My mother-in-law tried every means to persuade my husband and I not to have a second child, saying that if we did, we wouldn't take it. What if I want to have a baby?

It's very simple, either bring your own second child without the intervention of the elderly, or wait until the economic conditions allow you to have a second child. Neither of them can do it, so we have to give up. Don't bother the old man any more, or it will be even more troublesome!

I am a second-born mother. When I didn't have a second child, I planned to have three. Since Bao Xiao was born, I have completely given up this idea, because having a second child is really tiring. There are two boys and girls in my family, one for two children, two for children and three for children. I am tired!

As the mother of two male treasures, I can understand your mother-in-law's feelings. Your mother-in-law tried every means to persuade you not to have children at home, and also mentioned that you can't bring them. This shows that your mother-in-law should bring up your big treasure, and it is estimated that her mother-in-law is still the main force with the baby.

You think your mother-in-law doesn't understand you. Her mother-in-law is anxious to have a second child. Your mother-in-law opposes your having a second child. She gave birth to two children of her own. You think your mother-in-law should fully support her. This is a very wrong concept.

Why does her mother-in-law object to her daughter-in-law having a second child?

First: it's too difficult to take care of children now.

In the past, the children of the older generation didn't have to take care of themselves. When they are full, they go to play together. Nowadays, children need to be accompanied wherever they go and try their best to coax them. Their self-care ability and independence are poor.

Second: the old man is too old to keep up with his physical strength and energy.

Children are too energetic, especially two children. Bringing them up is almost fatal. The endless fighting every day will make you exhausted.

When the elderly are over 60 years old, their physical strength will gradually decline and their energy will not keep up. Don't accuse the old man of not wanting to take one more child. If we reach the age of 60, we may not be as good as the elderly.

Third: if it is the old-fashioned way of raising children, the daughter-in-law will not feel the pain of raising children.

Widowed child-rearing, mother raising children alone, husband giving up regardless of being despised; Old-fashioned parenting, old people take care of children, expectant mothers and prospective fathers occasionally have children in Doby. In this case, the daughter-in-law has no idea how tired it is to take care of children!

My mother-in-law opposes having a second child. What should my daughter-in-law do?

There is nothing wrong with a daughter-in-law wanting a second child. You have the right to have children, but you can't force your mother-in-law to take care of them just because you want a second child. If you really want children, then you can ignore your mother-in-law's opinion, provided that you don't need her help when the child grows up.

1. If you resign yourself, you can take your child from 1 to the age of 3, and you can also cope with the noise and hard work of the next two children.

If you don't resign, you and your husband will prepare all the financial expenses for the child from birth to six years of primary school.

Since the child is born, it is necessary to raise it. If you are not prepared and rely on the elderly for everything, then I suggest you not to have children. Children are not to satisfy your desire to have a second child.

The desire to have a second child is beautiful, but the reality is cruel. I suggest you go to a family with a second child, especially a family with two boys. You will think differently.