A man who helps his ex after breaking up (a man will still lend a helping hand when his ex is in trouble)

Speaking of previous roles, I think we all have some love experiences.

No matter how you part, be sincere when you are together.

But strangely, some people can still be honest friends with their predecessors after separation, while others insist that people who have loved can't be friends.

The reason for writing this article is simple. Several female friends around me asked me:

Are all boys scum?

Eating what's in the bowl, looking at what's in the pot, thinking about others?

When falling in love with me, I said how good my ex is and how good she is. You can talk to her.

A survey called "What do men think of their ex-girlfriends" was launched on the Internet, and the results showed tragically that more than half of men would hide the history of their ex-girlfriends, or even hide the fact that they still keep in touch with their ex-girlfriends.

More tragically, more than 10% of the men are here and their hearts are in Korea.

Psychologists have done experiments. They let the men who broke up look at the photos of their predecessors, let them recall the reasons for breaking up and scan their brains.

The results show that when they recall their ex, the part of the brain that is activated is consistent with the part of the body that is activated when they feel pain.

What does this mean?

It shows that falling in love is addictive, and the withdrawal reaction from the former will be very painful.

Some people say, "You can tell a person's character, especially a man, by his attitude towards his predecessor."

Others said: "People around us are so considerate, which is the last person's influence on ta." .

In fact, in love life, it is inevitable that there will be the shadow of the former, and there will be more or less contradictions. Now almost no one's emotional experience is blank, and no one is a blank sheet of paper for you to draw.

Men always mature later than women, and they will learn to cherish their feelings after a relationship, while women will learn to love themselves after a relationship.

So, when the incumbent comes to get back together with you, will you be willing?

According to the survey data, the probability of couples getting back together after breaking up is 82%, and the probability of getting back together is only 3%. In addition, 97% of people will break up again for the same reason as the first time.

Psychologically, obsession with one's predecessor is interpreted as a disguised conditioned reflex.

The love songs we have heard together, the roads we have traveled, the scenery we have seen, the food we have tasted, the topics we have talked about all night and so on. Once they appear, they will stimulate your subconscious memory of the past.

To some extent, "ex" must be a heartbreaking and beautiful existence in your memory.

Not only that, the "predecessor" may even become the master of your life background, because it also has a psychological nickname "unfinished event":

The hand you can't hold, the date you can't make, the wedding dress you haven't worn, the kiss and hug you can't give, the promise he didn't keep, and the "goodbye" you didn't say.

Yes, many men admit that they keep photos and text messages of their ex-girlfriends, keep in touch with their ex-girlfriends, and still lend a helping hand when their ex-girlfriends are in trouble, because subconsciously they feel that there are some traces of me on this person, and this particularity also makes men feel responsible for her.

Being "needed" can always inspire a man's desire for protection, let alone protecting his ex who had sex with him.

After all, they fell in love once and walked hand in hand on the road of life. Both people have each other's footprints in their lives.

People often say that if you find yourself thinking about your ex, it will probably destroy your existing relationship.

The predecessor is very attractive to the existing relationship.

If you can't forget your ex, let go of the present, because you can't do it when you still love your ex.

Respond to current efforts. In the love of modern people, most people no longer love only one person all their lives, but may fall in love with many people, each of whom may be true love.

On the emotional balance, it is always impossible to weigh accurately.

For those who can't let go of their predecessors, it seems that there is always a place for one person in their hearts. If he can't get out, neither can you.

You'd better not touch those who cling to their predecessors.

He is single-minded and affectionate, but that's not for you.

I read a sentence a long time ago to the effect that everyone who has loved so much has the ability to love again.

The role of predecessor has appeared in most people's lives.

A good ex teaches you love, and a bad ex makes you grow.

Everyone has a different attitude towards his predecessor:

Some people can still be friends after separation, and some people will die of old age all their lives.

Some people are obsessed with their predecessors, while others forget the Jianghu as soon as they turn around.

Speaking of the topic of ex, I have recited the last sentence countless times, and I must share it with you.

"The person who truly belongs to you will never miss it."

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