home late. Among these men who don't go home, married men account for a large part. Is the outside world really that wonderful for men? Is life outside really that free? Do they have the heart to let their wives stay indoors every day and expect them to come back every night? Reason one: I don't go home for my friends, not because I have any extramarital affairs, but because I am loyal. As long as my friend shouts, I can't help but refuse. I have worked for so many years and made many friends from all walks of life. These people told me to play cards tonight, and those people told me to drink tomorrow night. I really don't have a few days at home in a year. I sometimes feel that such a day is wrong, but what can I do? Maybe not. I will feel empty and bored again. For this reason, my wife can't bear to leave me for a long time, and her son is hers. I am single now and don't want to go home after work. Reason 2: Because I'm a reporter, it's not surprising that I don't go home after work. But I don't usually go home as soon as I get off work, except for interviews and deadlines. Where does information come from in our work? Isn't this a way to fool Kan Kan with friends? After a long time, you won't have the habit of rushing home as soon as you get off work. Most of us are married, and some of us have children. To tell the truth, my wife couldn't stand it at first, but later she got used to it. You can't do it if you're not used to it. Who asked me to do this job? However, I have a principle that once I go home, I will never go out again. The third reason: endless social intercourse. My wife has threatened to divorce me several times because I am getting home late and less. Alas, I also have my own difficulties. As the saying goes, "people can't help themselves in the rivers and lakes." It's a good thing to be promoted to an official position last year, but it's not good here either. Our company is profitable, business is busy, and there will be more natural entertainment. Because I am the boss, I have to take part in many social activities. Just eating, karaoke, sauna. After a long time, it's boring. But as long as I am in office, I have to continue to socialize. As for my family, I have to try my best to appease them and resign myself to fate. Reason 4: I work in an office and don't go home after work, but it's not because of work. It's just, I don't know, I don't want to go back early. You see, if I go home first, I don't want to buy food and cook; Sitting on the sofa reading the newspaper will make your wife scold you again. Just say the work hasn't been finished yet, so go back later and let my wife cook all the meals at home. Wouldn't it be delicious to go back? In addition, there are many people who don't go home after work in our place. Everyone likes to play cards before going home. I just follow the crowd. Reason 5: Avoid marriage. My wife and I have been married for three years. I don't know when the original passion was gone. Going home from work, there is no communication, and neither of them talks much. In this way, prepare dinner silently, eat silently, she watches her TV silently, I read silently, and then sleep silently. I thought this situation might be better after having children, but she refused to have children, saying it would destroy her figure. I tried to communicate with her, but she always looked like she didn't care. After a few times, I was not interested. Slowly, I don't want to go home after work, because there is nothing at home that attracts me. I will find some friends outside to drink and chat, and then go back at three or four in the middle of the night, saving everything. Emotional message board men can't play "sick" —— An open letter to his wife: Recently, you are angry with me and have many opinions. Going out to play cards on weekends, you said I was depressed and idle; Occasionally invite friends to the disco in the bar at night to be "chic". You are afraid that I will get involved with the wrong woman and stop accusing me. On a sunny weekend, I suggest taking my children for a walk in the sunshine in the suburbs. You are too tired to start, and you often laugh at me for being "old and crazy" ... Wife, I want to tell you that it is not "illness" for men to play. Men love to play by nature, and occasionally playing cards, mahjong, drinking and jumping is not a "serious violation", but an occasional relaxation of mind and body. As for the woman problem that you are most worried about, hey, with our relationship of more than ten years, don't you know your husband's ethics in this respect? As a small civil servant, your husband is busy outside day and night, "making wedding clothes for others", and often feels depressed and bored. Only when I return to my friends and nature can I reveal my thoughts and feelings, act spontaneously, say what I want to say, do what I want to do, and even dare to scold those "dog officials" who never dare to scold at ordinary times ... This is my motivation and purpose of playing! You don't have to feel uneasy about it. To some extent, an adult is still a child. The more you don't let him play, the more he wants to play, even crazier ... because he thinks you interfere with his freedom and damage his self-esteem, he has a rebellious mentality. Don't you think? Because of your "accusation" and "interference", I often feel like a thief when I go out to play now, either I don't tell you or I am angry with you on purpose. Wouldn't this affect the relationship between husband and wife more? Wife, it is really not "sick" for men to play! Please be considerate. Your husband's expert comments that "not going home" is an escape. As the article says, it has become a quite common phenomenon for men not to go home in modern society. For friends, for work, for socializing, for avoiding housework, for avoiding marriage and so on. , has become a wonderful reason for those married men not to go home. In fact, in terms of most married men, the reason for not going home is just an excuse or an excuse, which is an escape from the responsibilities and obligations of marriage and family. This kind of escape, once it becomes a lifestyle of "not going home", will do harm to marriage, wife and even children. Men who pursue this "no-going-home" lifestyle can be summarized into the following three types: First, the conservative type. These men think that once they get married and start a family, it means success. In this way, you can go out to play as you like without having to fulfill your family responsibilities and obligations. They regard the family as a hotel where they can go in and out freely, ignoring the existence of emotional and psychological life such as marriage. Second, the workaholic type. Most of these men advocate "work first, career first", and they can ignore their families for work and career. Although this spirit is commendable, as a "safe haven" and a forward "gas station", the psychological "massage" function of modern families to reduce work pressure, improve work efficiency and improve physical and mental health is irreplaceable. Third, escape type. In the traditional gender role division model of "the man is the master and the woman is the master", the man (husband) mainly plays the social role, while the family role is mainly assumed by the woman (wife). Today, this situation is gradually changing. But for those "men and women" who still cling to male chauvinism, it is the best way to avoid housework and even marital obligations if they can't provoke them but can afford to hide them. Obviously, "not going home", as a lifestyle of some men, is not conducive to the sustained and healthy development of marriage and family, but also endangers the quality of marriage and the relationship between husband and wife. In fact, among those men who pursue the lifestyle of "not going home", most marriages are also in a dangerous state such as "hibernation" or red light. The lifestyle of "not going home" is self-evident for the lethality of marriage. Perhaps it is not entirely their responsibility for some men to choose the lifestyle of "not going home". The entertainment mentioned in the article-China's unique entertainment culture and the corresponding face view, also made those men fall into the dilemma of "not going home". Of course, for various reasons, there are also men who enjoy it, and corruption often occurs in the lifestyle of "not going home". These examples are not uncommon. In addition, it should be pointed out that there is a kind of "field effect" in any family, namely "tension" and "thrust". Warm family atmosphere and harmonious relationship between husband and wife are a kind of pulling force for both husband and wife. The lack of dynamic family atmosphere and the boring relationship between husband and wife are a kind of thrust for both husband and wife. From this point of view, some men choose the lifestyle of "not going home". As wives, should they also review themselves?