Psychotherapy effect of reading picture book stories

I have heard the news that excellent couples are getting divorced, and I have a lot to say in my heart.

The picture book story "Move over" shared by Teacher Li Changlin last time.

We look forward to a vigorous love, and we look forward to a long marriage.

The giraffe and crocodile in the book are sweet lovers. They need a warm place to live like other lovers, so they moved to the crocodile's small house with a beautiful vision of a happy life. However, giraffes have many difficulties and many places are not suitable. Crocodiles consider the feelings of their loved ones, so they

Giraffe's big house, but there are also many difficulties for crocodiles. They all felt very painful. However, because of the existence of "love", they did not give up the pursuit of happiness, but actively tried to create a comfortable, warm and perfect home that suits them. Their home surprised everyone who saw it, marveled at its perfection, marveled at their nuances and marveled at the deep love it contained, and they lived happily in this harmonious home from then on.

When we can really understand the content of the story, we can feel the mutual concern and understanding between the crocodile and giraffe in the story, as well as the courage and creativity in the face of difficulties.

Maybe you can learn how to cooperate with your peers and find solutions to problems from life;

Understand that the possibility of husband and wife getting along and seeking common ground while reserving differences is created by themselves, and they will not unilaterally accuse each other and give up their efforts so soon;

All our premises are that we love each other, each other loves us and we care about each other.

It's just that the height, angle and position of the problem are different, and there may be different expressions. Sometimes the other party really can't understand at once, and we need to communicate more times.

Let go of your obsession, lower your expectations and demands on others, be grateful for what you have now, and be content. It will definitely be different.

Don't believe me, you can try. ...

After reading this picture book, it reminds me of bert hellinger, a German psychotherapist and founder of "family system arrangement". He once told the story of treating children's bed wetting:

"A father asked Hellinger how to stop his daughter from wetting the bed. Hellinger said that he could tell his daughter how happy he was when he married his mother. Don't take it seriously, just use some ordinary sentences and switch from other topics casually. Then tell her daughter a story that she is familiar with, such as the story of Little Red Riding Hood, but with a little change.

Little Red Riding Hood went to her grandmother's house. When she got there, she noticed that the roof was leaking and the door of the house was wet. So Little Red Riding Hood went into the storeroom and took some straw to block the hole. Later, the door will never get wet again. Then, she came into the room with a basket of sweets. Grandma was very happy to see her, and they played happily together. "

He found that it is a non-invasive and respectful way to talk with his daughter about bed wetting by telling stories, so that his little daughter will feel his respect and will not be wary of his intervention. She didn't give up or lose face. Father's behavior contains love. In a non-invasive and trusting space, some things can be changed without direct dialogue.

Isn't it amazing? There are indeed some things that we can't understand in the subconscious of adults and the world of children.

▲ Love is the answer to everything.

1

When communicating with people close to you, no matter what the other person says, don't jump to conclusions or criticize the absurdity.

2

Try to understand whether there is any emotion behind this "event"

three

Don't try to convince each other, use games or stories skillfully, heal your heart and give respect.