What do you mean by three books and six rites?

Three Books and Six Rites are the traditional marriage etiquette in China. "Three Books" refers to the documents used in the process of "Six Rites", including appointment books, ceremony books and welcoming books. "Six Rites" refers to the whole marriage process from marriage proposal to marriage. "Six Rites" means accepting gifts, asking names, concubinage, accepting gifts, inviting parties and welcoming relatives.

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"Three Books" are documents used in the process of marriage, which can be said to be an effective written record to ensure marriage in ancient times. It means:

Letter of appointment: namely letter of appointment. When Naji (a man and a woman are engaged), the man's family gives the book to the woman's family.

Gift book: a document used for the ceremony, which lists the items and quantities of the ceremony.

Wedding book: that is, the document to marry the bride. It is the certificate that the man gave to the woman when he came in to greet the bride.

Six rites

"Six Rites" refers to the six rites in the process of marriage:

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When the children get married, the parents of the man's family ask the matchmaker to propose marriage to the found woman's family. When accepting gifts, the man's family needs to send about 30 kinds of auspicious gifts to the woman's family; The woman's family also asked the matchmaker about the man's family at this time. Marriage customs of ancient Han nationality. It is very popular in many parts of the country. The first of the "Six Rites". The man wants to marry the woman, and the man sends a matchmaker to the woman's house to propose marriage as a gift. After being accepted, please ask the matchmaker to formally accept the bride's "spouse selection ceremony". After preliminary discussion, if the woman is interested, the man sends a matchmaker to formally propose to the woman's family and carries a certain gift, so it is called. Goose is the only gift from Gunnar Chua Li. Acceptance is the beginning of all marriage procedures. The ceremony of accepting gifts in later generations basically follows the weekly system, while gifts have other provisions. Yi Li Shi's Faint Rites: "Faint Rites, Order to Receive Gifts. Use geese. " Zheng Xuan's Note: "If you want to marry him, you must first let the media know what you said, and then let him know what he said, and the woman allows it, and then let people accept it." Its gift is a goose. Later generations gradually added gifts. In the Ming Dynasty, Chen Yan and her gifts were in the hall. In Qing Dynasty, Chen Yi, a wedding guest, was invited into the palace, and the book was fatal. The person who presided over the ceremony received the book and sued the guests of the temple. The number of jewels collected by ordinary people is limited to four. [1] Customized at the beginning of Yongzheng, Han people get married, more than four items, limited to eight items of silk, satin and jewelry, and limited to ten items of food. Less than five years old, less than eight years old. Dual-use? There are only four boxes of silk and fruit. On the day of the official wedding, the official deacons were used, and 12 people carried lights and drums. Next to the official, there are eight people, with lights and drums. It is forbidden to waste money, and all officials and people are not allowed to use the gift cloud.

Q. Name

That is, after the woman's parents accept the proposal, the woman's family will bring her daughter's age to the man's family, so that men and women are right and good luck will be good. The second ceremony of "Six Rites" in the Western Zhou Dynasty. The ceremony of "asking the name" was first seen in Yili: "Marriage has six ceremonies, namely, accepting the gift, asking the name, taking a concubine, accepting the levy, inviting the party, and welcoming the relatives." He also said: "Ask the name: whoever asks the name will have good or bad luck." "Book of Rites Fang Zhu" also said: "If you ask your name, ask your mother's name." When asking names, use geese as gifts. "White Tiger Biography" Volume 4 "Marriage" said: "Take talents, ask names, take luck, invite parties, and greet the wedding with geese. Zheng Na said Meng Xuan, so there is no need for geese. "

After the ceremony, the man asked the matchmaker to ask the woman's name, date and time of birth, so that the man could ask whether he was married and whether it was good or bad. Or think that asking the name is the man's messenger asking the woman's birth mother's surname, so as to distinguish between true and false. The scope of the query after the name extends to family status, position, property, appearance, health and many other aspects. When you ask your name, you must bring a gift, usually a goose. Betel nut is often used as a gift for ethnic minorities in Hainan, Guangdong and southwest China. The woman's wedding card and the man's birthday were divined, and it was confirmed that they could get married before the Naji ceremony.

Marriage etiquette is the second of the six rites. In other words, the man sent a matchmaker to the woman's house to ask her name and birthday. After getting Geng Tie back, Buji folded his character. "Ceremony of the Soul": "What's your name, Bin Zhi Yan? Master Xu, guest admission. " Zheng Xuan's note: "Anyone who asks his name will have good or bad luck." Jia Gong Yan Shu: "If you ask your first name, ask your female surname."

