What do you mean "don't ask relatives"?

"Don't care about relatives" has two meanings:

1. alienated people do not participate in the affairs of close people.

2. Military or political tactics. Specifically, the forces of A, B, C or three or more countries form a family-based alliance of forces or camps with the same interests through marriage with one of them, so as to close the relationship and alienate the other party or parties in order to gain strength or protect themselves. In this sense, avoiding the literal meaning should be understood as that it is relatively difficult for the alienated (isolated) party to alienate (destroy) the two sides (marriage alliance) with relatively close relations.

From the third volume of Han Ying's Biography of Chinese Poetry in the Western Han Dynasty, "I am humble and don't ask for respect, and my relatives don't kiss." During the Warring States Period, Wei Wenhou wanted to choose a suitable prime minister, so he called Li Ke, a fortune teller, to the palace to hear whether to choose Wei or not, and asked him to divine for him and ask him for advice. Seeing his intention, Li Ke avoided talking about it and said, "I am humble and don't ask for respect, and I don't care about intimacy. As an outsider, I can't comment on this matter. "