Najib

(also known as Guo): After receiving the Geng Tie, it will be placed in front of the gods or ancestors to ask about good and bad luck, so as to make sure that the characters of the two sides do not conflict. After learning that there are no signs of contradiction between the two sides, they have initially agreed to get married.

Zheng Na

(also called gifts): that is, the man's family gives the letter of appointment and gifts to the woman's family. One month to two weeks before the wedding, the man's family will ask two or four female relatives (must be Quanfu) to make an appointment with the matchmaker and bring the bride price, gift money and dowry to the woman's family; At this point, the woman needs to return the gift. Conscription: Marriage custom of ancient Han nationality. It is very popular in many parts of the country. The fourth ceremony in the "Six Rites". Also known as "South City". That is, Naji, the male family, sends dowry to the female family. Confucius' Book of Rites Ying Da: "Those who take the levy also take money. Sign, into also. Hire money before getting married. " After this ceremony, the engagement was completely established. Marriage customs of ancient Han nationality. It is very popular in many parts of the country. The fourth ceremony in the "Six Rites". Also known as "South City". That is, Naji, the male family, sends dowry to the female family. Confucius' Book of Rites Ying Da: "Those who take the levy also take money. Sign, into also. Hire money before getting married. " After this ceremony, the engagement was completely established. Eleven notes in the Book of Jin: "In the eighth year of Taikang, a minister played: marriage, marriage, silk, knighthood, and Ma Eryi. Ministers gathered silks, added treasures and rode horses. The doctor is silk and Meng Xuan, plus sheep. " Gifts used in the Song Dynasty no longer follow Zhou Zhi, gold, silver, silk and silks, each according to its grade. The dowry in Ming Dynasty advocated frugality. "Thirty-one Records of the Ming Dynasty" official wedding: "Take the sign as a auspicious instrument, add a mysterious book, tie silk, write letters, and don't use geese." The ceremony follows the Song system: "The guest said: An official pays more attention to a couple and follows the ceremony. If you have money, don't shy away, dare to ask. " The person who presided over the wedding said, "An official should get a heavy gift, but some people dare not accept it." The guest should give a letter to the married person, and the married person should also give a letter. "In modern times, there is no name" Zheng Na ",but there is a gift, or it is combined with Nacai, or more called Nabi. 1920 yingshan county annals: "in ancient times, there were six weddings, namely, receiving gifts, asking names, receiving gifts, inviting parties and welcoming people. Today, we only use gifts and coins. "

Invitation date

(also called begging day): that is, the man chooses a good day to get married and obtains the consent of the woman.

Meet sb. in person

(or wedding banquet): On the wedding day, the groom in full dress will personally take the matchmaker, relatives and friends to the bride's house. Before the groom goes to the woman's house, he needs to go to the ancestral temple of the woman's house and then send the bride to the man's house in a sedan chair. After the ceremony of offering sacrifices to heaven, land and ancestors, the male family was sent to the bridal chamber.

Bride gift return

Bridal gift/gift (from the groom's house to the bride's house)

When recruiting, the man's family needs engagement money, gift money and bride price.

Among them: (even number-meaning "yes person")

A pile of gift cakes

Seafood (style and quantity depend on economic situation): Nostoc flagelliforme (required), abalone, oyster sauce, scallops, mushrooms, dried shrimps, squid, sea cucumber, shark's fin, fish belly, etc.

Three-animal chicken (two pairs) and pork (3-5 Jin): one piece is connected with two pieces, meaning "Qi Fei", fish (big fish or shad): two pairs of coconuts (meaning fishy): meaning coconuts and wine (four pieces).

Four fine fruits: dried longan, dried peach and flowers with shells produce fruits: that is, vigorous.

Tea, sesame: I wish my childless son an engagement mailbox (gift box): it contains two pairs of lotus seeds, lilies, green shoots, cypresses and coconuts, sesame seeds, red beans, mung beans, red dates, dried peaches and longan, as well as red bean ropes, gifts, decorative gold, dragon and phoenix candles and a pair of couplets.

return a salute

When the bride is married, the woman's family needs to return the gift, which mainly includes:

Tea-knotted lotus root, taro and pomegranate (one pair each) He Wei towel pants: meaning longevity and wealth shoes (one pair): meaning to go with the old cypress ginger tea fried muffin and then hire a golden coconut (if you accept one, the rest will go to the man's house): meaning Ichiro to the end.